To be so annoyed that I can't work because of childcare

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Just that really. I'm desperate to get back to work. I have an interview and have a high chance of getting this job. But because of the shift patterns and a husband who works away, it looks like I won't be able to take it even if they offered it to me.
I have 3dc of various ages, two are in school, one is nearly 2, trying to find wrap around care for two is next to impossible.
It's just infuriating, all of it. I just want a job. We have no family nearby so no help in that department.
So I guess I'm ranting at what feels very unfair right now. It seems like everybody around me either has a DH that works normal hours, or family nearby to help.
Aibu to be so frustrated by it all? And how does everyone else do it?

Do you have to live in military housing?

Well one of you have to make the sacrifice, you both chose to have children, it's life
Work on getting experience in whatever you want to do in the future, it will pay dividends

It seems like everybody around me either has a DH that works normal hours, or family nearby to help.

My DP works very antisocial hours and shifts, lots of 6am starts, 9pm finishes, weekends and nights. We have zero family support. But my own job is a flexible 9-5 where I can work pretty much whatever hours I want so long as I do my weekly hours. I guess that's the difference - my own job is where the flexibility comes in. I couldn't also do shift work, because my DP does it too. Something has to give in your situation.

@jacks11
I think the 'well he'll just have to get another job then' posts are more intended to get the op to at least question why they both (her and her husband) seem to think this is entirely on her. There's not a sliver of a sign in any of her posts that her husband should even consider sacrificing any of his life and career; and in contrast it's an absolute given she has to sacrifice all/work around children.

A single parent with no childcare options as per the ops situation, wouldn't be able to be in the military. It's a massive luxury as a parent to be able to just get on with your career as if your children don't exist.

To me this is an absolute no brainer - if there's zero childcare options in your area, regardless of price, there's your own business sorted right there.

Unfortunately you’ll have to find a normal hour job or your DH will have to leave/ find a day job. I can’t remember what it’s called but if your kids are still very young, he can apply to not deploy for a bit but he will loose his X factor. So it might be a solution in the interim?

can you speak to your housing person and/or put two of the kids in the same bedroom so that you can get an au pair?

what do you do? Can you self employ and do flexible hours? What are your transferable skills?

Some of these replies are so fucking arrogant and ignorant, it’s unreal.

I think you should look at applying to become a child minder or teacher aide if you like kids. Or setting up a little business of your own. Your husband can’t just leave the military like people are suggesting and it’s clear you do want to work despite the posters who believe you’re just putting obstacles in the way. Some areas just have no childcare options, it’s ignorant to think otherwise. Good luck OP.

I have some family nearby, but they’re not reliable as they have their own things to deal with. Friends are too busy with their own lives.

Can you take a part time role in a school so you can save childcare costs which are often eye watering? School jobs are no walk in the park, but can be rewarding.