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Taking DS out of school family holiday WWYD?

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Sleepregressionqueen · 03/08/2022 12:00

Just about to book our family holiday unfortunately we have to go in September as otherwise it’s just to expensive. He has the same teacher and same people in his class so not much settling in really. He will be going into year1.

we either go at the start September 13th or the 27th. I said 27th to give him a bit of time
but OH says it’s probably best we go at the start as they probably won’t be learning many new things then.

WWYD?

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BaileysAndNachosDontMix · 04/08/2022 06:45

Just go
it will create wonderful memories for you all

5 days off school isn’t going to mess up his education for the rest of his life especially as he’s only in year one and so young

when mine where that age the schools used to allow 10 days term time holiday without the threat of fines and the guilt

they grew up absolutely fine they caught up again in no time & have good jobs now
so didn’t ruin their education as much as everyone here says it will

its your family& your life you only have it once

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Sleepdeprived42long · 04/08/2022 06:54

Do it! I’d do end of Sept as gives DS time to settle in. I value education but I know from my own experience that spending quality time with family is just as important so if this is the only way you can afford it, do it and don’t feel bad about it.

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thingsarelookingup · 04/08/2022 07:04

I will be taking my two primary aged kids out of school for 10 weeks next year. I will do a bit of maths, reading and writing with them while we are gone and they will gain so much perspective you can't get from a classroom.

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Sirzy · 04/08/2022 07:29

thingsarelookingup · 04/08/2022 07:04

I will be taking my two primary aged kids out of school for 10 weeks next year. I will do a bit of maths, reading and writing with them while we are gone and they will gain so much perspective you can't get from a classroom.

Just be aware though 10 weeks unauthorised absence you risk coming back to no school place.

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itsgettingweird · 04/08/2022 07:50

Any date will be fine.

He'll love being away and spending quality time with you and DH.

He'll love having things to tell his friends when he comes back.

It'll probably be easier for him to go in later than have a few weeks with them and then have to leave to go away but at this age kids are so fickle I doubt it'll matter much!!!!!

Enjoy - where are you going? Smile

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gogohmm · 04/08/2022 07:54

You don't have to go in September. You are choosing to go on an expensive holiday overseas. Be honest with yourselves. Personally I never took my kids out of school except in exceptional circumstances eg for a wedding once and they went on a choir tour. We took holidays we could afford often staying at my parents house.

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Sceptre86 · 04/08/2022 07:55

I'd wait till October half-term and put more money towards it from the next few paychecks. If you are adamant I'd go the earlier date in September and be prepared for a fine. I haven't been abroad since 2015 though, I font consider not going abroad annually s hardship though.

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ColinRobinsonsfamiliar · 04/08/2022 08:03

I would 100% go.

Life is short.
Anything could be around the corner and 2 weeks on a family holiday truly is not going to ruin his life or education.

Live life, big picture and perspective.

A friends child died last year. If I ask her what would she do, I know the answer immediately.
Ripple effects of that event have forever changed us all.

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prepared101 · 04/08/2022 10:35

thingsarelookingup · 04/08/2022 07:04

I will be taking my two primary aged kids out of school for 10 weeks next year. I will do a bit of maths, reading and writing with them while we are gone and they will gain so much perspective you can't get from a classroom.

Let hope they have a space when you get back Hmm

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I8toys · 04/08/2022 11:54

I'm just curious what you do in the actual school holidays time. August is a long month without going anywhere and keeping them occupied whilst there friends are probably going away? Do you still do things whilst they are off if there main holiday and quality family time is in school time?

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Tkinthetardis · 05/08/2022 19:07

Y'all tripping...IT IS KINDERGARTEN...what, the child is gonna miss prime scissor cutting? Mum... take your baby on vacation and stop listening to everyone whinging about.
Idk about UK schools, but the school here has their funding directly tied to attendance...they don't give a f* about what the kid misses.
The memories are more important than anything at that age.

