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AIBU?

Taking DS out of school family holiday WWYD?

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Sleepregressionqueen · 03/08/2022 12:00

Just about to book our family holiday unfortunately we have to go in September as otherwise it’s just to expensive. He has the same teacher and same people in his class so not much settling in really. He will be going into year1.

we either go at the start September 13th or the 27th. I said 27th to give him a bit of time
but OH says it’s probably best we go at the start as they probably won’t be learning many new things then.

WWYD?

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Nanny0gg · 07/08/2022 13:46

Sherrystrull · 05/08/2022 22:59

I teach ks1 and I honestly would go for an extended October half term.

I once had a child miss the first two weeks of term due to a family holiday. It set him back so much. All the other children had learnt the routines, made friends and started the building blocks of learning. It's probably the most disruptive time to go for a very young child.

^^This.

I took my DC out at this stage, many many years ago- long before fines were a Thing.

I still regret it for the above reasons

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Abraxan · 06/08/2022 10:00

Eunorition · 05/08/2022 23:15

Depends if you fancy paying the fine. 60 quid per parent per day I think it is?

£60 per week or holiday (varies which is used in areas it seems) per child per parent. Our area only fines from day 5 too so can take 4 days with no fine.

£120 is nothing compared to the cost of a school holiday booking.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 06/08/2022 08:39

Eunorition · 05/08/2022 23:15

Depends if you fancy paying the fine. 60 quid per parent per day I think it is?

£60per week per parent per child

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GoodThinkingMax · 06/08/2022 08:27

we have to go in September as otherwise it’s just to expensive

YABU especially for saying you “have” to go in September. That is rubbish - no one has to go on holiday.

What is your plan for ensuring your DC catch up on missed work? And a plan which does not involve extra work for the teachers and school?

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Disneygirl37 · 06/08/2022 07:10

I would go for the 27th🙂 I wouldn't worry about taking him out. Enjoy your holiday

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manlyago · 06/08/2022 06:37

xippo · 05/08/2022 23:50

It will have no impact at all. Take them out. I’ve taken mine out for a months holiday tagged onto Christmas and Easter.
2 out of 3 great exam results to get to Uni, waiting for the 3rds. That’s taking them out of secondary and primary.
had kids join my ds’s class half way through year 3 with no English, totally up to date by the 2nd term.
mine aren’t academic either.

Many studies have shown that it definitely does have an impact . Attendance and attainment are linked.

This is for KS2 plus. I’ve not looked into it for younger years. We took ours out for a week when they were little as a one off for a family wedding overseas but I think it’s really irresponsible parenting to do it every year.

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xippo · 05/08/2022 23:50

It will have no impact at all. Take them out. I’ve taken mine out for a months holiday tagged onto Christmas and Easter.
2 out of 3 great exam results to get to Uni, waiting for the 3rds. That’s taking them out of secondary and primary.
had kids join my ds’s class half way through year 3 with no English, totally up to date by the 2nd term.
mine aren’t academic either.

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Arthursmom · 05/08/2022 23:35

Have a fab time! I'd go for the later week.

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Mariposista · 05/08/2022 23:19

VariationsonaTheme · 03/08/2022 12:15

If you can’t afford to go in the holidays then surely you don’t go this year and save up for longer?

Finally someone with a bit of common sense and a little less entitlement. No doubt we will get some story about why the holiday is sooooo necessary.
Speaking as a EY teacher tired of kids coming in when their parents feel like it all out of routine and bouncing off the walls when the rest of the class has got the hang of things.

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justasmalltownmum · 05/08/2022 23:18

I wouldn't go in September.
I would take him out a few days before October half term.

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Eunorition · 05/08/2022 23:15

Depends if you fancy paying the fine. 60 quid per parent per day I think it is?

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Sherrystrull · 05/08/2022 22:59

I teach ks1 and I honestly would go for an extended October half term.

I once had a child miss the first two weeks of term due to a family holiday. It set him back so much. All the other children had learnt the routines, made friends and started the building blocks of learning. It's probably the most disruptive time to go for a very young child.

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Intothewoodland · 05/08/2022 22:54

I don't think there will be much difference so I would pick whichever date suits you best.

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echoecha · 05/08/2022 22:53

" he is way ahead than the other kids..."

Of course he is. That's because he's special like you OP.

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LimeFizz · 05/08/2022 22:50

Asking DS as he will know best made me really laugh.

September is the only month I wouldn't take them out. (Year 1 teacher here)

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echoecha · 05/08/2022 22:45

Sorry, I think it's selfish OP. Surely there somewhere you can manage to go during the 6 WEEKS summer holiday or the Oct half term instead? As a PP said, imagine if everyone decided to take Sept holidays because it was cheaper? Teachers would come in in early Sept to empty classes! Why do you think you are so special OP? No wonder the education system is in such a state when parents don't give a damn.

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SemperIdem · 05/08/2022 22:45

To be honest, with the exception of exam age children, I’d do what I please. In fact I do. I don’t answer to my child’s school. I highly value education but will not accept the local council having more of a say in my child’s life than I do.

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Nanny0gg · 05/08/2022 22:43

Tkinthetardis · 05/08/2022 19:07

Y'all tripping...IT IS KINDERGARTEN...what, the child is gonna miss prime scissor cutting? Mum... take your baby on vacation and stop listening to everyone whinging about.
Idk about UK schools, but the school here has their funding directly tied to attendance...they don't give a f* about what the kid misses.
The memories are more important than anything at that age.

As you said, you don't know anything about UK schools.

It's not kindergarten. It's school. And there won't be a huge amount of scissor cutting on a daily basis.

But only the OP knows where her DC stands educationally and socially and how detrimental it will be to take them out

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Charlie14 · 05/08/2022 22:42

Im all for term time holidays especially for families who struggle financially but September nope. I'd wait and book for October/November time x

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Louise0701 · 05/08/2022 22:40

@SherbertLemonDrop about what? Not being able to afford a holiday during any of the 13 weeks that children have off school each year? Doubt it.

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Nanny0gg · 05/08/2022 22:39

Sleepregressionqueen · 03/08/2022 12:26

We’re going for a week, so he will miss 5 days.
i will speak to DS see what he thinks as he will know best.

You think your 5 year old will know best??

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YouLookinSusBro · 05/08/2022 22:35

I've always taken mine out for holidays (except one year I got a great deal for the last week of Aug), however always at the end of the school year - June or July. I wouldn't do it in September, just feels too disruptive. I would definitely go for the later date, or even better, the week before half term.

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Jagoda · 05/08/2022 22:33

I wouldn't go then either. Primarily because he could end up pushed out of friendship groups if he isn't around at the start of term.

That summer break feels a lot longer to small children than it does to us.

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CallmeAngelina · 05/08/2022 22:28

"DS attendance was 100% last year he is way ahead than the other kids his report was fantastic."
Out of interest, how do you know that he is "way ahead than the other kids?"
I often see this written on MN and in my 35 years of teaching I don't think I've ever come across a colleague who would have said this.

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SherbertLemonDrop · 05/08/2022 22:26

Anyone saying otherwise is 100% jealous and bitter 😆

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