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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To not go to this?

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Charliehi · 13/08/2022 17:28

So DH is being a god father to a baby I have never met tomorrow, I have never met the parents either but they are close friends of DH’s through work. We have just got back from holiday and I have so much to do, also DD (5) wants to go for a sleepover at her grand instead. AIBU to let DH go on his own? Don’t fancy taking my 1 year old either.

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TemperTrap · 13/08/2022 18:42

Beelezebub · 13/08/2022 18:17

Excuse me? They’ve said they don’t know how he puts up with you?!

I wouldn’t be going anyway, but I wouldn’t be guilted into going to watch him be a godparent to the baby of a work colleague he doesn’t see outside of work but sees fit to discuss my marriage in enough detail they make that kind of comment.

He's well within his rights to talk to his friends and get advice. I've certainly said some stuff at times about friend's partners. Usually deserved.

He's a fucking idiot for going back and telling the OP though, what's wrong with him!

category12 · 13/08/2022 18:42

ofwarren · 13/08/2022 18:13

I wouldn't expect my DH to turn up to my extended family occasions. I don't go to most of them either.

Not a chance I would be attending a christening for people I do not know.

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How would you ever get to know them, then? If you've never met people from your partner's life but refuse to go events that would allow you to meet them.

It's pretty normal to be interested in the people your partner is fond of and to broaden your social circle by getting to know them.

Riapia · 13/08/2022 18:42

Charliehi · 13/08/2022 18:08

I’m going to go 😊

Please don’t let him know you have been shamed into it by people on MN.

Lindasllama · 13/08/2022 18:43

simpledeer · 13/08/2022 17:35

I don't go places I don't want to go.

There's another thread about couples who have to do everything together - I find it really weird.

Hmm .. maybe because they are a couple who like each other and want to spend time together ?

Also .. very unfashionable I know .. but a little word called 'compromise ' and put yourself out to please your partner ?

Has worked for me and DH over the last 47 years.

LIZS · 13/08/2022 18:45

Can you not go then go to gps? Or not take the dc. Is it being catered to numbers? Surely if they are close enough friends for dh to be a godfather it might be nice to have friends with children close in age long term,

ofwarren · 13/08/2022 18:58

category12 · 13/08/2022 18:42

How would you ever get to know them, then? If you've never met people from your partner's life but refuse to go events that would allow you to meet them.

It's pretty normal to be interested in the people your partner is fond of and to broaden your social circle by getting to know them.

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You are presuming that I would WANT to get to know them?
I'm autistic and trust me, I really really don't.
He is totally fine with that.

treesandweeds · 13/08/2022 19:16

I'd find it weird that they've asked your dh to be godfather but they've never even met you!

category12 · 13/08/2022 19:21

ofwarren · 13/08/2022 18:58

You are presuming that I would WANT to get to know them?
I'm autistic and trust me, I really really don't.
He is totally fine with that.

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OK, but OP's DH is not fine with it - he would like her company and for her to meet these people. He's not forcing her, but he would like it if she would go. And OP's reason was not because she was autistic.

PollyRockets · 13/08/2022 19:41

@ofwarren

You don't say...

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