...Or all three!
I have none of the above unfortunately. I'm doing lots of soul searching about whether to have a 2nd child or not (I have one DD of 4). I'm scared of regretting not when I am too old.
I have read a lot of mumsnet threads! Such a hard decision.
Relationship has struggled since DD and my partner is lazy. My family aren't interested in DD much at all (my partners are but we've had difficulties with falling out etc) and DD is a constantly on the go child who doesn't sleep much.
I can't rid of the nagging broody feeling though!
People ask me about it all the time; colleagues, friends, acquaintances, my boss! It's hard to know what to say. I go from really wanting another baby to a definite no 3 or 4 times a day! 🙈😂
Feel free to offer any words of advice; MNetters.
AIBU?
To say that to have 2 or more kids you need to have a great relationship, a good support network, and (relatively) 'easy' kids?
Greenginghamdress · 09/08/2022 22:12
Am I being unreasonable?
147 votes. Final results.
POLLWouldloveanother · 09/08/2022 22:50
Yeah I knew this would be one of the first answers, but to be honest if I was OP, I would see the value in my child having a full blood sibling IF I felt able to pick up the slack.
Topgub · 09/08/2022 22:14
I wouldnt have kids with a lazy oh
Hunkydory99 · 09/08/2022 22:52
I have a 4.5 year age gap and it’s very hard. The oldest obviously used to being an only child and personally going back to the baby years once you’re out of them is tough. Oldest can ‘help’ to a certain degree but there’s also a lot of resentment/jealousy we have to work through. I don’t regret my son but I do wish I’d had him sooner. By the time he’s able to ‘play’ my oldest likely won’t be interested.
Gruffling · 10/08/2022 00:49
I think the people saying family support is not important probably have more support than they realise.
Rotherweird · 09/08/2022 22:44
As somebody who also had a lazy DP, now ex-DP, I can tell you that IME it is a million times easier being a single parent with one child. You don't need a big house, you only have one set of expenses, holidays are more affordable, and the one child-one parent dynamic is delightful. I can afford to work part-time and still have enough money for extra-curricular activities and treats. It is also easier co-parenting with an ex when you only have one child (fewer issues to resolve). Although I would have loved to have more children, I've come to the conclusion that it is a good thing I didn't and I love my life as the single parent of one.
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Hesma · 10/08/2022 06:58
I am a single parent with 2kids (exH left) since they were 5&2. Have no support network as my family live 100 miles away. It’s busy and tiring at times but by no means impossible
drawacircleroundit · 10/08/2022 07:03
What would you do if your health failed, or if you suddenly couldn’t drive, or work? Genuinely curious as I’m in awe of how you don’t crumble into a catastrophising soup of worry about the future.
Hesma · 10/08/2022 06:58
I am a single parent with 2kids (exH left) since they were 5&2. Have no support network as my family live 100 miles away. It’s busy and tiring at times but by no means impossible
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