Paedophile condemning Paedophiles.. WWYD?

[Hypocriticalbxstard]

NC.

When I was 12 I was taken advantage of by an older bloke i was introduced to by an ex friend. I don't know his exact age at the time other than that he was in his early 20's so very much an adult, he had a car and his own place. An adult.

Fast forward to tonight somebody on my friends list shared a video from one of them paedophile hunting groups, they'd caught somebody from our town so the clip was doing the rounds.

I go to the comments and the first thing I see is this bloke, writing about how the bloke that got caught is this that and the other. The hypocritical wanker.

He's now a dad. He has kids of his own and a pregnant fiance. He plays step dad to her daughters, all information I obtained from a quick scan of his profile.

What would you do, if anything.

Would you tell his partner what he did?

I didn't report it to the police as sadly he was just one of many who exploited my vulnerabilities back then, I'm just so angry to see him playing the doting family man.

I’d probably reply to his comment “bit rich considering you had sex with me when I was 12 and you were 20-odd” but fuck knows what the fall out would be (I am no diplomatic).

Sorry that this happened to you. Men are pigs.

I'm so tempted to write something I'm practically sitting on my hands. The only things stopping me are 1) the stress it'll cause a heavily pregnant woman and 2) the last time I "outed" one of the fuckers (not publicly) a relative of theirs went about telling people I'd been "a slag since puberty" so alot of victim blaming 😔

Oh I know exactly how you're feeling OP, I had very similar with the guy who raped me aged 13. I recognise the anger, the panic that he's clearly around other young girls and the feeling that you should do something but honestly, it's more likely to end up hurting you than helping anyone else. Obviously you have to make your own decision but just make sure you think through what could happen if you message and whether you're strong enough to cope with it. I understand your instinct to protect others but you matter too and this will be raking up all sorts of emotions for you, just make sure you look after yourself first and foremost. I hope you're ok, I'll be around a while longer if you want to talk, here or PM

Fuck off with your victim blaming.

Fucking hell. You’re not serious.

Seconded

12 year olds never look 18 and they certainly don’t act it. However that’s beside the point as what happened was child abuse and was not her fault.

OP I’m so sorry for what’s happened to you. I wouldn’t write anything on social media. I also think telling the girlfriend would just backfire and you’ll be very stressed and hurt. Unfortunately I think the only way to protect the children is to report to the police which would be really hard for you to do.

I’m so sorry you’ve had such a hard life. I hope you’ve got a loving support network now.

👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻what @alnawire said!!!

Op I'd probably say something, that's utterly disgusting and he appears to be suffering some memory loss.

12, that's still very much a child and if I was his fiancée I'd want to know.

I'm sorry that happened to you op I truly am.

You are disgusting.

lol yeah
I always mistake preteens for adults.

Jeez funnyface drop the victim blaming pls. OP doesn't have to explain her past to us, she's asking for advice about a present-day situation.

OP I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I can see the attraction of throwing an online grenade. If you're in a place in life where you can deal with the consequences, why not - I wouldn't worry too much about the pregnant partner; the sooner she knows who she is with the better.

The victim blaming and not being believed is the bigger concern. How much interest do the police take in these vigilante groups? Would they care to be told that there's a total two-faced hypocrite involved?

And what do you think of the vigilante groups, or this particular one? If you don't like it, you could contact your abuser privately and tell him to stop it/stfu or you'll 'out' him.

Or you could tell the police about the abuser without even bringing his vigilantism into it. Unfortunately this is likely to devolve into an ordeal, judging by what you hear/read about how women reporting sexual assault are treated by police. You've got plenty of options, but no easy one - I suspect doing nothing would rankle too....

I've had to deal with a certain amount of hypocrisy around domestic abuse and found it really sickening. I'd say approach the whole thing from the angle of 'what will help me heal'? You don't owe anyone any particular course of action.

Unbelievable. The only reason you can think of for a underage girl being multiply victimised is that she must have looked older? Wow. No wonder we have scandals like Rotherham.

Sorry this has come back from the past for you OP. 💐

Reported for being vile and totally unnecessary.

Sorry OP you shouldn't have to put up with this shit.

Aged 12, I was very nearly assaulted sexually by a much older family friend. His intentions were very clear. I got away and never told a soul. I didn't look or act older than my years. I figured that if my Dad found out he would likely kill him and end up in jail. So I kept my mouth shut. When I was 23 I discovered that the same person had been sexually assaulting two 4-5 year olds around about the time it happened to me. One of them was my younger sister. She has had years of working hard to overcome the awful things she experienced. I feel your pain. I could have prevented what happened to her but it never crossed my mind he would target tiny little girls. In this case, I wouldn't necessarily blow the story out for all to see,but I would most definitely find a way to make it known to police or social work just to make sure that if he is still that kind of monster, your words could prove invaluable in supporting and/ or preventing another victim when they speak up. In my case,I will never forgive myself for not speaking up at the time. You cannot erase the past but you can take your past and make it improve someone else's future Maybe you could voice your concerns in a manner which limits your involvement and your identity?Ultimately your decision. I wish you all the best.

I don’t know what to advise you, OP, but if you’re not ready to make a public accusation but also want to say something, you could leave a reply along the lines of ‘Haven’t seen you in years’, to leave him sweating.

Sorry this happened to you.

Chances are more that the OP was vulnerable with very few safeguards in place.

It's not that irregular for abused children to be abused in various different places, when there's a vulnerability it'll be picked up on by abusers.

@Laloca2000

I am so sorry this happened to you. There is absolutely no way you are in any way culpable for the harm an adult man inflicted on other children. He is solely responsible for his actions and the harm and hurt your sister endured, and I'm so sorry she has suffered because of this man's actions.

This is the influence of a victim blaming culture. The perpetrator is erased, almost as he is are a force of nature with no self-control, and it is the job of victims and potential victims to protect themselves and others from harm.

Sounds like we've had some similar experiences. Firstly, I just want to say fuck your abusers apologist family members. Somehow, it often seems that the abused child is easier to blame than the abusers themselves. First time I was abused, it wasn't questioned by the family whether he had done it, but I was a slag asking for it (I was 3 years of age) these things were repeated to my sister some years later when she got in touch with her father (my abusers nephew)

What would the fall out mean for you if you said something?
Do you know if this is his first child with the fiance? Sorry I remember you said he's a father, but I'm thinking, if not to the children in the house already born, she could still face a chance of escaping him.
She could get him out of the house and potentially not put his name on the BC thus reducing some of the problems. Or even getting SS involved to help protect her child before it's born.

Thank you @dramakween . I distinctly remember thinking I was protecting my Dad from possible trouble because I knew how he would react. He was fiercely protective of us. It's weird to think that now but that was genuinely my 12 year old thought process. My sister is now living her best life but sadly this never leaves. My heart goes out to all victims, no matter their age.

@Laloca2000 It's so understandable you felt that way as a child. Feeling like it was your job to protect your dad may have given you some feeling of control in the situation, which would have helped you to feel a bit safer. Good to hear your sister is living her best life, that's a true triumph.

What an appalling response, shame on you.