Page 2 | Winter baby.. summer baby!

Megang4 · 2022-08-18T12:55:30+00:00

So I just wanted to ask people who have winter babies, if you could change it will you opt for a summer baby instead? only asking cause my daughter is born in November and I’m planning her first bday but everything is kinda gloomy! Can’t have bouncy castle cause of rain, no barbecue cos if the weather! Having to look for a hall cos of the weather and the fact that it gets dark pretty earlier on! anyway was planning to start trying again for no 2 in March but now I’m thinking maybe hold off till September so I have a summer baby. am I being silly? Advise please x

TheTeddyBears · 18/08/2022 22:20

We not thing is u can't really choose what month ur baby is born. My first took 10 months to conceive second was only 2 months 🤷🏻‍♀️

Indoors party is fine anyway can't even plan for outdoors here in the summer it's just ur luck on the day!

Hankunamatata · 18/08/2022 22:22

Had a winter baby then actually did aim for summer baby with dc 2. It was much nicer being out and about after birth in summer. Only down side that they are youngest in school year but local lea just changed that you cam now defer summer born school for a year which is fab.

Twizbe · 18/08/2022 22:34

I did winter babies twice. I have a January one and a February one.

The plus points;

Heavily pregnant over winter which is good when I was my own central heating

Heavily pregnant at Christmas so a great excuse to sit on the sofa, eat and do nothing

Labour ward and birth centre were both deserted - helped they were both born at the weekend too.

The weather is improving as I felt more comfortable going out

They were older when the hot weather started so more durable lol

Nicely positioned in the school year

Negatives

Really the only one is how close to Xmas their birthdays are, but then my DH is also a Feb baby and I'm March so we're all within 2 months of each other.

In terms of birthdays, this year was the first year my eldest (the Jan baby) could have a proper party and due to covid cases we decided it was best to do it outside. We invited his friends to a park, had food and hot drinks for the adults. They loved it. Pre covid I'd have never done a park party in January but it worked really well.

Minikievs · 19/08/2022 05:25

I have one of each. Summer baby definitely easier for parties, present ideas, was a nicer mat leave. I didn't really notice any issues with being youngest in year vs oldest

FHmama · 19/08/2022 06:18

I have a July baby.

Struggled with the heatwave whilst 36+ weeks pregnant and also worried a lot about keeping my newborn cool when it was really hot too which added to lack of sleep etc

But I love it because his birthday will always fall in the summer holidays and (so far) has been nice enough weather to have a garden party/BBQ for his birthday

Personally if I was to have another I'd love a March/April or October baby

Quincythequince · 19/08/2022 06:22

Really OP? Really.

AllThatAndMore · 19/08/2022 06:23

I have two winter babies - a November and a February. I agree it’s a bit gloomy but it’s so hard to control when you get pregnant . My first pregnancy would have had me with a September baby, which would have been ideal , but I miscarried . My February baby was meant to be end of March ( a tiny bit better ) but he came earlier than we expected . So ya , there you go . No control .

Quincythequince · 19/08/2022 06:23

There’s a thread on here re being friends with certain starsigns, now one discussing when to have a child so it can have a good summer birthday party.

What on earth is happening to people?

Quincythequince · 19/08/2022 06:25

And FWIW mine are born in Nov, Dec (after Christmas) and March.

And not once has them being able to have a ‘good party’ ever featured because of agent they’re born. Ever.

If you think you can’t have fun in the winter, you seriously lack imagination.

SoSoSusan · 19/08/2022 06:27

I have winter (Jan) and Spring (April and May) babies.

By far the 'worst' has been April. It falls smack bang in the middle of the Easter holidays and once on Easter Sunday so far. His parties are always a pita, everyone is always away.

I imagine the summer holidays would be even worse so if we had a choice I'd try for a due date definitely not in July or Aug!

BigBunkers · 19/08/2022 06:30

FWIW it’s rained on my June baby’s birthday every year they’ve been here!

DashboardConfessional · 19/08/2022 06:36

If you want to sacrifice the potential advantages of being older in the school year on purpose so you can have a couple of nice birthday BBQs, you crack on. 😁

djdkdkddkek · 19/08/2022 06:37

I’m late November and my birthday has always been party time. Just before Christmas so everyone’s up for a night out. She’ll love her birthday if she loves a good time!

CrappyJob · 19/08/2022 06:38

My daughter's summer born friend was jealous of my DDs birthday - she didn't like having her birthday in the school holidays when people were away, so she never got a birthday celebration with all her friends there. She thought it was better to have a birthday in November.

