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Partner ruined our day

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:17

I've posted in here a few times about my partner. I'm ending it with her after today..... feel so empty and upset.

Today was the last day before my DS goes on holiday abroad for a week for with dad. I wanted it to be a nice day. We went to an adventure park in my area. She was off with me from the get go.

She was picking at my DS who's 6 asking him what he's done for me this morning and then reeling off loads of stuff that her daughter done this morning and really praising her in front of us.

My DS made a friend on the play area and her DD didn't want to play with them so walked off and she admitted this. My partner then kept digging at my DS, kept walking off and leaving us and wouldn't reply when I spoke to her. I asked her 3 times to not leave us, she heard as she stopped and then carried on walking. I asked her for a quiet word, asked why she's being unkind she said she wasn't doing anything. I walk in front turn around and her and her daughter are whispering.

So I said you are being unkind and this is ruining the day, she claimed she was innocent and had done nothing wrong but was smirking so i walked off and havent spoken or seen her since. How can a grown woman be mean to a 6 year old.

I think today was the last straw and I can't carry on with her anymore.

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pinkstripeycat · 02/08/2022 22:20

She sounds very childish.

Doesn’t bode well for the future. I’d probably end it if it was me.

GreenManalishi · 02/08/2022 22:21

I haven't seen your other posts, but your priorty needs to be getting your DS away from this person, and vetting anyone else who you let into their life, much more carefullly.

Summerhasbeenandgone · 02/08/2022 22:23

She sounds toxic. And needs keeping away from you and your dc.

There is no excuse for her behaviour at all.

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:24

Summerhasbeenandgone · 02/08/2022 22:23

She sounds toxic. And needs keeping away from you and your dc.

There is no excuse for her behaviour at all.

Ironic and funny thing is her job is teaching children my DS age

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wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 02/08/2022 22:25

Leave her be. Don't contact her... let her go.

DDivaStar · 02/08/2022 22:26

I'm not entirely clear what's gone on but it doesn't soundlike a healthy relationship.

RobertaFirmino · 02/08/2022 22:27

All I can think of after reading the OP is the recent flurry of step-parent death cases. For crying out loud, get yourself and your DS away from this woman immediately. Never look back.

Pixiedust878 · 02/08/2022 22:29

If you don’t like the way she treats your child then the relationship needs to end.

Concentrate on your DS without this horrible woman.

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:33

DDivaStar · 02/08/2022 22:26

I'm not entirely clear what's gone on but it doesn't soundlike a healthy relationship.

I'm not even clear. I don't know where her bad mood came from. Then it got worse after my DS made a friend and her DD told her he left her but he asked if she wanted to play and she turned around and walked away. When i asked though she said she didnt want to play with them and it was fine.This then made the passive aggressiveness towards my DS even worse.
I know my DS is no angel however the way he is, he wouldn't go out of his way to upset anyone. Her DD has form for causing issues and DP always takes her side even if there's evidence her DD has made stuff up or been unkind.

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Thatsenoughnow · 02/08/2022 22:37

Are you the one who posted the other day about your dp telling your son how much to eat?

How much longer will you be letting her emotionally abuse your child?

ILoveTwix · 02/08/2022 22:38

Get rid. Find someone nicer who values you and your DC. Have you asked DS what he thinks of her? I bet he would probably prefer her out of the picture.

GrazingSheep · 02/08/2022 22:38

How much longer will you be letting her emotionally abuse your child?

This.

JustJoinedRightNow · 02/08/2022 22:39

I’ve read your other thread - I think it was yours, about the food and finishing everything on their plate? She sounds awful OP, I think you’ve made the right choice to end it and remove her from yours and your son’s lives. Good luck.

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:41

Thatsenoughnow · 02/08/2022 22:37

Are you the one who posted the other day about your dp telling your son how much to eat?

How much longer will you be letting her emotionally abuse your child?

Yes it is and I've ended the relationship now.

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ehb102 · 02/08/2022 22:43

Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:41

Yes it is and I've ended the relationship now.

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Well done. I'm glad you did the right thing for your child.

Adventurine · 02/08/2022 22:45

I would definitely keep this mean cow away from your boy. I had a stepmother like this and it really confused and crushed me as a kid. I grew up knowing nothing I did would ever be good enough for her. I always had a feeling of inadequacy and sadness. I would urge you not to be talked into giving anything another chance or believing any promises or apologies.

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 22:58

Adventurine · 02/08/2022 22:45

I would definitely keep this mean cow away from your boy. I had a stepmother like this and it really confused and crushed me as a kid. I grew up knowing nothing I did would ever be good enough for her. I always had a feeling of inadequacy and sadness. I would urge you not to be talked into giving anything another chance or believing any promises or apologies.

I'm sorry that's so sad. She does have such high expectations. But when these have now been put on my son I'm not taking it.
It seems within the last few months her mask has completely slipped and she's transformed into this horrible person.

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GrazingSheep · 02/08/2022 23:03

But when these have now been put on my son I'm not taking it.

Have you ended it ?

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Sparkles20 · 02/08/2022 23:07

GrazingSheep · 02/08/2022 23:03

But when these have now been put on my son I'm not taking it.

Have you ended it ?

Yes I have it's over. I feel a sense of relief really. No more anxiety about saying a wrong thing or walking on egg shells

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JustJoinedRightNow · 02/08/2022 23:10

That’s great OP. Now just stay strong and don’t take her back.

Ragwort · 02/08/2022 23:30

You've been posting about this 'relationship' for a long time, I hope you genuinely mean it when you say you have finished it, put your DS first.

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Sparkles20 · 03/08/2022 00:09

Ragwort · 02/08/2022 23:30

You've been posting about this 'relationship' for a long time, I hope you genuinely mean it when you say you have finished it, put your DS first.

I do mean it. I've felt so angry tonight. Not sadness.

She's not a kind human

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StClare101 · 03/08/2022 00:24

Block her as well. Don’t take her back! Give your son a big hug before he goes away with his Dad. He needs to know how much you love him and that woman is out of his life.

MindfulBear · 03/08/2022 02:01

Let her go. She sounds evil. Toxic. Childish. And definitely not the sort of person I would want in my child's life.

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Sparkles20 · 03/08/2022 07:09

StClare101 · 03/08/2022 00:24

Block her as well. Don’t take her back! Give your son a big hug before he goes away with his Dad. He needs to know how much you love him and that woman is out of his life.

My DS went last night :( I did make sure to tell him how much I love him. I want to be a role model for him. I don't want him growing up around abuse like I did.

My DS really likes her and her DD so I haven't told him yet that they are out of our lives. I didn't want to upset him before his holiday. When he's back I will try and explain to him that we will no longer see them

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