To not want to say tea instead of dinner

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Grew up in the North west, child of the 80’s, teen of the 90’s
Working class dad, middle class mum, we grew up in a nice area. Mum always called ‘Dinners ready!’ Dad would call it tea, friends either called it dinner or tea, grandparents said dinner, then supper.
Anyway, as an adult and ever since, I just naturally say dinner, as in ‘What’s for dinner’ ‘Where are we going for dinner’
Ive no idea why, but when Dh says ‘What’s for tea?’ Or a friend will ask ‘Shall we take the kids out for tea?’ I just hate it 🤷🏻‍♀️Whyyyy 🤣🙈

Why do you need to say it?
Equally why does dh need to say dinner?
Can't you use both interchangeably at home? We do.

That's awful.

It should be barms.

I grew up in the North and dinner was always middle of the day (at school it was also dinners not lunches) and evening meal was tea. Over time I do now say lunch but evening meal at home is still tea.

@Miffee @Cheeselog 🤣Surely it’s barm/barm cake? That one I’m fully on board with

When I went to my grandparents, supper was later on, before bed…usually cheese on toast, a cup of cocoa etc

You say dinner and he can say tea. It doesn’t matter. You’re unreasonable to complain about what he says, and he’d be unreasonable to complain about what you say. But it doesn’t sound like he is complaining and asking you to change, so there’s no problem? It’s usually pretty clear from the context and if not, double check.

I use them interchangeably though I generally use tea for meals at home and dinner when going out

It's because High Tea was originally for children in our great grandparents time.
They ate earlier maybe at 4-5 then went to bed. High Tea was used to differentiate between afternoon tea which was sandwiches and cake, and the later meal for children.
The adults had dinner later on.
As I'm not a child I have dinner.

Depends on what we are eating ,it could be breakfast, lunch and dinner when we have the main meal last. Or it could be breakfast, dinner and tea when we have the main meal in the middle of the day.

MIL likes to tell us what an awful working class upbringing she had and then calls dinner supper. THAT annoys me!

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Bath
Bed

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I have northern and southern parents.
But - for me - the evening meal is never 'dinner'.
We live in SW, and DD is quite happy with 'dinner' being the evening.
She will say "what's for dinner" at 3pm. And I always think "we've already had it"

same here

I'll ask the kids "what do you want for tea"

but when tea is ready, I'll shout Dinners Ready

it's bonkers 😂

Same here.
I'm in Scotland.Not sure if it's a geographical thing.
When I was growing up it was breakfast,dinner then tea.

It's a regional thing for me it's breakfast, lunch and tea and the drink, tea is a brew .

From Staffordshire also and its breakfast, lunch and dinner here. Think its family specific rather than location. Since moving to Scotland for a few years I now totally confuse my family by calling dinner supper, but I think its cute :)

It's interchangeable in our house. And sometimes lunch is dinner too.

This really annoys me. Tea is a drink.

www.theritzlondon.com/dine-with-us/afternoon-tea/

www.fortnumandmason.com/media/fortnums/blogpost/pdf/REX_AFTERNOON_TEA_SUMMER_20220706_-_1PG.pdf

Do you march up & down Piccadilly with a placard saying "Tea is a drink! Down with this sort of thing!"?

Same.

I call it dinner if it's an actual, cooked meal. Otherwise, when I'm home late from work and just grabbing whatever there is to eat, it's tea.

Supper is biscuits & a cup of cocoa at bed time. Haven't had this since I was about 10 years old.

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Supper
Bath
Bed
😂

Well said! I’m not paying £67 for a drink!

I use both now, mostly dinner but sometimes it just doesn't sound right depending on the circumstances.

As a child it was always dinner and tea but then we pretty much always had a hot meal at lunch time (including school dinners) and then sandwiches at 'teatime'. I never eat that way round anymore, or vary rarely.

I use both, I've never really thought about it. Also North West.

We use both tea and dinner for evening meal and dinner and lunch for midday food, as it may just be a sandwich or it may be a roast. Always Lunch with the ladies though.
I cannot stand the word supper for some reason, isn't that the snack before bed?