To think with no remaining Fallopian tubes a uterus should pipe the hell down.

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Had my second ectopic pregnancy in June and my last tube removed (Rightie went with a bang in 2018).

Am I not right in thinking that with no tubes and no remaining purpose, my uterus should just pipe the hell down and leave me alone?

Instead, it’s gifting me with the most intense period pains I’ve had since the 90s, to the extent I found myself necking Calpol from the bottle at 4am (cosleeping miracle toddler, conceived between ectopics and other losses that I couldn’t risk disturbing by going for the proper painkillers).

I have so much to do today and I just want to curl up, rock and cry into my hot water bottle.

You are right. It is monumentally unfair.

I’d like to say something positive and encouraging but I totally agree with you - biology sucks and it isn’t fair!

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You have my sympathy. Glad you have your little miracle tjough.

Thanks guys. He is a bloody miracle. When I had the most recent surgery they commented that everything inside was stuck together. No idea how he/we got so lucky that he made it.

Not undermining your pain op (been period free since late 30's thank god) but had this awful feeling you were going to say you had been told too you couldn't have children so l was so pleased to hear you have got a little one already.

Hope the pain buggers off and leaves you alone very soon xx

YUIBU

Everything is stuck together in there? Are you sure its just cramping? Maybe book in with a Dr to check you over

Unfortunately it is your ovaries responsible for the hormone release that causes such symptoms. Have you discussed a mirena coil or progesterone implant with a gp/sexual health practitioner? These may benefit with period pain. I know you are not needing them for contraception but they have other uses also.

Hope you feel better soon x

Not insulating that the purpose of being a women is having children but I agree totally that without your tubes continuing to menstrate is literally useless and a hysterectomy would reduce your pain plus risk of future issues ie cancer so it would have made more sence to have offered you that option at the point of your surgery

Bless you, it’s awful. I hope it passes quickly. Camomile tea does genuinely help for short periods if you can ignore the fact it smells like cat pee 🤢 I used to just hold my nose.

Unless the OP would like a further child. She can still do IVF I believe, although might need surgery first if it is endemitriosis sticking stuff in the uterus together too.

Hopefully it's a one off awful period month and next month will be better. If not, do get back to the doctor to get checked out.

Hi OP,
Firstly I'm so sorry for your losses.

I can empathise, I had a salpingectomy in June and lost Rightie (plus washout of pelvic abscess) . The pain since has been horrendous, much worse than anything I've ever experienced. Like you I've been told that everything is stuck together in there plus there are now adhesions to contend with. So perhaps the cramps are just (I say "just" I don't mean it as lighthearted as it sounds) your body healing post-op and hopefully it will settle down in time.

I really hope the pain settles down for you soon.

I've found the double strength ibuprofen behind the counter at chemists are sometimes all that numb my period pains ( mild endo, adhesions) you can also buy them online too a bit cheaper.
I also use a microwaveable wheatbag to the point of practically burning myself because it's better to feel that than the cramps!

Have you got endometriosis??? Sounds like it from the pain and everything stuck together. You poor thing.

I had worse periods after both tubes are removed - no idea why.

Ibuprofen/codeine from Boots is very very good

Ah thanks.

To answer some questions: yup, got endo. And adhesions, probably some new ones too. And fibroids. And adenomyosis. Had fun googling “Pouch of Douglas obliterated” from my notes.

Unfortunately IVF isn’t an option for me, despite desperately wishing for a sibling.

I had several failed rounds in my late 30s (miracle baby was natural!) and was always a poor responder at that point. Spent £25k.

Now in my early 40s the statistics for my clinic with own eggs are something like 2% live birth rate, and that’s for women without my godawful gynae history and recurrent miscarriages.

The stress of failed IVF was worse than the rupture that nearly killed me tbh, so it’s not an option for us now.

But when I think of the short period of time I thought we’d defied ALL the odds to get pregnant again… well, I can’t think of it.

Except now when I’m in pain when I should be 19 weeks gone, and crying into my hot water bottle.

I know I need to get over myself because I really did win the lottery (metaphorically, skint!) with miracle baby. And having one is one more than I EVER believed I’d have.

You don't have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps because of your miracle boy (although its wonderful you have him). You've been through and are still going through A LOT and it's absolutely fine to be sad about it. Period pains suck even at the best of times, but particularly cruel in your circs. You have a bloody good cry if you want to <3

Okay that’s set me off 😭 I needed it. Thanks @MaybeIWillFuckOffThen 💜

Massive hug.

Yes! I also had 2 ectopics and both tubes removed.

OFF SWITCH PLEASE!!! It's dreadfully unfair.

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Im sorry for your losses and your pains. 💔💐💔💐

I had an ectopic pregnancy last year, lost my right tube.
The pain when ovulating was so awful I ended up needing morphine & codeine. It was horrific. I'm on the mini pill now. I am to scared to attempt another pregancy because losing my baby was horrific. I wanted them so so much.
I'm really lucky, I have 3 kids. But the pill has been incredible for me, I'm so much happier on it also!
Snuggles with your miracle boy and hot water bottles for you!

Echoing the above point that it is still okay to mourn even if you do have a gorgeous miracle next you.
I too have Endo and Adneomyosis. My losses are still missed and would 5 and 6 now. Lots of hugs to you.

No kids here, now 50 😱 and over the last 18m it's been absolute hell - just to warn you that things don't necessarily get better as you get older. Sort it all out now.

See your GP. Don't put up with this shit, not with your lovely boy to chase after/build lego with

I think all uteruses should pipe the hell down! 40ish years of periods for in my case 1 child doesn’t seem very efficient!