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How far is too far for one night?

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birthdaywildlifefund · 10/08/2022 20:15

A friends hen do where the location was changed after I had confirmed I was going. It changes it from a 4 hour drive to a 6 hour drive. It’s just one night. I would really like to go but wondering if it’s worth it?! I can’t get extra time off work to travel closer the night before or make it a longer trip, plus can’t leave my DC for any longer.

No train station nearby so public transport/flight not an option.

I feel like lots of people would just make the effort and go? But would they really?

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MooFroo · 11/08/2022 08:41

Cost as well as time would be an issue for me

how much are you willing to spend on a hen do?

balalake · 11/08/2022 08:50

Politely decline. Too far in my opinion.

thenewduchessoflapland · 11/08/2022 09:53

It is a lot but it's a one off?

Why can't your DH look after the kids whilst you drive down the night before?

Essexgalttc · 11/08/2022 10:02

6 hours is too far from one night. I’d probably do 3 or maybe 4 for a hen do one off for 6 hours is a lot wether you have a DC at home or not.

My friend wanted to go 4 hour drive for her hen do but now she’s changed it to 1 hour distance instead as people said that’s too far for one night and they couldn’t drink

Ilovemycat1 · 11/08/2022 12:11

The more ridiculous the hen party the more ridiculous the divorce

Feeellostindirection · 11/08/2022 12:23

Nope,no way on earth

onelittlefrog · 11/08/2022 12:30

Around 3 hours maximum for a night for me. If it was a good friend and I really wanted to go I would just book another night (if I could afford it), otherwise wouldn't go.

birthdaywildlifefund · 11/08/2022 17:17

Thanks for opinions everyone.

I do regularly drive 4 hours to see family so not really a stranger to long distance, but it’s usually for 2 nights.

@thenewduchessoflapland my DP is working and won’t get home until the early hours Saturday morning. It’s this that has scuppered plans really as could have gone the night before!

@Ilovemycat1 i don’t think a 1 hour drive for most is a ridiculous hen do? It’s not the brides fault I moved so far away. I guess if it was in her city it would be much easier to get to though so I take your point!

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