My bf and I have been dating for a couple of months. A couple of weeks ago I had a bruise on my upper thigh which he immediately assumed was a hickey. We were not exclusive at the time but it wasn’t a hickey. He has been losing sleep over it, unable to work sometimes, having panic attacks, needing constant reassurance from me to the point where we’ve argued quite a bit over it. He has hammered home the point that he really needs to feel safe and secure and he’s struggling to do that with me because of this. He’s not possessive or controlling in any other way when it comes to men.
Up until about 2 weeks ago he was still in contact with his ex fiance. I wasn’t crazy about the idea idea but I didn’t ask him to cut contact or anything - not my place. We’ve moved together and the place he proposed to his fiancé to is right down the street from us. He has been insisting we go there almost daily, has said it’s his favourite place in the whole world and was upset when I said I didn’t really like it. I didn’t know this until I saw a Facebook memory pop up of the day of their engagement. I’m really upset that he didn’t tell me, it’s something I would have given him a heads up about but I also know sometimes I can overreact so I’d just like an outsiders perspective.