To not want to say tea instead of dinner

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Grew up in the North west, child of the 80’s, teen of the 90’s
Working class dad, middle class mum, we grew up in a nice area. Mum always called ‘Dinners ready!’ Dad would call it tea, friends either called it dinner or tea, grandparents said dinner, then supper.
Anyway, as an adult and ever since, I just naturally say dinner, as in ‘What’s for dinner’ ‘Where are we going for dinner’
Ive no idea why, but when Dh says ‘What’s for tea?’ Or a friend will ask ‘Shall we take the kids out for tea?’ I just hate it 🤷🏻‍♀️Whyyyy 🤣🙈

I'm Irish and to us it's dinner. Tea is the hot stuff in a cup that you drink.

I didn't grow up in the UK and the use of "tea" for a meal initially caused me no end of confusion! I get it now though, obviously. No idea if this is correct of not, but I was always taught that dinner was your main meal, therefore interchangeable between lunch and supper, depending on when the larger meal was eaten. We mainly have our largest meal in the evening, and so it is generally called "dinner". If we had been out for lunch (in the good old days when we could afford that), and the evening meal was a small one, like cheese on toast, it was referred to as "supper". But I have no idea whether this is correct usage of the words, or just the way it was done in our house!

So who is asking you to say it? It feels like you got confused writing your op. Do you mean you don’t want others to say it?

Use both, though sometimes I call the evening meal 'The Evening Meal', with a pause. Wish I had a set of double doors to 'The Dining Room' that I could open.

But it's left in the pot to brew ..
It's regional, I also eat butties and like gravy on my chips .

I always use dinner to describe my main meal of the day which is usually the hot meal. Then I use lunch and tea to describe the smaller meal.
So on an average day I have breakfast, lunch then dinner, or I might have breakfast, dinner then tea.

Dinner is always eaten in the hall whereas tea can be taken in the conservatory or drawing room. There may not always be staff waiting on at tea but obviously you would need staff for dinner!

I don’t know anyone who owns a teapot! It’s a tea bag in a mug situation

YANBU to want to say Breakfast, lunch, dinner.

YABU to be upset with what other people say.

It’s just language. We have an astounding and amazing range of dialects in the U.K. Enjoy them. I love looking at how language has developed and changed over time. It’s really quite wonderful, and nothing to get tha knickers in a knot about!

Where I live supper is a snack, not necessarily just before bed, but definitely later in the evening. Maybe cheese and crackers in front of the telly or some toast when you get in from a night out, definitely not a full sit down meal.

Im with you op!

Whats for tea? Green tea 😅

but no one is saying you have to call it tea

You just have to wear them down OP. Keep saying dinner and eventually your DH will give up and call the evening meal dinner too. And obvs the midday meal lunch.

Worked for me!

They aren't the same thing IMO.

Dinner is dinner, tea or supper is a pre bedtime snack.

I've never said support and haven't said tea in years, it's just a bedtime snack in this house.

Nobody appears to be asking you to say ‘tea’. If it annoys you when other people say it, tough shit.

Ugh I hate "tea" instead of dinner too.

I also hate "ta" instead of thank you.

Me too!

Hmm. It at school we always had "school dinner" and "dinnertime" was when we had it and then played. So it's always been dinner and tea for me.

I'm in North Wales.

Dinner is hot lunch where I come from.
Lunch is cold lunch.
Tea is evening meal.
Supper is hot chocolate and toast.

I came on to write exactly that!! Thank you.
Simply cannot bear the sound of it.

YABU to say dinner unless it's formal. Evening meal otherwise is supper.

Goodness me. I am shocked. Doesn't everyone know that one has breakfast, dinner, high tea, and supper?

I usually have dinner in the evening. But if I had a big meal at lunchtime and just wanted something smaĺ in the evening I would call it tea. They're 2 totally different types of meals here in Dublin.
Supper is always a hot drink or snack before bed. No one here calls their evening meal supper.

I drink a pot of tea every morning. Usually a pot at lunch time if not going out.