Ever since I met my husband he’s relied on me financially, I have always been financially independent so it wasn’t really an issue until I got pregnant. I asked him to step up while I was pregnant as he would have to start contributing more when I was on maternity leave and after the baby came. Every time I tried to talk to him he said I was putting g pressure on him. After the baby was born I broke down in tears begging him to step up but every time he either said he would and half hearted looked for other jobs or said I was putting too much pressure on him. I had to go back to work full time as debts were piling up. Over the years we’ve had the same conversation but nothing changes. Our child is now in school and we have a lot of debt as I have been supporting the family with very little financial support from him. My health has been badly affected. In an attempt to sort out our finances I looked into remortgaging our house only to find out my husband gambles hundred every month whilst always complaining he can’t contribute anymore because of his low paid job and it’s not his fault. When he was found out he said he did it to try and win money to clear our debts. He goes from one job to another as there’s always some issue which is never his fault. We have no savings and a lot of debt and I’m at the end of the line. I never wanted my marriage to fail or our child to have separated parents. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I just don’t feel that he respects me and is only with me because he relies on me financially. I tried to be supportive, helping him apply for jobs, always trying to understand when a job didn’t work out. Trying not to blame him but work together as I believed in our marriage. I just don’t know where to go from here, any advice gratefully received