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..to not sell my house now?

147 replies

househorror · 08/08/2022 19:21

So, got the going price for my house, about £10k under, but it has taken a long time to sell and I'm very happy with the price. So my AIBU is here...

I have spent the last 3 years all - through Covid, doing my house up. It looks fabulous, really nice. All the carpets follow through in the same colour to the upstairs, all the hard floors match in Karndean. The whole house is a neutral pallette etc etc. The bathroom was cheap but white and well put in.
So, I have just found out from the EA (a friend vaguely knows her) that the prospective buyers intend to rip stuff out and put their signature on it. I mean, I have literally spent thousands on doing the house up, and I do not want to sell it to someone who is going to gut it.

AIBU in pulling out of the sale. Its very early doors, they have only just put in for a survey

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househorror · 08/08/2022 19:22

I spent 10k on the kitchen. God knows f this will even make the cut

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DisforDarkChocolate · 08/08/2022 19:23

If you like it so much why do you want to sell?

FourEyesGood · 08/08/2022 19:24

YABU. If you hadn’t known this was going to happen, you’d have gone through with the sale. It makes no difference. You won’t be living there any more and the new owners can do whatever they like!

ContadoraExplorer · 08/08/2022 19:25

Don't want daft.

Once the house is sold, whoever buys it will do what they want with it, if its not these people it will be someone else.

You say you've waited a while for it to sell and are comfortable with the amount so don't ruin it, otherwise you might lose out completely.

PersonaNonGarter · 08/08/2022 19:25

Sorry, you need to get over yourself. That was your taste not the Buyers’.

You’d probably hate my kitchen(not ‘neutral colours’), I’d probably hate yours.

Take the sale.

Bubblebubblebah · 08/08/2022 19:25

Yabu. They are allowed to redo to their liking. It will be their house.

LadyVictoriaSponge · 08/08/2022 19:25

Most people want to put their own signature on a house, you can’t police what someone does to their own home!

LeroyJenkinssss · 08/08/2022 19:26

That is the weirdest response tbh. Who cares? I mean I could understand if you lived in an old building and they wanted to knock it down, but to seriously consider pulling out because people have different taste to you is frankly odd.

or is this a reverse?

Monr0e · 08/08/2022 19:27

It doesn't matter what you have spent on it. When you sell it, it will no longer be yours, and any prospective buyer can do whatever they want because it will them be "their" house.

You can decline to sell for whatever reason you want, but I think this would be cutting your nose off to spite your face. You can't think that anyone buying your home will have the exact taste as you and never make any changes?

You say you have waited a long time and are happy with the price, so you should continue with the sale and focus your energy on making your future home exactly how you want it.

HenBob · 08/08/2022 19:28

Why on earth did you spend all that money doing it up just to sell it? Sounds crazy! It doesn't add value to the house unless you are hitting it and remodelling with new wiring etc. A bit of a facelift won't make a profit so it seems like you should just stay there if you like it so much.

ElizaJones · 08/08/2022 19:28

Don’t be silly

DorisWallis · 08/08/2022 19:28

You're selling it
It's a business transition
Hard as it is you have detach yourself

LewisLittUp · 08/08/2022 19:29

What's the guarantee the next buyer won't do exactly the same thing? Or do you intend to stay put instead of move? Sounds like you don't want to move at all.

WeAreAllLionesses · 08/08/2022 19:29

Previous owners of our house came round one day and were utterly horrified that the fireplace (big, metal, shiny copper) they'd put in had been removed and replaced by the owners just before us. Personally we much prefer what it was changed to!

YABU - it's only a house and everyone has different taste.

WhatWouldHopperDo · 08/08/2022 19:31

Did you honestly expect someone to move in and everything would be to their taste so they wouldn’t change anything?

TurquoiseDress · 08/08/2022 19:34

I think it comes down to whether you really want to sell or not

Sounds like it's taken a long time to get an offer- if you're serious about selling/moving I'd get on and accept the offer

What's to say the next offer will be even lower than this one? What then?

Buyers can plan to do whatever they want with the property they are buying, if they've got the finances for it & the decor/kitchen/whatever doesn't suit their taste

Twiglets1 · 08/08/2022 19:38

You’re being silly. It doesn’t matter what they do to the house once they own it

DDivaStar · 08/08/2022 19:38

Do you want to sell ?

I would concentrate on why you are moving abd your new home, what your buyers do is irrelevant.

Outlyingtrout · 08/08/2022 19:38

How can it have sold for £10k less than it's worth after sitting on the market for ages? The market value is entirely dictated by what buyers can/will pay at a given time. If it was on sale a while at X amount then that's a clear indication the price was too high.

RE the decor, you may feel it's wonderful but - like with the selling price - it's not your opinion that counts. You would normally never find out how a prospective buyer felt about your decor. It's very unprofessional of your EA to be discussing all of this with other people. Maybe you'll pull out of this sale, waste everyone's time and then sell to someone else who will do the same thing. What are you going to do? Make them pinky promise not to redecorate?

You sound very emotionally attached to the house. Maybe you should stay there?

XjustagirlX · 08/08/2022 19:40

They won’t like your taste.

We bought a house and the owner had done it up for sale. They put in new grey carpet everywhere with a boring white and grey kitchen.

i hate grey so both are going.

satelliteheart · 08/08/2022 19:41

If you pull out now you will likely still be liable for your estate agent fees as they've found you a proceedable buyer at an acceptable price. Is it really worth losing that money because someone else doesn't like your cheap bathroom and boring colour palette?

Dibbydoos · 08/08/2022 19:48

If you're happy with the price, sell it. Do you really care that much? House prices are going to fall, so I'd take the money and find a doerupper....

Brainstorm22 · 08/08/2022 19:51

In contrast to other posters I can sympathise with what you mean. I got divorced and sold the house. The next owners have completely destroyed it by building hideous extensions and a massive wall all the way round. It breaks my heart every time I drive past. To your point the estate agent will still charge you so you'll have to go ahead.

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househorror · 08/08/2022 19:51

I need to move to somewhere smaller, and its definitely not a reverse!! I just wanted to vent. I could have just sold it 3 years ago, but was advised to tart it up to get a sale. I can't bear the thought of all those late nights and stressing over the colourways to have it ripped out. Its such a waste and detriment to the environment if nothing else. Christ I want it to go to someone who would appreciate it and just move in!

I have no mortgage, I can sit tight. My house will only go up and I can buy accordingly I suppose. I did really want to be somewhere else by Xmas, but its not essential.

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premiumn · 08/08/2022 19:51

OP are you bonkers?

You will probably do the same to your new property. The bee owners have the right to rip it all down and replace with whatever they like.

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