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To just bin my wedding dress?

84 replies

KarlWrenbury · 03/08/2022 07:53

Sitting in the loft in a bag. Over 25 years old. No daughters Etc. It just seems ridiculously sentimental. You know it was nice Etc but it’s just some fabric.

did anyone bin theirs

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Benjispruce4 · 03/08/2022 09:44

I can imagine. It’s tricky as I hate putting things in landfill if I think they can be used by someone. I do wash every I donate. They were particularly pleased to get 4 lamps with shades, a guitar, a telescope and 3 bags of soft toys. Gutted they wouldn’t take my vintage wicker cot due to health and safety. It’s too good to tip.

Headbandheart · 03/08/2022 09:45

ClottedCreamAndStrawberries · 03/08/2022 07:58

I donated mine to a charity that makes outfits for stillborn babies. You can find lots of them online. It has to be dry cleaned first.

This. I’m in a textile group where a few ladies do this occasionally.

Norugratsatall · 03/08/2022 09:46

Yes I donated mine to charity but, I have to say, have since regretted it.

Headbandheart · 03/08/2022 09:47

BellePeppa · 03/08/2022 08:42

Yes, someone might even want to cut it up to make something (a quilt) or whatever. Don’t literally bin it.

I have done this with mine. I made a white and blue qualified bed cover. Used wedding dress fabric and a few other fabrics including baby clothes from kids. A memory quilt.

itnreslly doesn’t need a lot of skill- just a machine is easier..although people even make them by hand but it’s a lot of work and time

ShandaLear · 03/08/2022 09:47

I binned mine. It had been altered to fit my weird shape and was stained with fake tan and a spilled glass of white wine. The bottom of the dress was dirty from the floor. When we moved 6 years later I had a big clear out and donated tonnes of stuff, but my dress wasn’t in a fit state to be passed on.

Benjispruce4 · 03/08/2022 09:48

What qualifications does your bed cover have @Headbandheart 😂

RhubarbFairy · 03/08/2022 09:54

I donated mine to Oxfam as my local branch has a wedding department on the first floor. I loved my dress but it was enormous and had been shunted from wardrobe to loft to under bed over 12 years. We were doing our extension and I needed the space cleared. I donated my shoes and veil too, but kept my tiara.

I've done lots of am dram and agree that your local society would be thrilled to have it. Doesn't matter how dated it is, at the end of a panto Marian, Snow White or whoever just needs to look like a bride.

BiscuitLover3678 · 03/08/2022 09:55

Definitely donate! I can’t believe you would consider throwing away something that someone else could benefit from

slashlover · 03/08/2022 10:07

Ragwort · 03/08/2022 09:33

MissMaple - I agree in this example it would be good to donate a wedding dress to charity but not everything should be given be charity shops. I manage a charity shop and the amount of absolute rubbish we are given is shocking. Not all charities can recycle textiles and we have to pay to get rid of unsaleable items. Yesterday I had to sift through six black sacks of hideous, dirty textiles after someone kindly said 'this is lightly used children's clothing, I am sure they will be useful' Angry.
I really find it hard to understand why people still seem to think that charity shops want broken items, chipped china, torn books, old magazines etc etc. Why take these items to a charity shop???

We just assume it's because our bins are now 3 weekly and the local tip is still appointment only.

BusySittingDown · 03/08/2022 10:09

Me recently.

Well actually it was DH! It had been in a box untouched for 12 years. I don't need to keep it, I have photos of me wearing it. The DCs gave me a look of disgust when I suggested they might like it (TBF I wouldn't have wanted my DM's dress either). It was taking up space!

We were moving house and having a clear out and it was taking up space. We've moved somewhere smaller so I needed to get rid of it. It wouldn't have sold as it was very "of its day".

DH was doing a tip run so I gave it to him to put in the clothing charity bank. He put it in the skip 🙈.

Benjispruce4 · 03/08/2022 10:16

Oh god @BusySittingDown id have LTB! 😂

JadeSeahorse · 03/08/2022 10:21

I put mine in one of those charity collection bags that are put through the door.

Similarly, mine had been in a plastic bag at the top of the wardrobe for about 30 years.

FlibbertyGibbitt · 03/08/2022 10:27

Mine went to the RSPCA when they used to do charity sales. Always said there was an Alsatian wearing it somewhere

SuperPets · 03/08/2022 10:34

Benjispruce4 · 03/08/2022 09:14

Nice idea but they’ll not taking an my more.

Who is they? That's one specific charity, hardly means you can't donate a wedding dress anywhere!!

Polimolly · 03/08/2022 10:52

I gave mine to charity. I was never going to wear it again 🙂

BiddyPop · 03/08/2022 11:06

I had got my dress cleaned after the wedding, but it sat in a box in the attic for years. I eventually gave it to charity shop about 4 years ago (nearly 20 years married then), with headdress, veil and shoes. They were delighted, even if it was then somewhat out of fashion as there were people interested still in that style and it had loads of fabric and beading to use on communion or christening dresses or similar if there was no interest as a wedding dress.

As it happens, my DSis had bought from another branch of that charity shop when she got married herself about 5 years before that. A dress that SHE loved, and looked beautiful in on the day (despite the grumbles of DM in advance).

doodlywoodlydingdong · 03/08/2022 11:09

A friend of mine runs a charity that recycles wedding dresses and formal wear and they make tiny gowns for babies that are born to early to survive and outdoors for babies that are born sleeping. They proved a much needed service that really makes a difference to the parents. You can post items to them and even request a keep sake made from your dress, like a pillow etc and they will use what's left over.

www.facebook.com/bevandaimee/

LuckyAmy1986 · 03/08/2022 11:13

Donate or put in the textiles recycling at the tip.

Do not just put it in the bin.

Benjispruce4 · 03/08/2022 11:19

@SuperPets that was the link that a pp suggested.No doubt there are others I was just posting for others that might be interested like me. Is that ok??

MayISuggestSomeThickCutSteakChipsToGoWithThat · 03/08/2022 11:27

Donate it to be made into gowns for stillborn Babies. I wish I'd known about this before I shoved mine in the tip.

JaneJeffer · 03/08/2022 11:37

BrandNewBicep · 03/08/2022 08:22

I gave mine to a local am dram theatre who were very grateful.

I love this.

Caminante · 03/08/2022 11:38

KarlWrenbury · 03/08/2022 08:13

Oh god I’m not dry cleaning it. It was hand made.would charities want?

I donated my hand made dress to a stillborn baby charity, didn't dry clean it first but it was clean

Thewheelsfalloffthebus · 03/08/2022 11:39

MumTrain · 03/08/2022 07:54

A chastity shop might take it if it’s in good condition.

Ha! Freudian slip there maybe?

KeyWorker · 03/08/2022 11:54

Donate to a charity, or if it’s quite ‘of it’s time’ could you see if your local college/uni wants it for their fashion designs students?

Dacquoise · 03/08/2022 11:57

GimmeSleep · 03/08/2022 08:23

What a beautiful and worthwhile cause. 💗