To just want to be left the fuck alone.

[LeaveMeAloneeee]

I'm being a moody cow, I 100% accept it. I'm on my period which since our baby was born have been absolutely horrid.

It started today and I've got such bad craps all at the top of my legs and across my tummy. I'm tired, feeling sorry for myself and just want to chill out by myself.

Regardless I always try my absolute best to never take this out on anyone by being moody toward them. What I tend to do is just go a bit quiet and need a bit of space for a day or so until the worst is over, then I perk up.

Tonight I really just want to be alone. I don't want to have a conversation, I just watch to watch my show and sit down.

Anyway... DSS is here tonight (absolutely fine obviously!) And he and DH are watching a film in the living room. And DH won't just fucking let me be. I've obviously said hello and done a bit of general chatter but I've taken myself off into the dining room (have a little sofa in here) and have put my feet up with my headphones on to watch Netflix whilst they sit and watch a film (can see the dining room from the living room as it's joined)

DH keeps pestering me 'watch the film with us, talk to us, come spend time with us, snap out of it' blah blah blah. Just leave me ALONE. I just don't have the mental energy right now to chat, I just want some fucking space.

I can't go in my room because baby is asleep in there otherwise I would.

AIBU to expect DH to just accept I'm feeling not the best and leave me alone for a bit. Surely it's fine to just want some fucking space every now and then.

Cramps not craps 😂😂😂

Tell him to leave you the fuck alone

I have I just keep getting 'aww come on, come join us, don't be awkward, snap out of it blah blah'.

Go awayyyyyyyy

tell them it’s craps and they might leave you alone 🎉

yanbu.

Is your DH normally okay spending time with his son or are you normally the one there driving conversation etc?
there is nothing wrong with wanting some time on your own and you shouldn’t have to fight for it

He’s not a mind reader, so stop expecting him to be. Tell him to leave you alone.

No he's fine. He just has some idea that we need to be the fucking Brady bunch or something every time he's here.

Just go in and say "sorry, I'm having an awful period and i don't want to be around people" and then go elsewhere.

I have!

How old is your DSS? Old enough to cope with a conversation-terminating accurate description of your current woes? If yes, do that.

I get it I like space too sometimes but he's just trying to be nice and wants to spend time with you. You'd prob be annoyed if he let you be..
I'm always on my phone with headphones in the bed when my little one sleeps you could always try that if youre that desperate to get away...

Well you're obviously not that moody because I'd have told him to fuck off and leave me alone by now. Haven't you told him youre feeling unwell? Sounds irritating at the best of times never mind when you have PMT

Id not be annoyed if he let me be. That's what I want!

He even said to me the other day that it's really hard for him having to 'deal' with me being withdrawn for a few days every month. Like are you joking?! Try being the one going through it!

DH used to do this when DSC came around; whereas we’d normally potter about happily doing things separately and together in the evening, he’d expect us all to sit down for movie night (while they sat on their phones) as soon as they came over every time.

DSC were actually happier having DH to themselves, he just wanted me there to keep the conversation going, as two teenagers can be hard company.

It’s because his son is there: it looks like you’re avoiding him/sulking. Hand on heart, does this happen a lot when your stepson is round?

No it genuinely doesn't. It just so happens that DSS is here when I'm not feeling great. I'm acting the same way I would if he wasn't here.

I agree, I don’t even have periods any more and he would irritate me with his nagging.

Op said hi, step son can see her/go to her if he wants, everyone is (trying to) enjoy a film why does it matter it’s not the exact same film on the same tv!

But yes I agree that's why he's pestering me. He thinks it looks like I'm avoiding DSS.

I'd be really annoyed at being told to 'snap out of it'. Patronising git. You've told him how you feel, he should leave you alone.

It happens about once a month for most women of childbearing age regardless of which relatives of their husband’s are in the vicinity at the time. Why does it ‘look like she’s avoiding him’ as opposed to ‘looking like she’s ill’ which is what it is?

I am the same OP, just like to be left well alone. Hopefully your DH will take the hint...

Have you said:

‘look, I’m in agony with a post partum period.

I’m bleeding heavily and my uterus is inflamed, contracting and horrendous.

I’m trying to cope with the pain and the fact that it makes me feel rubbish.
Why do you think mithering me when I’m in such a state is a good thing to do?
Why are you being a dick telling me to ‘snap out of it’?
If I could do that then I’d be a miracle worker as that is NOT possible.

Do you want me to describe the clots I’m losing in great detail? Shall I tell you how the pain makes me feel?’

Your H should be coming over offering you painkillers/drinks/whatever helps.

Showing empathy and caring for a woman/girl who’s struggling in pain with her periods is a vital lesson fathers need to teach their sons. What example is he setting DSS by being such a thoughtless twat? 😡

Hope you manage some therapeutic solace @LeaveMeAloneeee 💐

Tell him you will explain to his son you have really bad period cramps so don’t want to be with anyone, but dads forcing you if he doesn’t fuck off to the far side of fuck

Talk about your period pain in graphic detail and loudly. Trust me, they'll both leave you alone.