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To put him to bed

41 replies

FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 22:11

Not really an AIBU but I'm a first time mum
And our 2 yo has woken up with fever of 38.5 and had a massive poonami! He's been feverish
All day and treated with calpol and nurofen.

Anyway he's just had some nurofen then had a poonami and a drink after. He was getting sleepy so I took him to bed in just a nappy as he felt super hot.

DH is making me feel like I've done something wrong by putting him to bed. Should I go wake him up and keep him downstairs until
The fever disappears? What do people do? Feel like a terrible mum now

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Original poster
FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 22:38

FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 22:11

Not really an AIBU but I'm a first time mum
And our 2 yo has woken up with fever of 38.5 and had a massive poonami! He's been feverish
All day and treated with calpol and nurofen.

Anyway he's just had some nurofen then had a poonami and a drink after. He was getting sleepy so I took him to bed in just a nappy as he felt super hot.

DH is making me feel like I've done something wrong by putting him to bed. Should I go wake him up and keep him downstairs until
The fever disappears? What do people do? Feel like a terrible mum now

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Canihaveacoffeepleasexx · 03/08/2022 22:43

What’s terrible about that? If he’s tired and poorly let him sleep just keep checking on him and keep an eye on his temp. Your doing great don’t worry. It’s always hard when they are poorly

tumtitum · 03/08/2022 22:44

If he's sleepy let him sleep. When mine were that small I'd generally bring them to bed with me if they were poorly so I would wake if they were sick again etc

Liverpoolhev · 03/08/2022 22:46

Maybe your husband could sleep on an air bed in your sons room if he's worried?

Tee20x · 03/08/2022 22:47

Does he mean keep him up/awake or let him sleep but close by you? If it's the latter I think it's normal to want baby closer to you while they're ill so you can monitor.

Poorly babies need rest so just let him have a long slee

Bimbil19 · 03/08/2022 22:50

Sounds like you're spot on. My GP told me that the best thing for poorly toddlers is sleep - let them sleep as long as they want and don't worry about nap schedules etc. I'd let him sleep if that's what he wants to do but check on him regularly through the night.

Hope he gets better ASAP and you get some decent sleep.

Haggisfish3 · 03/08/2022 22:50

If he’s sleepy I would let him sleep. Ibuprofen isn’t the best on an upset tummy-id use paracetamol
in future. I would check on him regularly and encourage him to drink whenever he w wakes up.

bookworm1982 · 03/08/2022 22:55

What is a poonami?

Original poster
FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 22:57

Thanks everyone.

Yes DH is upset that I put him to
Sleep in his own room ...
but I felt he'd sleep better in there with his window open towards the garden, more quiet than ours.
I might pop in later and sleep on a mattress in case he needs me initially I planned on having the monitor on loud but I feel bad now.

I never know what's best to do when he's poorly and I just panic 🥲

Thanks for the nurofen tip! I will only give calpol from now x

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Cactuslove · 03/08/2022 22:57

FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 22:11

Not really an AIBU but I'm a first time mum
And our 2 yo has woken up with fever of 38.5 and had a massive poonami! He's been feverish
All day and treated with calpol and nurofen.

Anyway he's just had some nurofen then had a poonami and a drink after. He was getting sleepy so I took him to bed in just a nappy as he felt super hot.

DH is making me feel like I've done something wrong by putting him to bed. Should I go wake him up and keep him downstairs until
The fever disappears? What do people do? Feel like a terrible mum now

If I'm not very well I take some paracetamol and get in bed..the thought of being forced into he living room is horrible- you've definitely done the right thing.

I've always given ibuprofen and the 2 hrs later of the fever hasn't come down I would give calpol.

I'd be checking on baby every 15 minutes ish whilst I was awake and once ypu got to bed I would set an alarm for a couple of hrs time to see how baby is.

Of course the other option is for DH to stay up all night nursing baby whilst you go on to bed. But somehow I doubt he's worried enough for this!

Purpleforthewin · 03/08/2022 23:03

You were right to put him to bed. He will cool down better in his court rather than getting heat being cuddled. You can still check in him or stay in his room if worried.

twoandcooplease · 03/08/2022 23:06

What's a poonami?

Lulu1919 · 03/08/2022 23:11

A massive poo

bookworm1982 · 03/08/2022 23:20

Lulu1919 · 03/08/2022 23:11

A massive poo

🤣🤣🤣

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FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 23:25

Thank you so much everyone

I've decided to sleep in his room.

He's asleep in his nappy but his forehead and head are covered in sweat? Is there anything I can do? 🥺 internet says it's normal but I've never had fever where sweat was literally dripping off me

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Sunshinegirl82 · 03/08/2022 23:26

I'd probably sleep in with him if he's poorly, or have him in bed with me. I think you get more rest than constantly getting up to check on them anyway. I hope he's better tomorrow.

Dollgiraffe · 03/08/2022 23:34

Sounds fine- I’ve always done this with mine. Their beds are like their little save havens with their little toys and favourite animals. And while not nice, fevers are their bodies way of getting rid of bugs and completely normal. So putting him to bed in a nappy sounds also fine. 😉 don’t worry- all sounds very sensible, I’d prob just check on them / sleep on the floor if youre really concerned but sleep is the best medicine they can have and if they love their own beds then that’s the best place for them.

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 03/08/2022 23:39

Do you have a thermometer to take his temperature? It's so scary when they're ill isn't it. I would sleep with him. Skin to skin can help regulate his body temperature.

Isaidnoalready · 03/08/2022 23:42

Sweat is the body cooling itself just make sure to offer drinks when he wakes up

Original poster
FTmummyy · 03/08/2022 23:48

Isaidnoalready · 03/08/2022 23:42

Sweat is the body cooling itself just make sure to offer drinks when he wakes up

Thank you. His temp is now showing as 36.1 he feels ok to touch but very wet. His pillow is soaking.

Gosh no one tells you the worry these little ones bring.
Used to be the strongest person when it comes to this stuff but since becoming a mum it all scares me

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Isaidnoalready · 03/08/2022 23:50

Dab it off if he has cooled down you don't want him to get too cool

blebbleb · 03/08/2022 23:51

It sounds normal, just keep checking on him. Regular paracetamol and nurofen will keep the temp down. 38.5 isn't massively high. Do you have a warm room? We're in London and our house feels like an oven sometimes. It's horrible when they're unwell. Hope he feels better soon x

PinkButtercups · 03/08/2022 23:53

When DS has had a fever I've either put the travel cot up in my room for him to sleep in or I've gone into his room.

Carrieonmywaywardsun · 03/08/2022 23:54

I agree with PP, dab off the sweat to avoid him getting too cool. Change his pillow case if you can or pop a towel over the top of it. He'll be sleepy so likely won't notice

Sunshinegirl82 · 03/08/2022 23:55

It might be worth having some clean sheets nearby in case he wakes in the night and you want to change the bed. I also sometimes wrapped a big towel round the mattress (tucked in underneath like a sheet) as absorbs the sweat better.

Mine are always particularly sweaty if they've had a temperature which has then come down with calpol when they're asleep.