To think some people on mumsnet are not from this world?

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Or rather most people on mumsnet. I’m shocked very often of how people react. I’m half way through reading a thread that’s 9 pages long and I’m gobsmacked by some of the comments. Seriously people cannot be living in the same world as me. I’m not gonna say what thread as I don’t want to draw attention to the poor OP whose having a hard time. I keep reading the comments and shocked. It’s not even a huge thing it’s an everyday question she/he asked.

at least 3 or 4 threads a week seem to be like this more and more I would say recently. Does anyone else feel like this?

@florianfortescue I made the mistake of asking a completely innocuous question on a thread yesterday.
Got called allsorts entitled, thick and various other things.

Apparently you should never ask others, that's lazy. You should only ever Google.

Ironically the thread was about people being rude. Sigh.

I do think that when my DC were tiny and I lived with my parents (helpful financially but controlling, and they projected a lot on to me) posting all my opinions did make me feel a bit more heard, a bit more important. It was subconscious, but I can see why people get in to the habit of handing posters their arse on a plate.

They feel higher up the food chain, for a moment.
It's fleeting though, so, rinse and repeat until they get a job/leave the loser/find themselves or all three.

Classic MN scenarios:

Q: OP posts a thread describing any type of negative behaviour from DH
A: She must leave that bastard immediately and made to feel like she will be a weak, non self-respecting doormat if she chooses to stay. Of course, many posters have no idea what sort of context exists outside the behaviour described, and are probably not living in the lap of happiness or luxury themselves but still instructing OP to do exactly what they did.

Q: OP posts a thread describing disruptive/unpleasant behaviour from children
A: Lots of thoughtful responses from parents of children with ASD/ADHD which leads OP to consider assessment or re-evaluate the situation with more compassion.

Q: OP posts a thread describing unpleasant or odd behaviour from an adult, either DH/PIL/sibling/friend
A: Said adult is an utter garbage human being and any sort of remote suggestion that they might have undiagnosed ND issues is absolutely forbidden. You must NEVER EVER equate bad behaviour in adults with ASD/ADD, regardless of the fact that both disorders were far less known let alone diagnosed & treated many decades ago. Interestingly, the most vehement crusaders on MN of forbidding anyone to suggest that difficult behaviour in adults could potentially be ND are ND adults who have been diagnosed themselves.

Q: Literally anything about Meghan & Harry
A: You are racist. Don't even think of going any further.

Q: OP is worried about how much her toddler eats and posts a typical daily meal plan which clearly contains more food and calories than most full grown adults eat.
A: Unanimous agreement that it's "perfect normal and healthy" and all kids "need the calories". This is odd considering 1/3 of UK adults are obese and the weight boards on MN are full of people with extremely unhappy relationships with food stemming from childhood.

People often say that posters on here are nasty, too forthright, there's a pile-on etc. I've honestly seen very little of that and I've been here for donkeys years. People are often blunt, straight-talking and no-nonsense but rarely nasty. People do say things that they wouldnt say IRL but that's the beauty of it. You get honest opinions that social niceties put a stop to IRL. If you want to be brought back down to earth and a cold dose of reality, this is the place for it.

I admit I have noticed a lot of misandry, classism, job shaming, and anti-autistic ableism on MN. As well as "ugh, everyone fancies me" threads.

However my personal favourite is:
"My husband is fat and gives me the Ick" threads.
Mumsnet replies are along the lines of "YANBu, LTB. He sounds disgusting!".

Followed by:
"DH spends to much time at the gym/cycling/playing golf/playing football".
Mumsnet replies are along the lines of "LTB, he's a hobby obsessed man-child who's vain".

Anyone else see the contradiction?

This!!

The ones I have a problem with are they people who take one sentence from a posters paragraph and it's then taken out of context when the rest of what they wrote is perfectly reasonable and concedes certain points.
It can be very brutal. Going against the tide of the general consensus is so hard on here too , some threads are just echo chambers and woe betide the one with a different point of view.
It can also be supportive and have some very good advice too though and it's good people have an anonymous place to post. People are rarely as blunt in real life. It's also made me think a lot too.