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To expect a water supply at a wedding

65 replies

Shadowmallow · 01/08/2022 10:30

The wedding I went to on Saturday was 'festival' themed, all day from 12-12. We were told it was kid friendly and that there would be a kids' entertainer. Great!

Venue was lovely, in a field with a lake and some woods. The couple getting married are BIG party people and their priority for the day appeared to only be to get absolutely trashed (totally fine), and had spent all their budget on a big stage setup and a couple of (albeit very talented and entertaining) bands.

It was a hot day - there was no shade and no water supply at all. Only two small bars selling beer and cider - the only soft drink options were cans of coke and sprite at £3 a pop. There was a small block of four toilet cubicles with sinks to serve a crowd of 150+ which had ran out of water by 5pm. Lunch was deep fried, super salty stuff with chips - thirst inducing and not substantial at all for a 12 hour day. Of course I took water, suncream, snacks, hat etc. but another kind parent ended up doing a Tesco run (25 min drive away) to get a load more bottled water for all the kids.

I guess they nailed the festival theme! But as a wedding touted as kid friendly, not great? If I'm being invited to an all day wedding at a rural venue in an open field I would have expected a water supply at least? Also they've had 2+ years to organise - it was postponed from 2020.

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Damnautocorrect · 01/08/2022 11:54

Why not say it’s festival themed so there will be food but you may want to bring a picnic / snacks as it’s obviously a long day.

Fatballs · 01/08/2022 11:55

In an ideal world they'd have made sure bottled water was available along with the soft drinks

We had a big party type wedding. We didn’t supply bottled water, just tap water in jugs.

Plus tea, coffee, soft drinks, and a free bar.

Shadowmallow · 01/08/2022 12:01

Deguster · 01/08/2022 10:56

That's poor - so easy to resolve too. A quick check of the weather forecast and they could have just filled a car with multipacks of bottled water and left it for people to help themselves. Very tight not to imo.

No water in the toilets is a bit more understandable - I have a friend who does festival toilets and the whole putting fresh water in/getting sewage out is a logistical nightmare apparently (and presumably quite expensive).

But they nailed the festival vibe - enjoying great music in a field while feeling thirsty and slightly soiled.

Yeah personally if it was my wedding party I'd have cracked on down to the supermarket myself and loaded up with water/soft drinks for all, if necessary. I'd be concerned about my guests.

The couple are established, late 30s, own a home mortgage free, no kids, and have a combined annual income of £200k+, so they're not exactly hard up.

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waterrat · 01/08/2022 12:02

Charging over the odds for soft drinks is horrible. At the minimum I would expect free soft drinks at am event like this and at our wedding I really wanted to avoid a pay bar si we found a venue that allowed byo which we stocked

MaggieFS · 01/08/2022 12:05

They wouldn't even have had to go to a shop. They could have just got an online delivery.

I would have hated it anyway, but as a parent, I would have had to go and buy some.

What were they thinking!?!

Sunshineona · 01/08/2022 12:08

Sounds to me like they assumed the bar would have water. Meanwhile the bar probably assumed there would be a tap and didn’t bother to stock water 🤦‍♀️

Yeah its a cock up but not a deliberate one not much point moaning as I doubt you’ll be going to another of their weddings anytime soon 😬

The parent who went to Tesco is a genius who must be worshipped.

Fatballs · 01/08/2022 12:14

They wouldn't even have had to go to a shop. They could have just got an online delivery

I’ve never managed to get an online delivery on the same day.

MaggieFS · 01/08/2022 12:16

@Fatballs Sorry, didn't mean on the day, I meant as part of the preparations.

MangoMangoMango · 01/08/2022 12:20

Fatballs · 01/08/2022 12:14

They wouldn't even have had to go to a shop. They could have just got an online delivery

I’ve never managed to get an online delivery on the same day.

I think she means Deliveroo or Uber Eats or a similar service which will deliver from the Co-Op or something. (And yes, I know that's not available in all parts of the UK)

IrisVersicolor · 01/08/2022 12:21

Charging for soft drinks and light alcohol at a wedding is so cheap. They basically had the wedding they wanted at their guests expense.

