To put him to bed

[FTmummyy]

Not really an AIBU but I'm a first time mum
And our 2 yo has woken up with fever of 38.5 and had a massive poonami! He's been feverish
All day and treated with calpol and nurofen.

Anyway he's just had some nurofen then had a poonami and a drink after. He was getting sleepy so I took him to bed in just a nappy as he felt super hot.

DH is making me feel like I've done something wrong by putting him to bed. Should I go wake him up and keep him downstairs until
The fever disappears? What do people do? Feel like a terrible mum now

Also, I would sometimes cover them with a cellular blanket or similar, as the sweat dries off they can get a bit chilly.

Ahh thank you for all you're advice l! You're superstars! Xxx

Have taken his pillow away as it's soaking

& might put a bedsheet on him as his arms and legs are tucked underneath so he might be a little cold.
Do you think that's a good idea? What if the fever comes back? 🙈

Will be checking on him every hour if I can

He won't be any less ill downstairs, and needs sleep to recover, of course there's nothing wrong with putting him to bed. If it was me I'd check on him every hour or so, if the fever drops before you go to bed, I'd just leave him until morning, if it's still high I'd think about staying in his room, and maybe waking him when the next dose of calpol is due.

Your advice *

Pop a cover on him, something thin but to cover him from chills.
Set an alarm for maybe 4am and go to check on him. Feel his temp and check it with thermometer if you're worried. He needs sleep, it'll help the fever and if it comes back and he wakes again give him some paracetamol and wait for it to kick in.
He'll wake up if he's poorly, try to get some rest x

And you're not a terrible mum, there's no handbook to this. You've done the right thing by asking for advice and clearly what you've done is working now that he's asleep. Trust yourself!

A light cover should be fine unless your house is absolutely boiling.

When they're poorly I go to bed with supplies, clean sheet, towels, drink for them in the night, thermometer, calpol and nurofen etc. much easier to deal with them waking up feeling poorly if you don't have to go scrabbling about in the dark!

Yes I think you should definitely cover him over now. If he’s been sweating and now feels cool sounds like the right thing.

You were absolutely right to put him to bed. And then to keep checking him as you did. One or other of you sleeping in there might be a good idea but as he’s cooled off now probably vital that you do.

Is your husband always a drama llama? That would annoy me!

Good idea as pps say to have supplies handy for the night

Some people think neurofen (spelling?) is a bit rough on the stomach so if he’s having loose poos I might stick to just paracetamol if needed again.

I agree with DP, I slept near DC when they had a fever at that age to keep an eye on them, what did you do to prevent DP from doing that?

You did the right thing. Was DH planning to go to bed whilst you stay awake with baby?

Recently had this with my toddler. I drag a single mattress through from one of our spare bedrooms and sleep on the floor.

On occasion I've set up the travel cot in our room but staying in their room is better - everything I need is in there - nappies, spare bedding, night light, calpol plug in etc. If she takes ill in the night makes sense for me to bunk in with her rather than her bunk in with us.

If you get really worried there's always 111. They are really good and provide people with a sense check, when you aren't sure if something is urgent or can wait till morning for a GP and that's never more needed than with a toddler who can't tell you how they feel.

You can have a Google for the NICE Fever under 5s traffic light guidelines, which tell you what red flags to look for (serious signs and symptoms that would mean you need to seek help). Otherwise try and get as many fluids into them as you can which could include fruit and ice pops if they'll eat them. Pay attention to whether they're passing urine. Give regular calpol, alternate with ibuprofen in the day if they're still feverish as long as they've eaten and seem a little more stable with their tummy.

I always stayed with mine until their fever was under control and then checked again when the calpol/ibuprofen was due to run out. I found ibuprofen better for fevers and if really bad you can give both.

Don't know what other people do but I couldn't relax anyway so I'd rather be with them until they were fine.

I tended to have DD in with me if she had a fever.

However, if DH was worried he would check on her. I take it your DH has arms and legs and could look after your baby himself if he thinks your care is substandard.