To be feeling really down on holiday

[PegottyPie]

I know I ABU really as so many people desperate for a holiday and I'm lucky to get one etc etc but just feeling trapped and needed a moan and didn't know where else.

In a v posh all inclusive resort where nobody speaks a word of English amongst the staff or the other guests. My linguistic skills are rubbish and when I try, people look at me like I've farted. It's truly embarrassing. DH is native speaker so totally at home but not really helping and getting cross at my lack of ability.

He's also getting cross at DS who doesn't want to go to kids club as they don't speak any English and he can't understand anyone. He's only little and it's scary for him. DH getting mad at him and mad at me for not forcing him to go.

There are no family activities here, it's all split into separate kids and adult clubs. I've got awful tummy ache and feel fat from the constant eating (they have v rich food 3 courses min twice a day and the last meal of the day starts at 8pm so sits really heavy). And DH doesn't want to do any of the activities I would, so I can't understand anything. To top it all, this holiday cost a fortune.

@Trustingreenthings to be fair that was what I said just below - that next time it would be sensible to have a go on Duolingo or similar for a while.

Your husband is an arsehole.
But honestly, I felt frustrated with you reading that.

If you were complaining to me that you’d eaten food too rich and given yourself a stomach ache I’d just think, “FFS don’t eat it all then?”
A “posh AI” must surely have a pool? Get in it and have fun with your child.
Get out of the resort! I’d be very surprised if no-one speaks English outside of it. Get into town and book yourself onto some tours. Use a site like getyourguide to find them - in English.
Make this better for yourself!

Where is there an AI resort that only serves dinner from 8pm and forces you to eat three courses? I thought the whole point of AI was that you could eat what you want, when you want?

OP stop eating if you feel fat and uncomfortable and have a stomach ache. FGS you're a grown woman, start to take control of your life. It's supposed to be a holiday - so start doing what you want, when you want and say 'No' if dinner at 8pm doesn't suit you.

Your DH sounds like a twat. Why hasn't he taught your DC his language if he thinks he should know how to speak it?

Afterfire

I must admit I am a bit like this myself. Although I do recognise the whole kids club thing is something a lot of people like, the whole concept just seems to alien to me. I can’t imagine leaving my child with a bunch of strangers in a foreign country whilst I did other stuff. It just seems all wrong to me. I like to do things together as a family. So perhaps that’s clouding my own judgement here a bit!

It baffles us too that people choose to leave their children with strangers rather than do stuff with them. But accept we are all different. Mine would hate going to kids club 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes you've guessed it exactly. I thought it would be OK as my understanding is usually quite good and DS can parrot off little phrases, but this is a whole other level. I feel like they are actually anti English here but DH gets cross if I say that. I just feel totally alien and unwelcome, I stupidly had thought the kids club people etc would have at least some multilingual training to include all guests. Its in a really remote location too so very isolated. The pool is nice though, we spent a few hours there today. I've had a little cry which helped as was bottling it all up and trying to pull myself together a bit. DH and I can struggle with communication but no he's not generally awful and I think this place is intensifying it all.

It sounds like your husband is a knob which won’t help but you should help yourself a bit more here

Eat what you want to, not what they give you
Swim lots

Is it actually Club Med and which one are you at? We’ve done a few and I agree re the kids club, it was very French and I wouldn’t consider it an option for a non French child but outside of that the bar staff etc were all local to the country we were in so we spoke English. And the food doesn’t need to be heavy, for AI I thought there was loads of choice.

Yes it's a ClubMed. I'd say very very few staff or guests speak anything other than French. Re: the food, it's not the food here that's the issue - other than it being buffet 3 times a day but I can choose what I have. But we'd had 1 week with DH's relatives in this country beforehand where it would have been rude for me to decline the 3 courses multiple times per day food, so by the point I made it to ClubMed I was already thoroughly fat and fooded out.