How far is too far for one night?

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A friends hen do where the location was changed after I had confirmed I was going. It changes it from a 4 hour drive to a 6 hour drive. It’s just one night. I would really like to go but wondering if it’s worth it?! I can’t get extra time off work to travel closer the night before or make it a longer trip, plus can’t leave my DC for any longer.

No train station nearby so public transport/flight not an option.

I feel like lots of people would just make the effort and go? But would they really?

Also changed my vote as I got thought it was “YANBU that’s too far to drive”! I think quite a few people might have so don’t take the vote ratio too seriously!

No chance would I do that drive two days running. That’s basically driving to Cornwall and back from London. Jeez.

You can’t fly?

Maybe tell us the route and see if we can come up with a cunning plan.

Unless it’s essential for work or a health/family emergency I really don’t go further than 2.5/3hrs for 1 night.

Had ruled out flights as is a 1.5 hour drive from nearest airport in wrong direction to be picked up by other guests, and car hire seems to be expensive.

But actually now I’ve realised there is a station that is taxi distance I could fly——>train (still 2/3 trains 😂) ——>taxi/lift the last bit. Think I have a viable plan, just need to add up costs, if I can afford it I’ll go and if not then I will have to decline!

Not a bloody chance for one night!

6 hours … absolutely not.

fly and multiple trains for one night…… still a massive no.

Can you stay somewhere else the night before? Make more of a break of it

@bumpytrumpy can’t leave the DC until the Saturday morning 😕

My uni friends drive 7 , 8 or 9 hours up on Friday night back early Sunday morning.

I went to a hen do the other end of the country. Flight up Saturday morning, flight home Sunday eve. Rented a car at Gatwick to drive to Brighton. We were invited Friday night but we went for one night only to save money.

So either fly or just go Friday, stay all day Saturday and drive back Sunday.

Not for one night, I wouldn't and definitely not for a hen night

No way! Surely friend will understand.

No I couldnt be arsed with that at all

I probably wouldn’t for one night, no.
Are they honestly expecting you to? If I wanted every person to be there I’d not plan to do something that was so far away from even just one guest.
I would do if for maybe one person.
i had a three hour drive each way for a hen do a few years ago, there on the Saturday and back on the Sunday, that was okay and I took a few of the other girls too as they lived in my town, our friend had moved away and the girl organising had asked us secretly if we could make it and surprise her.
but 6 hours total driving is only half of what you’d be doing and I’m not sure I’d be keen unless it was an incredibly close special friend/relative.
I think you have a really valid reason to not attend!!

Also changed my vote as I got thought it was “YANBU that’s too far to drive”! I think quite a few people might have so don’t take the vote ratio too seriously!

This.
Changing the voting option part way through the thread will have confused lots of people.
Not everyone realises you can change your vote and others probably cba.

No, I wouldn't drive that for a hen do.

No I wouldn't.

If it's changed from the original plans I doubt you were considered much in the choice of somewhere new.

I drove 4 hours for a weekend away once, left Friday and back Sunday, it wasn't that bad but wouldn't do 6 hours no way.

Would avoid driving 6 hours to a holiday destination for a week too!

Three hours' driving in a day is the absolute limit as far as I'm concerned.

I do a lot of long distance driving for work & this would be a no from me!

You'll be exhausted.

Train - yes.

It depends on how much you want to go.

I'm doing a 12h drive (Canada) to a friends wedding, speeding one full day there for it, and driving home 12h the next. Unfortunately no flight options and DP can't get a ton of time off work.

But the caveat is that we really want to go!

Off topic but:

Flight up Saturday morning, flight home Sunday eve. Rented a car at Gatwick to drive to Brighton. We were invited Friday night but we went for one night only to save money

This is mad it is 25 minutes from Gatwick to Brighton on the train (one train, no changes) Having a car in Brighton is famously a PITA and the Citie's population is shocking.

You must have a very limited life- that's 1.5 hours each way.

Yes I would go

No I wouldn't drive all that way.

I drove from Edinburgh to Manchester last year which was just over 4 hours and I was exhausted after that, then the thought of having to do that the next day? (With hen do madness thrown in in-between?) No way.

I wouldn't go. And i wouldn't take any shit from people about changing my mind. That's nearly a day's work-time.

I would definitely get the train if you can

3 hours driving would be my limit after a boozy night out and even that wouldn't be ideal

I would understand and wouldn't expect people to come to my hen do just for 1 day if they lived 6 hours drive away.