I'm pregnant with our first child and me and DH were discussing where I'd give birth.
There is a smaller hospital quite close to us (10 min drive) which has a good maternity unit, alternatively there is a hospital around 40 mins away which is also good (city centre very large hospital).
This is where my AIBU comes in!
My husband's ex is a midwife at the local hospital! They have a child together, my step child. We do get on okay, she knows about the pregnancy even and has always been perfectly pleasant toward me. I'm not her hugest fan for a couple of reasons but all in all we rub along very well.
I've told DH there's no way I want to go there to give birth and want to go to the other hospital because of this. He thinks I'm being silly. She wouldn't be able to be my midwife anyway because of the connection (don't know how true that is but I'm sure she'd request not to be anyway!) so there's no big deal.
It doesn't matter to me though, I'm nervous as it is. The last thing I want is it playing on my mind that she will be there or whoever my midwife is ends up being her friend or something. It's a vulnerable time and I just don't want the stress of it.
It's not a big deal to go to the other hospital but is he right, would you find this silly or reason?
YABU - it doesn't matter.
YANBU - I'd hate it too and go somewhere else!
AIBU?
Is it petty or reasonable to not want to give birth in this hospital for this reason?
Nobabyno · 24/08/2022 16:41
Am I being unreasonable?
1071 votes. Final results.
POLLparietal · 24/08/2022 16:47
Go with the big one where you feel confident
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Greensleeves · 24/08/2022 17:08
What a needlessly unkind thing to post.
Toottooot · 24/08/2022 17:07
She’s probably also very friendly with midwives at both hospitals 🤷🏻♀️
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