To ask for things you never say to your boyfriend/husband?

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Inspired by a similar thread, 'what things do you not tell your girlfriend', on Reddit.

What things do you never say to your boyfriend/husband/partner?

When I'm really low. It really freaks him out.

Anything to do with previous sex with exes 😬Never goes down well.

Genuinely can't think of anything

I'd be concerned if I was in a relationship where I couldn't speak about certain topics due to his sensitivity

Probably puts him off his stroke too 😂

@Damnloginpopup 😂😂

How much money I spend on random shit.

Apart from that nothing really.

The level of abuse ex did.

Is it in yet? 😂

How much I dislike his money-grabbing DD and the way she uses him but doesn't give anything back.

That there is something he cooks that I don't like. (It's actually only one element of the dish.) He's actually a fantastic cook and it's definitely his love language for us. He looks so hurt and devastated if one of the kids don't like his meals. I'm not at all fussy and love 99% of his food so I just don't want to say about this particular thing. (Baked avacado which is like a mouthful of wet clay - when uncooked I love avacado.)
I should really have said something when he started cooking this dish nearly 20 years ago so it would seem much worse and more hurtful to say it now.

I don't think there's anything I don't tell dh. Obviously don't go on about exes but sometimes they come up in conversation and neither of us are bothered. I think it's a little unhealthy to have taboo topics in a marriage

This

It's sad how many don't feel able to be open with their partners

@notwavingbutdrowning5 I did say something like this to mine but his reaction was so vicious, never again

Haven't been married for decades now, but can I play?

The one thing that I never said to my husband was "thanks for doing the housework".

@honeylulu if you get Covid claim that it has changed how you perceive texture. I can't eat tuna or steak and a lot of flavours aren't worth bothering with.

How much I'm currently spending a week on iced coffees 😬

This!

Dh soon learnt not to come and tell me he'd hoovered, changed the bed etc
He got the hint when I asked him if he was expecting pocket money as he seemed to think I was his mum....

So many things I couldn’t say without him raging. He was perfect don’t ya know. It got so bad it wasn’t just what I said, in the end he told me he would see red if I used the wrong tone of voice to him.

He is now my STBXH.

Your mate is BANGIN’

@honeylulu blame illness! Next time you are ill just say you have gone right off it!

I got a lot of this too! I reacted with a lot of sarcastically declaring the fine details of all the domestic things I (usually quietly) get on with throughout my day 😁

The balance of my savings account. He decided savings are separate and not to be shared. Fool doesn't realise that I've got plenty stashed away which he has no idea about seeing as that works both ways.

That sometimes, when I glance over at him driving the car, I wish for a second he was my late DH and I had my old life back.

Doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend, but he's just so... unfamiliar in the context of being a passenger in his car after 20 years of DH being the driver. It's an awful thing to think and I'd be so upset if he knew. He's so supportive and I can tell him literally anything else, even how hard it is to get past the guilt of feeling like I'm having an affair.

Have you had covid? Tell him it's tasted rank since you had covid. No offence needed, you were waiting to see, etc. (Also it's vile, why does he cook avocado FFS? And is his name Mark? That's the only person I've ever known cook it.)

I don't think there's anything I can't say to DH. The only thing is being very careful talking about his work, as he has many frustrations and I would rather not hear the rants more often than necessary.