Toddler and level of illness? Help!

[Nurserycold]

AIBU?

Since my 1year old started nursery in July there has been back to back illnesses. High temperatures every week.

He's just finished a course of antibiotics for a throat infection (yesterday) and today come home from nursery with a temperature of almost 39degrees (watery eyes, runny nose).

Every night he is snotty and has had a dry cough for weeks.

Taken him to the doctors multiple times to be sent away and told viral (except when they spotted pus on tonsils and they gave antibiotics).

He's a good weight, active, happy, always been a healthy baby but since starting nursery he's either not been able to kick an original virus or is being hit by multiple viruses one after another after another - or is something else going off?

I'm supposed to be back at work, how do I manage this? People are just going to think I'm making this up now. It feels like it's an abnormal amount of sickness even for starting nursery.

If this isn't normal what should I be asking the doctor to do? If anything?

Yabu - this is normal - deal with it
Yanbu - yes one or two colds when starting nursery but 6 weeks of back to back sickness doesn't seem right!

Thanks everyone - you have made me feel better about the situation, if only to know it's not me!xx

It's not just you. My 3 year old has been in nursery for a year. For the last year we've had cold after cold, some really really bad ones, an ear infection, chicken pox, I don't think her nose has stopped running since she started.

There's a whole hidden army of parents with children too ill to go to nursery, desperately trying to cling on to their job. Tbh I felt like I wasn't parenting or working well and nearly fell apart. But it gets better hang on in there.

@lancsgirl85 Our nursery will have my son back after 24 hours if he's sick from coughing, because by then it's obvious it's not a stomach bug. Before he went on his inhaler he was sick every time... I'd forgotten that, god it was horrible! Obviously they know him and have seen it happen, so are ok with bending the rules.

Does she ever have breathing difficulties with coughs and colds? If so I'd suggest a trip to the GP to discuss possible asthma.

You're not alone. DS1 started nursery in January and hes had covid twice, 4 colds, 2 vomiting bugs and 5 ear infections. It's exhausting and relentless. He was born just before first lockdown so we've put it down to a lack of exposure to illness to build up his immune system. DS2 is 9 months and has caught everything off him so I guess we're hoping by the time he starts nursery he's built up a resistance to everything his brother has brought home. Not so bad for me on maternity leave but DP has caught all the nasties as well so he's had more time off work than he'd have like with the vomiting and covid. As far as I've been told when talking to the nursery and other parents for some kids it's totally normal and just bad luck.

She does get breathing difficulties during an infection, yes. Her breathing is very shallow and fast at these times and I've called 111 for advice on this and had her seen at A&E more times than I can count.

Every time they just listen to her chest and conclude that she has an infection, but tell me so long as she's fine in between then it's nothing to worry about. But the coughing and wretching when she has one is absolutely awful and causes her to vomit. They don't seem overly concerned by it. 🤷‍♀️

It's so stressful as I did suspect there's something underlying like asthma but they tell me if she's breathing fine in between then it's not. Which she is.

Very stressful though when the childminder's policy is 48 hrs clear of vomiting, especially if she's vomiting from coughing after every chest infection. 🙈

totally normal I'm afraid.

there is nothing you can do apart from the usual:
nutrition (maybe consider a multivitamin)
exercise (at least one hour a day, preferably outside)
sleep

it usually gets better after 6 months or so.

Hmm. Sounds very much like my son - he was admitted a few times for low oxygen though so maybe taken more seriously because of that.

I would suggest a trip to the GP to discuss asthma, especially if you have a family history of asthma, eczema or hayfever. They won't diagnose at this age but they will treat symptoms. We haven't had a hospital admission since we started on the brown preventer inhaler a year ago.

@Numbat2022

Thank you - I will get back on to the GP to discuss it! Never ending worry with these babies isn't it 😢