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To think if you don't let people join stationary traffic you're a dick.

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WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 08:29

I hate drivers who do this, I don't get why you'd be a dick for the sake of saving yourself 1 second.

Sat in stationary or slow moving traffic, if there is someone waiting on a side road to join I would always let them in, I can't go anywhere and I need to leave a gap for people in the opposite direction wanting to go up that road anyway so why not? After they'd gone, id move up and I imagine the person behind me would then let the next person in if anymore were waiting and so on...

Yet I see so many drivers speeding up on purpose if they see someone trying to join or not letting cars in when they can't go anywhere anyway. What's the point of being a cunt? It saves about 1 second of your journey!

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Sparklingbrook · 25/07/2022 09:46

This thread explains a lot as to why there’s so many drivers that don’t know about the zipper system. 🙈
is it regional? DS drives ‘down South’ all the time and when she drove up to visit commented that drivers around here don’t know to do it.

Goawayangryman · 25/07/2022 09:47

Agree in your scenario that you should let people join.

Bollocks am I letting in the knobheads in the white audis who don't want to wait like everyone else when there is a lane closure. And to say that not letting people in makes queues "longer", that is not physically possible because the volume of cars is the same whether you have one or two lanes of traffic. Merge in turn when you have a permanent merge lane. Highway code can get lost where there is a closure and people have had forewarning of a closed lane.

Hopeandlove · 25/07/2022 09:50

Leave 5 minutes earlier and let anyone out - easy no?

Mayorquimby2 · 25/07/2022 09:52

Cantanka · 25/07/2022 09:41

It’s fine for merge in turn, but I am always furious when there is a queue to turn, and people don’t join that queue but power up the other lane to go straight on then try to cut in to the queue at the last minute. AND PEOPLE ALWAYS LET THEM. Why?!

Preach.
Cheeky cunts. First against the wall.

Much more annoyed at the idiots letting them in

dworky · 25/07/2022 09:53

Totally depends on whether they're pushing in, having refused to queue. In that case, you're not a dick but a righteous crusader 😀

CounsellorTroi · 25/07/2022 09:56

Tippexy · 25/07/2022 08:39

Cunts are amazing things, they provide pleasure and can do some pretty amazing things. Why do you use the word as an insult?

Equally true of dicks, I suppose.

GoldenSpiral · 25/07/2022 09:56

It depends on the side road. There are certain side roads in our town that are used as short cuts when traffic is bad on the main road. It can mean you're waiting in traffic for approx. 10 mins. The people that try to drive around this traffic and 'push in' at the end of the main road by the side road are let in by some and not others. I don't let them in. Other side roads, then of course I do.

Shade17 · 25/07/2022 09:56

Goawayangryman · 25/07/2022 09:47

Agree in your scenario that you should let people join.

Bollocks am I letting in the knobheads in the white audis who don't want to wait like everyone else when there is a lane closure. And to say that not letting people in makes queues "longer", that is not physically possible because the volume of cars is the same whether you have one or two lanes of traffic. Merge in turn when you have a permanent merge lane. Highway code can get lost where there is a closure and people have had forewarning of a closed lane.

There’s only one knobhead there. I will happily drive in the empty lane past all the thick cunts who don’t know how to drive properly.

Purplepeople12 · 25/07/2022 09:57

And I will be the there not letting you!!!

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 09:59

FloydPepper · 25/07/2022 09:40

No comment from OP on all the people pointing out her error when it comes to merge in turn?..

My OP wasn't about merge in turn, people have completely derailed the thread about it though..

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Sparklingbrook · 25/07/2022 09:59

This thread makes me think it’s best not to get the car out today. The lack of understanding is top notch.

Mayorquimby2 · 25/07/2022 10:04

"And to say that not letting people in makes queues "longer", that is not physically possible because the volume of cars is the same whether you have one or two lanes of traffic"

Of course it is physically possible 😂😂

If you decide to make one long line, for no reason other than your unilateral decision that this is correct and right to do so, and that one long line snakes back beyond earlier junctions, turns or exits, when 2 short lines would not have done so, you now have cars in that line that would have otherwise been off that road at an earlier in time.

They're now needlessly part of a pointless tailback.

If they wanted you to be in one lane 2 miles earlier, they would have closed the other lane at that point.

The studies show zipper merging is more effective.

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 10:06

Can I repeat again that this thread was not supposed to be anything about merging in turn or two lane roads... Sigh.

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Mayorquimby2 · 25/07/2022 10:09

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 10:06

Can I repeat again that this thread was not supposed to be anything about merging in turn or two lane roads... Sigh.

Think you'll have to accept that this thread is now a runaway train and it's going to be a culture war on merging.

