To ask for things you never say to your boyfriend/husband?

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Inspired by a similar thread, 'what things do you not tell your girlfriend', on Reddit.

What things do you never say to your boyfriend/husband/partner?

Mine's "your brother is in fact, rather banging".

That I think his favourite shoes make his feet look really weird.

They lace up all the way down the foot so there is no solid 'toe part' of the shoe and the tounge is sewn directly to the front of the sole.
They make his feet look simultaneously weirdly long and as if the end of his foot has been cut off.

He really likes them though and it doesn't impact me really so I never mentioned it but man they look silly.

Only once did my DH ever say to me that he "had done the dishes for me" Never dared say it again.

That made me laugh!

How i really feel about the majority of his family.

Info. about ex's. Unless he asks.

Ah, that would have been my one for XH

Never told my ex about vaginal atrophy and urinary incontinence I was struggling with due to perimenopause. Not very sexy conversation is it? Wishing I’d been a bit more upfront about the issues I was dealing with, as I’d just get upset and cry about it without him really knowing why and I think that contributed to our breakup

@crosbystillsandmash you've forever sullied the name of the band I've loved for decades! 😆

Literally nothing I can’t talk to my husband about.

"It's your turn to cook dinner tonight." DH pulls his weight around the house, but his culinary repertoire extends only as far as getting cereal and milk into the same bowl.

That I currently have a raging celebrity crush on someone nearly 20 years older than him, and that I had a crush on the same celebrity before I met DH, nearly 30 years ago.

There isn't anything I can't tell DH, but when I'm struggling with my anxiety/depression I try and do some self care things first - because sometimes I can bring myself "out of it" without telling him as I know it makes him worried. But I can and do talk to him about how I'm feeling if it persists.

He is super supportive, but isn't my counsellor, and I try to not go to him the instant I feel a dip coming on.

There was only one thing, the surprise Cadbury crème egg I put under his pillow for Easter. Thing is he had a water bed then, and by the time he found it, it was a brown puddle of goo under his pillow. I said it must be cat vomit rather than admit to being a bit dim.

Nothing I wouldn’t say to him.

Obviously I wait to bring things up at good times, but that’s same as any relationship.

Oh yeah, I did learn to do this when I realised I was starting to treat him like a counsellor.

Now a combo of Ads and age mean I don’t get down so much so no longer applies.

”You make terrible, terrible hummus. My heart sinks when you say you’re making hummus. Sometimes I just want to buy nice shop hummus, or make my own mediocre hummus, but I can’t, because it will inspire you to make your terrible hummus. I hate it with my life.”

Apart from the hummus thing there’s little I wouldn’t say to him.

Ooohhhh…this is a good one. I kick myself every time I find myself saying thank you for putting away the dishes or emptying the cat’s litter tray. No. No. No. He doesn’t feel the need to say it to me, so I shouldn’t be saying it to him 😂

Other than that, nothing. We never used to talk about things like how certain behaviours made us feel, but we’re much better about it now (thank you half a decade in therapy). Made us much, much stronger.

I always thank mine for doing housework, or cooking, or whatever - and he thanks me too. It's just nice to appreciate each other. I especially thank him for cleaning the house, which he does a bit more often than I do - I hate it and he frequently caves before me .