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I just don't like the current clothes fashion

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Jourdain11 · 05/08/2022 00:24

I've been on a few clothes-shopping expeditions lately - trying to replenish my Covid-depleted wardrobe - and I've come away virtually empty-handed because I cannot find any clothes I like or which look good on me. I don't know whether my perception is weird, but the current fashion seems to be for women to wear clothing shaped like sacks! Some women look amazing in it, but unfortunately I am not one of them.

Am I being weird about this, or does anyone else wish they could find clothing with some semblance of shape? Even dresses seem to be either shapeless or like something out of Little House on the Prairie!

I'm not very 'girly', but nor do I wish to dress in a duvet cover with holes for the arms and neck 🤔

OP posts:
DuneFan · 05/08/2022 07:34

I think August can be a bit silly season/ holiday clothes season in the shops and there may be hope for September.

Definitely also think this look is popular to hide the lockdown pounds, but mine are nearly gone, let me show off please!

georgarina · 05/08/2022 07:36

YANBU!

God I hate the trend of baggy cropped shirts, baggy shapeless cropped trousers, and sack dresses. Everything looks designed to be unflattering and make you look as short and wide as possible!

Online shopping is easier for me as everything is laid out and you don't have to wander round.

But yes I think current fashion is horrible.

SaintHelena · 05/08/2022 07:38

If you have boobs floaty adds inches to waist and hips.
I would have an amazing figure if I didn't have big low boobs .

Scianel · 05/08/2022 07:39

Men's fashions also seem to be really weird just now. Young guys dressed like their middle aged dads but three sizes too big?

Scianel · 05/08/2022 07:41

Just perusing the H&M women's dresses section. Sacks with balloon sleeves. I mean that's beyond unflattering and into silly looking.

Enko · 05/08/2022 07:42

I am 50 and with you here op. Made worse by when I asknfor suggestions as to where to goni inevitably get suggested uniqlu I have not once found a single item of clothing in that shop I like. I say I like clean smooth lines. Similar to pure and white company and uniqlu gets suggested. To me uniqlu is anything but smooth lines its just sacks.

I have found I've had to go up in price to find what I want so using weekend max mara. And London Sahara but my budget can't withstand that for ages. So I'm having to pick carefully and like another poster then endnup w fast fashion to cover the rest.

JofraArchersFastestBall · 05/08/2022 07:44

Having thought about it a bit more, it's the change in trouser length and midi skirts that I love. I'm 6ft tall, and previously struggled with shopping as most things were too short for me. The current trouser styles don't look ridiculous if they're a bit cropped, and midi skirts don't have to be an exact length.

It took me a while to adjust because I do look bigger in my new things, but I had a word with myself and realised that it didn't really matter to me.

I apologise if my last post was insensitive. I'm just pleased that I've got new things that I love.

Thriwit · 05/08/2022 07:46

YANBU. I have very broad shoulders, a larger than average bust, but a slim waist and narrow hips (& no arse!). Unless things are stretchy and/or gathered in on the torso, I look like I’m wearing a tent.
The alternative seems to be cropped t-shirts - just no. Even my 11 year-old hates those & wishes she could buy normal t-shirts.

I also can’t get to grips with the 7/8 length every pair of trousers seems to be now - they just make me look like my trousers are too small.

As an aside - I’m so lost with what’s in style with jeans any more. If skinny jeans are out that means I can’t get away with comfy jeggings anymore. I tried some bootcut, but they just seem to make me look short & dumpy (& a bit like my MIL). Maybe the wrong colour denim? I think I might give up on jeans now.

midgetastic · 05/08/2022 07:46

most women are not 6 foot tall ( although that shouldn't mean all trousers are sized for the average ) Whilst the trousers may be ok for you they just look shrunk in the washing one me

RollerPolarBear · 05/08/2022 07:48

I’m not really a dress wearer and thought the prairie dresses were ridiculous at first but when I see people out and about wearing them I think they look lovely and I’ve been struck by how practical them see for the heat. If I did need to get a dress, Boden still seems to have a good range of different styles.

neverbeenskiing · 05/08/2022 07:52

Can we talk about sleeves, please? Why have puffed sleeves become the default?? I'm not completely anti a subtle puffed sleeve, but I don't want every single dress I own to have them and it seems you have to actively hunt for dresses that don't have oversized puffed sleeves, or those ridiculous balloon sleeves now. It drives me mad.