I also think it was good for kids to have something to look forward to in winter, other than Christmas, as it is a bit grey and gloomy.

DangerouslyBored · 19/08/2022 06:45

I was more concerned with school and not being one of the youngest, so tried for an autumn baby, currently pregnant and due mid October. My happiest time of the year as I adore Halloween and the cosiness of late autumn.

I’m a summer baby and quite often friends wound be on holiday for parties. I also struggled at primary school. An autumn birthday was by far my preference for my baby. I avoided December for obvious reasons as well as Jan and Feb as I find those months quite bleak.

Caspianberg · 19/08/2022 06:47

Ds is May. It was sunny and lovely every day apart from his birthday. We had a few people over and it was lovely indoors.

Blankspace35 · 19/08/2022 06:58

I have a december baby and an august baby, for our December birthday i always make sure the house is decorated before her birthday and she loves having her birthday presents under the christmas tree. We go for a christmas light event locally on the day as well. Our august birthday loves having a summer birthday as he will never have to be at school on his birthday . We dont tend to do parties normally take them our somewhere for the day they want to go to

cadburyegg · 19/08/2022 07:24

Mine were born in February and March - the inability to have an outdoor party is really the only disadvantage. Advantages are that they're midway in the school year, it's nice to have something to look forward to and plan after Christmas, being heavily pregnant in winter wasn't too bad.

We have had soft play parties and ones in village halls. All good.

I'm an august baby and a lot of the time people were away for my birthday. Plus I did struggle with being the youngest in the year.

DS1 went to a party last week that was indoors despite being august. Tbh I was glad it was, I was fed up of spending time outside in the heat! I think I've been to one outdoor party.

cadburyegg · 19/08/2022 07:26

I agree that you can't plan it either - with DS1 I took 6 months to fall pregnant. I got pregnant quickly second time round with an October due date, but miscarried.

Igmum · 19/08/2022 07:38

DD is a July baby and I always hired somewhere inside for her party - one year the rain and mud were like the Somme so I don't think we would have had many takers for an outside event! Remember that summer babies have massive educational disadvantages OP. I'd go for November every time if I were you.

Titsflyingsouth · 19/08/2022 07:43

My DS is Jan born.

Birthdays etc are a pain for all the reasons you describe. Parties tend to be expensive because we have to hire soft play or some equivalent. But my friend has an August baby and her kid has had really miserable birthdays because all her friends have declined invitations as they've been away on holiday....

To be honest, you get what you get. It's a small inconvenience to have our wonderful son....

ReeseWitherfork · 19/08/2022 07:57

Sure, you can’t pick when to have a baby but you can pick when to not have one. You may indeed get desperate in the end and not care about when you conceive but let’s hope you don’t end up in that situation for far more obvious reasons. DH has a January birthday and he hates it, and he’s not even a “celebrate” person generally. I’d have personally avoided Jan (maybe Feb?) for that reason. (And luckily did, all spring/summer here.)

AppleBottomRats · 19/08/2022 09:27

DangerouslyBored · 19/08/2022 06:45

I was more concerned with school and not being one of the youngest, so tried for an autumn baby, currently pregnant and due mid October. My happiest time of the year as I adore Halloween and the cosiness of late autumn.

I’m a summer baby and quite often friends wound be on holiday for parties. I also struggled at primary school. An autumn birthday was by far my preference for my baby. I avoided December for obvious reasons as well as Jan and Feb as I find those months quite bleak.

I think summer born people tend to find jan/feb bleaker - my DP does as well. I don’t, because I have my birthday to look forward to and I string it out as much as possible 😁

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/08/2022 10:29

You are being a bit silly I’m afraid! Both my kids and I have winter birthdays (Nov and Feb), as do both of my siblings. Not gloomy at all! In fact it’s nice to have something to celebrate in winter months.

A one year old won’t enjoy a bouncy castle anyway.

Personally I preferred a small first birthday party at home with immediate family, maybe a couple of other parents and babies, but nothing fancy required. Or hire a pub room whilst they’re still not mobile and you can.

Most people who aim for a specific time aim for autumn / winter so they’re older in their school class, if anything. I didn’t particularly time mine as it took a while to conceive both times.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/08/2022 10:31

Feel I should add that my brother who is 2nd Jan hated it as it’s about the most miserable day of the year to have a birthday.

But a Feb baby is lovely - gives everyone something to look forward to during that long stretch with otherwise nothing much.