DSS is 15, is bright but is naturally lazy and will do the minimum. Isn't badly behaved but certainly knows how to push his teachers buttons. Over the past 12 months he has been trying to find less and less reasons to attend school. He isn't being bullied. He wants to be home schooled, he doesn't see why we can wfh and he can't. In his view he can get his course work done in 2 hours why spend 6 hours in school. We don't want to home school him. None of us have the capacity, although his mum is so exhausted by the fight she is considering starting her working day at 4am, so she can help him in the afternoon, which is madness. He wants to go to uni, but has no idea what to study. Last term he was frustrated by his grades B + / C's, but he really did the minimum. This term he'll get a shock because he's hardly been there. Are we being unreasonable to start to using 'nice things' as an incentive for him to go to school, at the moment we had a restaurant booked (his choice) this weekend and we are currently planning a trip to Asia. Do we cancel dinner? And say he need 100% to come on holiday or will that just push him further lack of motivation?