Whiskeypowers · 25/07/2022 10:09

Rayn22 · 25/07/2022 08:31

I would on a side road but not if they are just pushing in when the road merges into one. They have come speeding down the outer lane and want to push in! No way! Why is their journey more important than mine they don't have to sit in traffic!

Merging in turn you mean 🙄
people like you tho do this are not only being pathetic but actually showing their lack of knowledge with regards to merging in turn and the Highway Code

JulieMarooley · 25/07/2022 10:10

Depending on the location, I would probably think the car in the side road had deliberately taken a short cut to skip the traffic queue.

Even if they just happened to live down that side road I don’t think it makes them more entitled not to wait, than the cars behind you, which is the decision you’re making when you let them out.

I wouldn’t actually block the road though, as that’s against the rules and you could end up stuck blocking people turning right/turning in/an ambulance.

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 10:10

Mayorquimby2 · 25/07/2022 10:09

Think you'll have to accept that this thread is now a runaway train and it's going to be a culture war on merging.

Looks that way. PP even asked why I'd not been back to comment on people pointing out my error about merging. MY OP WASN'T ABOUT MERGING ffs 😂

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Whiskeypowers · 25/07/2022 10:11

Purplepeople12 · 25/07/2022 09:57

And I will be the there not letting you!!!

tragic

HunterHearstHelmsley · 25/07/2022 10:11

Cantanka · 25/07/2022 09:44

If you are on the main road out and let someone queuing at the side roads in front of you thats great for them and as you say you've only let one person out so -but for the person who is 10th in the main queue behind you if every first person lets one person out they suddenly become 20th in the queue. And there are enough people always trying to get out the first few exits that the people who have joined the queue in the back never get to go anywhere

this is the problem. Also if there are 5 side roads in the stretch of traffic, and everyone at each of them let’s someone in, the queue just doesn’t move for people at the back of the main queue.

There's nothing more infuriating than being stuck behind someone who let's someone out at every single junction. They seem to think they're being polite but they're being a mega cunt to every one behind them.

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 10:11

Even if they just happened to live down that side road I don’t think it makes them more entitled not to wait, than the cars behind you, which is the decision you’re making when you let them out.

And if everyone thought like this, no one would ever get out would they.

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CallOnMe · 25/07/2022 10:13

I would on a side road but not if they are just pushing in when the road merges into one.

I agree!

There are some places this is acceptable and some that aren’t and if every other car is in the left hand lane and the right hand lane is empty there’s obviously a reason.

I am not brave enough to block them coming in though and leave that up to the lorries or 4x4s who don’t mind getting the abuse.

I don’t let it bother me though as some people may not have driven on that road before so I tell myself they’re not from round here.

I always let cars out from side roads though if I am in slow moving traffic.

Luckystar1 · 25/07/2022 10:14

I live on a ‘side road’ that people use as a rat run and speed down causing a massive nuisance.

I’m always DELIGHTED when they aren’t let into traffic on the main road that they could’ve stayed on and actually shortened their journey rather than flying down our road thinking they are modern day geniuses!

So no, I don’t agree in every scenario that side streets should be let out just because they magically appear.

DilemmaDelilah · 25/07/2022 10:16

I nearly always let people out of side roads. However if I can see that they have only just arrived and they are being aggressive by pushing forward into non-existent gaps then no - I don't let them out.

WhyBeADick · 25/07/2022 10:17

Luckystar1 · 25/07/2022 10:14

I live on a ‘side road’ that people use as a rat run and speed down causing a massive nuisance.

I’m always DELIGHTED when they aren’t let into traffic on the main road that they could’ve stayed on and actually shortened their journey rather than flying down our road thinking they are modern day geniuses!

So no, I don’t agree in every scenario that side streets should be let out just because they magically appear.

I guess if you know the person has done it deliberately to cut the traffic but how do you know this generally about every single car? You can't just never let anyone in IN CASE they cut the traffic. They could have a genuine reason for being on that road. My son's nursery for example is up a side road like this. If every single person in the line of traffic on the main road thought 'im not letting her in because she probably only used it to cut traffic' I'd never get out!

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CallOnMe · 25/07/2022 10:18

Even if they just happened to live down that side road I don’t think it makes them more entitled not to wait, than the cars behind you, which is the decision you’re making when you let them out.

Some places you will never get out of unless someone lets you out.

I know what it’s like waiting to be let out which is why I do it for other drivers.

If everyone let one car out then the traffic would continue to move slow and steady and you’ll only a couple of minutes (if that) behind what you would have been if no one let anyone out.

I don’t understand the thought process of people who think that their journey is more important than anyone else’s.

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