Amrapaali · 05/08/2022 07:53

YADNBU!! It also feels like designers have lost their creativity. Little details like a beaded edge, interesting patterns, a discreet tassel- can't see any of those touches that turn a simple dress into something glorious! Now it's all just curtain cloth 🙄

I'm talking about ordinary high street brands not even high fashion.

misskatamari · 05/08/2022 07:53

I've felt like this for years now! Hardly ever find anything I like in shops, there's always something weird about it. Ruffles somewhere, cold shoulders, now giant sacks. One year I remember going shopping and it felt like everything was varying shades of salmon. Very hard to find clothes I like now

MountVesuvius · 05/08/2022 07:56

Agree, awful. Cos, Zara and H&M are all pastels and beige. The clothes are baggy, shapeless and oversized and made of rebranded polyester (100% recycled fibres 🌿) The shoes fugly Uncle Fester monstrosities.

In the 90’s the trend for looking like an American tourist in ill fitting, poorly tailored clothes in cheap materials was slightly more understandable as we always lagged behind our more stylish European counterparts… Not quite sure what the excuse is thirty years later.

TheOGCCL · 05/08/2022 07:57

I think there are ways to nod to trends/fashion without going all out. A slimmer silhouette in the form of skinny jeans and trousers has been in for years and we’ve got so used to it, like low interest rates. And actually that silhouette has become a classic, it was in so long. But it was only a matter of time before the teenage girls and twenty somethings wanted to stop wearing the same clothes as their mothers and it was about time for a 90s revival (= baggy), itself a revival of the 70s. You are now more likely to see the mother in a floral midi dress with trainers and cross body bag and the daughter in low rise baggy trousers and crop top.

It’s accompanied by a more body positive movement where younger people often aren’t imo so worried about dressing for others. No bras, no worry about rolls of fat being exposed, no concern particularly for seeking out flattering clothing. Although too much visceral fat is bad for your health, I like the concept generally, its quite feminist in its origins and it makes me less concerned about the potential of social media to make people feel inadequate.

Its a bad time for baggier clothes to be in, however, because they take more fabric to produce, whilst at the same time production costs have gone up. So the garments end up being both baggy and poor quality. On the other hand there is less need to worry about fit with baggy clothes, a hand maiden style dress is very accommodating for different sizes. I tried a tshirt on the other day I could have bought in any of three sizes.

Since we know everything is oversized, one trick is to size down. Then, unless you are already a 4, you can take a smaller size and have a slightly looser feel without being swamped in fabric. The M&S website is full of reviews from people 40 up who say the item is too big (just size down). But more than that, I’ve given up getting bogged down with what size something says it is. It’s all over the place and it’s more do I like how this looks and feels. The other trick is to make sure your baggy pieces are combined with something more fitted, so a slim vest with a baggier over shirt, and making sure your slimmest points, your wrists, your ankles, your waist potentially, are not swamped in fabric and give some counter balance. I also agree with a pp that new shapes and styles always take a bit of getting used to. But my skinnies are starting to feel rather dated as my eye adjusts. Starting with one thing slightly outside your comfort zone and building from there is a good idea.

I recommend Esprit (online only in the UK) as a fairly middle of the road brand with nods to fashion. And M&S have upped their game as long as you pick carefully.

onlythreenow · 05/08/2022 07:58

And put the waists in the right place, not halfway down our bums or halfway up our rib cages. I don’t think designers even look at actual real women.

This! I'm short waisted and yet dress waists are often too high. I must confess though that I love a linen "sack" and would live in them if I could - but then I've never liked fitted clothes much.