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ThreeImaginaryBoys · 05/08/2022 19:23

Tkinthetardis · 05/08/2022 19:07

Y'all tripping...IT IS KINDERGARTEN...what, the child is gonna miss prime scissor cutting? Mum... take your baby on vacation and stop listening to everyone whinging about.
Idk about UK schools, but the school here has their funding directly tied to attendance...they don't give a f* about what the kid misses.
The memories are more important than anything at that age.

Since when is Year 1 Kindergarten? Kindergarten is Nursery, when the child is 3.

If 'y'all' don't know about the UK, perhaps get your facts straight before 'y'all' look a bit foolish.

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SuperPets · 05/08/2022 20:10

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 05/08/2022 19:23

Since when is Year 1 Kindergarten? Kindergarten is Nursery, when the child is 3.

If 'y'all' don't know about the UK, perhaps get your facts straight before 'y'all' look a bit foolish.

In most countries. It's only in the Uk that you like to pretend that 5 year olds will miss something important and will never catch up because of a holiday in term time! In almost all the rest of the world, 5 year olds are in Kindegarten or the local equivalent.

. I mean, the literaly inventors of the Kindegarten system meant it for up to 7 year olds...

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Blondeshavemorefun · 05/08/2022 20:23

We took our 5yr out this may work before half term so had 2w

We’ve booked the same for next may

I would do end of sept or even middle oct but not beginning as that’s when they sort out seats and give out reading books spellings etc

tho I will say I’m. Try impressed your ds had 100% attendance last school year in reception

dd had 2/3 days off each time for chicken pox, tonsillitis and covid. Plus ear ache

many had 2/3 days off for sickness bugs. Have no idea how dd avoided a child being sick practically weekly

no child in our reception class had 100% attendance

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TrickyD · 05/08/2022 20:24

When DH was a headteacher in the days when it was easy for heads to authorise holidays in term time, he worked in an area with many disadvantaged kids. He always gave permission as any chance of the family enjoying each other’s company was worth facilitating.

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Haribosweets · 05/08/2022 21:09

I would go couple days before half term in October. I did this with my then year 5 in 2019 and it happened to coincide with an inset day on the Friday so less time off. I personally wouldn't do September for reasons other posters have said

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luckylavender · 05/08/2022 21:25

Sleepregressionqueen · 03/08/2022 12:26

We’re going for a week, so he will miss 5 days.
i will speak to DS see what he thinks as he will know best.

Your 5 year old DS will know best...?

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HappyBinosaur · 05/08/2022 21:35

@Sleepregressionqueen I would say that the later into the term the better so he has time to settle.
I occasionally took mine out of school for holidays when they were in primary school but it was always in either April or early July as I taught in a private school so we finished early. I genuinely don’t think it had a negative effect on their education at that young age but wouldn’t do it now they are in secondary school.

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Undertheoldlindentree · 05/08/2022 21:49

Just cut your coat according to your cloth - go on a cheaper holiday during the school holidays - as most people do. It's quite selfish and disrupting to the other children to have one or two families flaunting the rules. It's usually the same families every year, and usually the ones with (outwardly at least), the most money.

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Patsy400 · 05/08/2022 22:01

I think some of you have misunderstood the question. She wasn’t asking for your permission, she was asking which date may be best out of the 2.
What difference does it make to anyone else when she goes on holiday.. unless you’re a bit jealous that you can’t do it.

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thefatpotato · 05/08/2022 22:07

I wouldn't do this unless absolutely necessary.

Just because you're 'desperate' for a holiday doesn't mean you should go on one of it means taking your child out of school.

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Louise0701 · 05/08/2022 22:13

Neither date would be best for him. Save up and go in the school holidays. Why not October half term? Children have 13 weeks off school per year, there’s really no excuse.

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Biggreencactus · 05/08/2022 22:13

Just go, pick the date that suits your family. It's a week and he's year 1 I'm sure he'll catch up on anything he misses that week. Have a great holiday 😁

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Louise0701 · 05/08/2022 22:15

@Tkinthetardis The vast majority of 5 year olds in the UK are reading and writing in Y1. Maybe y’all should take some tips.

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Grumpybutfunny · 05/08/2022 22:18

We go on the first of October, family time is more important. Kids catch up

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