Sign up for a gym without asking partner

[fifteenohfour]

So I have once before signed up for a gym, that was a CONTRACT. I was walking passed a gym a fit fella walked out and offered me a deal, It sounded good, so I joined (anytime fitness) it was a contract for 12 months £28 a month and I never went. At the time my wife and I were so skint and it was a complete waste of money and my wife was fuming (rightly so) everytime the money came out. And to this day she still brings it up and how I can't be trusted with money.

Fast forward 4 years and we are much much better off financially and I now have about £100 disposable income after mortgage and bills everything comes out. A new gym is opening up near me with a NO CONTRACT cancel anytime offer of £15 a month for the first 6 months then £30 there after, still no contract after 6 months.

I have been taking saxenda and really seeing a lot of weight loss, I want to increase it by getting fitter through the gym and doing the classes and using walking machines etc .

I asked my wife and she flat out said no, it's another one of my 'new diet new me' promises and that it's a waste of money I'll use it for a week and then stop. She said that she doesn't care if it's no contract she doesn't trust me, and any "disposable income" needs to go in savings.

I feel like joining anyway. It's no contract and I can prove her wrong! I can make the most of it lose weight and then cancel in 6 months when the £15 offer runs out.

What would you? Ignore and join or respect the no decision due to your past behaviour.

If she's spending 100 quid a month on coffees and lunches and you have 100 to spend on yourself it's none of her business where its spent.
Join the gym

You could save the money do something free to start with, you could download couch to 5k to start running, lots of stuff on YouTube to get you started.

Actually just saw your post about her buying lunches every day, that's a huge waste of money as well so you'd be justified in joining a gym. Just make sure you go!

I think it’s terribly outdated to say you don’t do weights to lose weight or you’d be better off with cardio. I joined a gym as a size 18 to get healthier and lose weight and my PT sessions are primarily weight based. A lot of the cheaper gyms don’t give programmes though so that can be a bit daunting. I think you should join and prove your wife wrong. Good luck.

I would never ever want to be in a relationship like that. What would I do? Get a divorce and do what I wanted with my money.

These women who control every penny their husband spends claiming it’s ‘family’ money but they go out to endless coffee mornings just to slag off the man paying for it! You earn it, spend it on what you want.

It's your money, do what you want with it, I couldn't and wouldn't live like that, she is being very controlling

Tell the wife you are signing up for a month.

If you don’t go 4 times in one month you cancel and owe the wife as a bet £100 or all your monthly expendable income for the following month. If you do it. - she pays for that first month.

is that enough incentive?

if you go you can continue your membership each month. If your membership drops below 4 times a month you must stop the membership.

She sounds too controlling with money. Why can't you choose what to spend your money on, regardless of whether she feels it is a good use of it or not?!

Perhaps show commitment by starting walking every lunch for 20 mins, do that for a month and find a specific class you fancy and add that on, give it a month. Then swap out a walk for a gym session. If after 3 months you're not going twice a week, you cancel.

No way would I allow anyone to dictate what I spend my money on.
As long as bills are paid, along with agreed amount to saving etc, then it’s none of her business.

I can’t imagine if a woman posted saying her husband wouldn’t allow her to spend her own money on a gym membership, anyone’s advice her would be to tell her to show him her ‘commitment’.
It would be to LTB, along with links about financial abuse.