This is not about them money I won’t be asking for a refund and will still pay the rest of the money if she doesn’t go. But I have to decide this week if she goes so that the space can be offered up if she doesn’t.
DD is 8, it’s her first ever camp in October half term and is for 3 days/2 nights. Here the Rainbows don’t do them and the one she should have had in October last year was cancelled due to covid and nothing else arranged since. It’s not just DDs Brownies going another Brownies unit and the Guides are going so if she doesn’t go the space will be offered up and most likely filled (there’s 20-30 girls in each unit but only 50 places on camp).
DD has some SN and has always regressed at times. She has dyslexia and severe joint hypermobility syndrome, she’s also suspected dyspraxic. She has processing and memory issues, she can forget something two seconds after you say it, she can follow instructions but they need to be broken down a lot.
I’m not worried about her behaviour bar there being a 90% chance she’ll lose at least 1 item of clothing, she’s pretty well behaved. School have said they have no concerns about her around fire and she's always been fine with not touching a hot oven when at home so she's not likely to be a danger.
But she’s suddenly unable to do even the basics. As I said regression is normal during the big long summer but it’s almost like she’s regressed 4 years and is just about to start school, not just about to start Year 4.
She’s now unable to put on trousers; she gets both legs in one hole, she won’t allow me to help her gets upset and cries. She’s struggling with none laced shoes – as in she can’t even do up the tape or get them to stay on her feet. She can’t do buttons and never has been able to, she wanted a zip up hoodie on yesterday and couldn’t do the zip. She keeps losing things including her glasses which are kept in the same place usually but she keeps putting them down and forgetting where they are. She’s also falling over a lot more again when I thought we’d dealt with these issues.
I am of course going to try and contact the various people who’re involved with her care including the GP but the chances of being able to get any actual treatment before the camp is slim.
There is likely to be another camp around Easter but I won’t know for sure until around Christmas when they announce the calendar for 2023.
So AIBU to not send her? I feel guilty as she’s really excited about it but I don't know if I can consciously send her when she might make more work for the leaders.