Pressuring kids to eat their food

[Sparkles20]

So I'd like some clarity on this please.
Last night me and DS6 went round DP for dinner. She has a DD10.

DD is a nightmare atm at meal times. She tries to distract us by talking while eating so she doesn't have to finish her tea. All she wants to eat is sweets and sweet stuff. So she was doing her usual at dinner last night. My DS had pretty much ate all his, had a few bits left.

DP snapped and said she was fed up of them not eating all their dinner all the time and they have to eat every bit of their tea to get pudding. I said we'll it's OK to leave small bits isn't, they aren't expected to have every single crumb. She said it's my house and my rules and if they want pudding they have to eat it all. She then scrapped all the crumbs in DS dish and made him feel like he had eat it. I told her I thought she was being harsh and walked in the kitchen to clear my plate.

I feel she was taking her frustration of her DD out on my DS.

Tonight when I got home she's gone mad at me for saying she was harsh in front of the children. I've told her though that it wasn't OK to make my DS feel like he had to eat the last few small bits of food on his plate when he had done well to eat most of his food. She's now blocked me.

Aibu?

Yes that’s what I saw it as. The type of parent who never sets boundaries/makes rules then suddenly snaps and tries doing time outs/forcing tidying up/healthy eating. But then gets frustrated because it obviously doesn’t work being suddenly strict with a child who has no boundaries so doesn’t understand the expectations.

Honestly op I think you’re well rid. What are you looking for in the future? Because it doesn’t seem like this could be a good stepfamily/blended family situation since you sound like a normal and balanced parent and she simply doesn’t.

Maybe you could go to the concert with a friend/family member so you’re not missing out.

Do you struggle with comprehension? Surely you could understand from the op that she isn’t saying she visited her parents who also happen to have a very small child? Everyone else managed to understand perfectly what was going on, and op even further clarified. Maybe you could work on your reading comprehension a bit so you can understand simple contextual information.

Or his parents, I suppose. Depending on if op is male or female. But either way it’s silly to pretend it’s such a super confusing post that you couldn’t understand the simple thing that was going on.

You think I’m “pretending”…??

jesus.

Apologies I’m so fucking stupid that I didn’t guess the acronyms as a relative newcomer

Maybe you could work on your reading comprehension a bit so you can understand simple contextual information.

You would never dare to say this to anyone in real life, but well done for being snide on the Internet - hope it makes your day

She's weird and now she blocked you. How childish.

She sounds abusive. Do you think she is?

DP is used on about 50% of posts on Mumsnet and is common across plenty of other Internet fora. It would take 2 seconds to Google if you don't know what it means and then you wouldn't need to come across as so aggressive.

It would take 2 seconds to Google if you don't know what it means

That could be applied to 50% or more of the posts in this forum alone

Fine if you say that, but I couldn’t tell from the OP if it was dear parent, or dear partner

but why not just write out the word instead of this cliquish acronym nonsense.

we write to be understood. If one or two people don’t understand, you’ve failed. If someone has to Google what you’re writing to clarify, you’ve failed.

If someone said ‘no idea what that meant, couldn’t understand any of it’ to someone saying ‘John did xyz the other day’ because they didn’t know who John was I’d say exactly that. The question was about the behaviour. Your apparent utter lack of comprehension because you didn’t understand one small part makes me think you’d have been better not commenting if you couldn’t pick out the main issue.

My partner and I have been together just over a year and would never dream.of trying to impose rules on each others kids like this, she has massively overstepped here in my opinion.

Jeez@Sparkles20
Your poor son.
Your partner reminds me of the old Pink Floyd video with the awful headmaster cartoon
” Ye don’t get yer puddin til you have eaten all yer meat!”

I was force fed as a child, at a Day nursery and dreaded mealtimes so much It became a phobia .

You were absolutely right to defend your son.

I wonder what has happened since July, since this is when it happened.

The beginnings of an eating disorder come from emotional stuff. This can involve the way a child is instructed around food but it’s the psychological stuff behind - which plays out around everything. I’m not understanding the relationship is this dear parent or dear partner?

Psycho. Get rid of her.