Winter baby.. summer baby!

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So I just wanted to ask people who have winter babies, if you could change it will you opt for a summer baby instead?
only asking cause my daughter is born in November and I’m planning her first bday but everything is kinda gloomy! Can’t have bouncy castle cause of rain, no barbecue cos if the weather! Having to look for a hall cos of the weather and the fact that it gets dark pretty earlier on!
anyway was planning to start trying again for no 2 in March but now I’m thinking maybe hold off till September so I have a summer baby.

am I being silly? Advise please x

I'm Feb born so understand the limited options but I had indoor play centres, halls with bouncy castles inside, bowling, laser quest, swim parties and even ice skating. I now have 4 children. 3 are spring / summer born and 1 is November. Nov is easier to plan because its always indoor. The other 3 require plan A and then B in case it still rains/its cold (NW UK based).

I had December (DS1 age 6) and October (DS2 age 2) babies.

We have celebrated in early Jan for DS1 (post covid), indoor activities for whole class like soft play/inflatables. Good points are usually most people are around and something to look forward to after Christmas. Family celebrates around the actual birthday and yes generally is indoors.

He gets invited to summer parties, both indoors and out. Some summer parties it’s been raining or its ‘too hot’, so you can’t guarantee it’ll be just right! Also gets invited to lots of indoor activity parties all year round such as halls with entertainers, bouncy castles, swimming, bowling, etc.

Suspect the class parties will only get smaller as he gets older, so I wouldn’t plan a non-winter baby for that reason only.

For our winter baby we just go somewhere warm to celebrate

Her birthday is in Jan so we tend to have a holiday every year around the date. Makes it so much easier

I'm midwinter and always had a winter indoors party but also a "no presents" outdoors party 6 months later in June. My mother loved parties! We also had space in our house for the winter party and a great park nearby for the summer one. (I was born before parties took place anywhere more exotic than a village hall or church room.)

I have 3 born in March and one in may, my own birthdays in October and I don’t remembering being upset about it growing up so maybe this is more about how you feel? Loads of kids wish they had a Xmas birthday (I don’t know why!) and my son is jealous mine is in October because he loves Halloween. I think you’re over thinking this.

I don't think it makes any difference. Young kids invariably want soft play or a party with an entertainer (we did this and none of our local village halls have gardens or outside spaces to use so a glorious day in July was spent inside for the party) and even sporty themed parties we've been to have made use of indoor, air conned spaces over summer. My birthday is in winter and I had loads of fun parties - ice skating, swimming, roller discos, rock climbing, cinema and pizza trips. I think the only thing ruled out is a BBQ in the garden really, and personally I never wanted that and have never been to a party like that in summer for my DC.

My summer born birthday is in the summer holiday. As is mine. Everyone is away for you birthday.
My dh is 29th December Everyone forgets or is skint.
My spring born is normally OK unless her party falls in bank holiday Weekend then Everyone is away again.
You really can't win

You can't guarantee you will conceive straight away. It might take you 6 months. I conceived straight away with my first 2, and my 3rd took 5 months. If I'd tried to plan it for times of the year, I'd be screwed. I used all the ovulation tests, planned everything, etc

Dont be silly

Just be grateful if you have a happy healthy baby

Hi guys,

thanks for all your inputs!
obviously I can’t predict actually getting pregnant but could try..
I totally get what everyone is saying, I just wanted some views from people who are winter babies if this ever got them abit gloomy or not but it seems it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. I am a July baby so I have obviously over thought this.

thanks everyone think I’ll just go for it xx

I deliberately tried and concieved an autumn born child as it would allow them to be one of the eldest in the school year and the weather is still nice for birthdays too.

My birthday is near Christmas, so is DH's. We don't know any different. When I was a child I assumed everyone had their Christmas tree up on their birthday.

I have had late feb, early April and early September.

I loved the early autumn crunchy leaf walks with the pram and snuggling under a blanket (between colic!) on dark cold mornings instead of being at work when ds1 was tiny. I did not, not at all enjoy being heavily pregnant during a heat wave that summer or birthing in a boiling hot hospital.

Late feb was lovely for their first Christmas, dc3 had started walking early at 9 months so was toddling about for Christmas day.

April was quite refreshing light days helped my mood and getting out more. Weather-wise was perfect temperature just as we emerged out of the newborn fug the weather was warm perfect for picnics and beach days. Pregnancy over winter was perfect for myself I could layer up or not and pig out at home.

Now they're all older - birthdays don't really matter softplays usually for ks1/2/3 all indoors - late feb birthday we've celebrated in March at cbeebies (out of season - cheaper!) Or little breaks away usually same price as a softplay party.

Anyways I'll get to my point no matter the month or season they all have their pros and cons ! Best of luck OP.

Dont try in march because dec is the worst month for a birthday! April / may / june i think is ideal. Its usually miserable on my august birthday!

My birthday is in February and I never wanted a summer birthday, in fact I always thought summer birthdays were a bit crap for kids because it’s difficult to arrange things over the holidays with friends going away etc - much easier to hand out invites at school. As a child my parties and parties I went to were mostly in a hall (sometimes with an indoor bouncy castle), soft play, leisure centre, laser quest, bowling etc. I don’t think I ever went to an outdoor birthday party.

My daughter was born in late November and that’s the start of our festive season, and we love it.

I aimed to have the children as the eldest in the year, so if you're planning, reconsider the summer baby thing. You already see threads of people complaining about August babies either being the youngest or in another class and whatnot.

Birthday parties are a few hours of life. There are loads of fun indoor places. My kids have enjoyed climbing, bowling, skating, arcade parties etc. And the little kid parties only last a few years.

Anyway November is the best birthday because it's near bonfire night and it's literally the best time of year. Little kids don't like barbeques much. I mean, they could, but they miraculously decide they don't want to eat anything most of the time.

November baby older in the school year more confidence
summer baby opposite problem they only have parties for a few years!

It’s true most people don’t want summer babies for school reasons I wouldn’t want a summer baby if it was a choice, most parties I’ve known have been in soft play regardless of the month then when they are older my nephew use to have bowling parties or trampoline park, never been to a birthday bbq for a child (only adults) definitely being silly for a few hours a year.

We have one early Jan kiddo and a Dec one on the way. I love winter for birthdays! Lots of toys etc on sale for presents - most people are around because of Xmas as pps have said - also from the pregnancy point of view with the warmer weather we've been having... IMO it's a lot easier being at the end of your pregnancy in cold weather rather than being huge and extremely hot!

I have a July baby and a November baby. The summer baby is better for a couple reasons. Better distribution of gifts/toys throughout the year as we don’t do big spends throughout the year. Invite kids over for Birthday and send them outside to play and eat so less mess and noise.
Then again it’s not always possible to time things right. One of mine took 5 months to conceive and another it was first try.

Iv got a July baby and it's great, parties outside etc. I'm due in 2 weeks so will be a September baby which I'm also looking forward too.

I have a mid December one and parties are so limited! Every place I was looking at was only doing Christmas theme stuff so no parties.

If I could choose I’d definitely choose a June/July/August birthday.

A spring baby or late winter baby is perfect. My first was born April and second December.

April baby it was amazing, gave birth before it got too hot and then had summer months while doing the night feeds made it a lot easier. It was often getting light about 4am. Nicer weather for walks etc. everyone kept telling me what a lovely time to have a baby and it absolutely is. I think feb-apr wld be perfect for me.

Second was December and it was so so hard doing all the night feeds when it was pitch black all the time and cold. I was just exhausted. Cldnt get out for walks and generally just made me a bit depressed.