Justlovedogs · 01/08/2022 12:23

HoppingPavlova · 01/08/2022 11:48

I don’t understand the bars? Were they run by external providers? Where I’m from they would have to hold a liquor license and have a responsible service of alcohol certification, which includes provision of adequate free tap water wherever alcohol is served.

Don't know about the water provision, but I've been to events where a local pub provides the bar. They get a temporary licence, then charge the organiser a nominal fee based on the takings they expect from the event. I didn't think it was that unusual?

Fe345fleur · 01/08/2022 12:26

Have come across this at a wedding before. Wasn't in the middle of a field so not so much of an issue thankfully. Lovely couple, very generous with the booze available for guests. But I wasn't drinking so had a surprise when a drinks dispenser full of clear liquid turned out to be a pretty hardcore G&T 😄

whysomanyvipers · 01/08/2022 12:27

It's amazing how much money people spend on the wrong things...

Guests want water, comfy seats and proper toilets. If it's a long day, they also want edible food at appropriate intervals. Wedding needs are actually quite basic!

Perfect28 · 01/08/2022 12:27

Surely it's not just the kids, hangovers are terrible if you don't drink any water with the alcohol.

HoppingPavlova · 01/08/2022 12:29

They get a temporary licence, then charge the organiser a nominal fee based on the takings they expect from the event. I didn't think it was that unusual?

Not unusual at all, but here even a temporary license means you need to be RSA accredited, and as part of that would need to have adequate water (must be free) if providing alcohol. So even if the wedding organisers were paying vs individual guests paying they would need adequate water to serve, together with other RSA requirements. That’s what’s confounding me.

MaggieFS · 01/08/2022 12:32

OMG OP, you weren't at Boris & Carrie Johnson's bash were you 😂

PragmaticWench · 01/08/2022 12:35

The lack of shade would have been as much of an issue for me. There's no way I could have stayed as I have a condition that means I burn fast, even with hard-core sun lotion on.

VerifiedBot2351 · 01/08/2022 12:36

So nobody washed their hands after five pm? 😠

Staynow · 01/08/2022 12:38

Sounds miserable, I'd probably have just left after an hour or two. Who doesn't provide any free drinks for their guests, not even with the food?? Who would have an event out in the sun with no water for the kids?? The food sounds pretty crap too - sounds like it was just about having amazing pictures for instagram and they couldn't care less about the guests. Maybe they were in league with the drink sellers and the plan was for them to make a profit themselves from everyone having to buy all those drinks!

Comefromaway · 01/08/2022 12:40

That's awful. I would have no objection to my kids having coke/sprite for one day but my ds would never touch anything fizzy at all. (He's now 18 and still will not). I too, could probably tolerate one fizzy drink but it's not pleasant for me. On a roasting hot day you need water.

Shadowmallow · 01/08/2022 12:40

The drinks were done by a local company that rents out mobile bars. I'm surprised they never had any bottled water available as standard, but one of the bartenders said the organisers didn't choose to the option to offer water.

All the beer and cider ran out by about 5/6pm too actually. All that was left for the evening was vodka, gin, tonic and £3 cans of coke.

I think it was probably pretty unpleasant for the bartenders and caterers being stuck there all day too, and also no idea how they would have washed their hands. Guessing they had hand sanitiser etc but not ideal. Another thing - there were no bins either! Rubbish piled and chucked everywhere, so sad. We had a couple of bags for life in the car and did a bit of a sweep.

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Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:42

Yes there should have been but you know. These things happened and you very kindly helped out by getting water.

Clymene · 01/08/2022 12:43

That sounds like a really shit wedding

alwaysmovingforwards · 01/08/2022 12:47

Clymene · 01/08/2022 12:43

That sounds like a really shit wedding

Sounds like generally shit event management, regardless that it's a wedding.

drspouse · 01/08/2022 12:49

My DD can't have artificial sweeteners or fizzy drinks (bladder issue) so we'd have been stuffed.