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Tips for going LC

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lm4321 · 28/07/2022 10:04

I have 1 parent, who is very hard work. I made the decision to go LC and I’m very happy with this. For various reasons I don’t want to go NC but parent is always questioning why they can’t see more of my teenage children, their only grandchildren. Teenagers are really not keen to see grandparent.
When put under pressure to arrange a visit I have used the mumsnet favourite of ‘that doesn’t work for us’ and it’s been tough and I’ve been met with hostility. I’ve often given genuine explanations as to why we won’t all do what parent wants which includes busy work/school/club schedules but any tips on how to respond to the pressure that is put on me would be much appreciated. I’m not keen to outright lie as it’s not setting a great example to my teens but also why should I have to? I’m an adult who can choose how much time they spend with people, including narcissistic family members!

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HoppingKangaroo · 28/07/2022 10:57

I have a similar problem but with a toxic controlling narcassitic Mil and its trying to get DH on board as well. No advice other than continuing with things like that doesn't work for us. Look up the grey rock method for interacting with narcissists. Keep personal information about yourself and what you doing to a minimum. Plan big events like birthdays and Christmas in advance so they can't hijack and try to take over. Have some good scripted replies ready to repeat to certain conversations and situations you know always comes up with them.

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