InChocolateWeTrust · 05/08/2022 07:59

Amrapaali

Its costs.

Big busy patterned fabric dresses hide how simple or poor the cut/shape is, it's a way to make a dress cheaply. You also can get away with poor fit because its loose, so it doesn't matter if there's inconsistency of sizing. The beaded edges, lace trims or other design features get axed. Cropped teeshirts immediately save yards of fabric.

We have to accept that things need to rise substantially in price. We cannot all own tons of clothing.

I find if I shop at more expensive brands I can still get what I need. I just buy far less.

Mamapep · 05/08/2022 08:00

Then stop mindlessly buying ‘what’s in fashion’ and try to forge your own style based on what you like/what feels good/what suits your shape.

DuchessOfMuck · 05/08/2022 08:04

Op I feel you. I have spent way too much trying to find something that isn't a sack like see though dress or for my teenage daughter.

I think I found the answer! Since July I have been doing the Wool & dress challenge. It's been a wonderful revelation. I realize I wasted so much time and money on clothes with bad fabric, hems and fit. I'm day 33 and it's so freeing just knowing what I will wear when I get up. The dress is a simple button down with elastic at the back to give a waist. I love the soft warm feel of the fine merino wool. I wear it unbuttoned too as a duster.

It's lovely not fretting about I will wear any more. No more hours spent wondering if every thing makes me look bigger, too young too old, too try hard.

MintJulia · 05/08/2022 08:04

YANBU.

I'm 5'8 and 36,28,38. Either a 10 or a 12 depending on brand.

Almost every top and dress I've bought in the last three years, I either take in at the side seams or put darts in to give it some shape. It's annoying to spend £50-£80 a top and then need to get the sewing machine out. But it's either that or I look like a sack of spuds.

I like linen, good quality linen doesn't crease that much, and I can even do floaty drapey, but there is so much that is just shapeless.

MintJulia · 05/08/2022 08:06

I suppose the upside is that no-one needs maternity wear until the last six weeks because everyday stuff is big enough to hide the bump 😃

PrettyasaPainting · 05/08/2022 08:06

I'm the opposite, I feel spoilt for choice, I am a classic apple and menopause has changed my figure dramatically so the current trend of tiered tunics/dresses really suits me as they don't hug my waist. I'm very much a dress/leggings person anyway.
I used to hate shopping but now I keep finding stuff I like, my problem is I can't buy them all!

Youonlyventonce · 05/08/2022 08:12

To the poster that asked about how Vintage works for you.
You can set filters and be really specific in your search. For example, if you know NExt jeans fit you well, you search specifically for them.
Most listings have the brand listed, so if you want measurements you just look up the standard measurements of that brand.
For me personally, my style.is fairly well refined in what I know works so I don't even consider anything high neck or tailored for example,.I'll again use filters and key words to look specifically for the colours and cuts for me.
Shops also tend to repeat designs or do a variation, so you can try something on in the high street then look for this year's version of the fatface summer dress or do skinny jeans.
It's not a flawless system and sometimes you get it wrong, however because it's cheap and you can just put it back on or charity shop.it and suck up the loss I think it works well enough as a system.

Whitehorsegirl · 05/08/2022 08:14

Agreed!!

I wonder is it a commercial decision: wanting to remove the hassle and cost of proper tailoring and instead just mass-produce shapeless, unflattering stuff so they can make as much profit as possible.

Looks like high street fashion these days is either cheap, tight and short stuff aimed at teenager girls, Kardashian clones and for older women it is the Handmaid's Tale shape and flowers everywhere...

Also general poor quality, stitching and fabric.

I am now simply shopping if I need anything in second hand/vintage places and I am going to get myself a sewing machine. Completely opting out of mainstream shops.

Furrydogmum · 05/08/2022 08:20

You are not wrong! I haven't been able to top up my summer work wardrobe at all this year and I needed to as didn't have much due to the lockdowns and wfh 🙄