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To think people on mumsnet are judgemental

54 replies

Crazycatlady28 · 22/08/2022 15:32

I used to love mumsnet and there used to great advice etc however it’s definitely changed. I wonder if anyone else feels the same?

I have posted a couple times in the past couple months and have had sceptical mumsnetters that will start saying I’m a troll or be angry at what I’ve posted - judgemental too. I’ve never posted anything negative or weird. One of my posts was about advice on my relationship particularly to do with my MIL it was an innocent post and I had a hound of mn go for me.

I can’t be the only one that doesn’t feel that comfortable to ask for advice on here anymore? I look through threads and see people ganging up on others. Not nice

OP posts:
sst1234 · 22/08/2022 18:36

It’s AIBU. The title is asking for judgement.

Not sure why it comes as a surprise when people pass judgement.

If you don’t want judgement, be sure to post an essay detailing your problem, with the full background, with metrics and data and make sure that the opposing side also does the same to give their side of the story. Then you may get a more balanced advice.

Caroffee · 22/08/2022 22:22

ComtesseDeSpair · 22/08/2022 16:15

Mostly, people will post here what a lot of people will be thinking about you in real life but not necessarily feel confident enough or want to bother with the fallout enough to tell those around them. There are lots of things I think about the dysfunctional relationships, parenting preferences and lifestyle of some acquaintances, which I generally can’t be bothered to voice to their faces and tend to just distance myself from them instead. If I saw similar situations posted here, and thus seeking a public response, I’m more likely to offer one.

This hits the nail on the head. You give advice on here that you want to give in real life but you don't because you'd be roped into the drama.

Marvellousmadness · 22/08/2022 22:34

Literally everyone in life is judgemental
Including you. As you are judging people on this forum for being too harsh
Yes people are very opinionated on yabu. But you are asking if you are U or not. So you are asking for trouble really

So many posts i see on yabu are rediculous to starr with. 85% of them can be solved by OP learning to stick up for herself/learns to communicate. Thats bugs the shit out of me sometimes.

Jred · 18/05/2023 19:49

There are loads of judgemental nasty people on mumsnet. It’s sad. Probably saying horrible things on here as no one actually likes them in real life 💁‍♀️

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