to not let DS2 go to the beach every night

[FunnysInLaJardin]

DS2 is 12 and over the summer a couple of his mates and their mums have taken to going to a beach 30 minutes from us every night. They go from 7 to around 10pm.

Every night they ask him to go with them.

We eat at about 7.30-8pm every night and so this really eats into our evening. Our evening meal is the only time we all really have to get together.

So my AIBU is should I let him go every night or is a couple of nights a week enough. It feels intrusive to me tbh

We do go to the sea with him regularly as we have a beach just down the road.

Nope , no you didn't. Nor did I. Not did my sister or friends.the one thing age teaches you is that parents knew a hell of a lot more than they let on.

Both dsis and I discovered decades gone after that there were checks and balances in place even then. Even allowing for the nineties and the 00's it's a bit naive and silly to still think as an adult that you actually hid it. Kind of amazes me anyone over the age of 21 believes that rubbish.

I find it quite telling the "certain" parents who claim all dc are out drinking and meeting girls. My nephew was more than allowed to do that and had very little interest until he was a lot older. Not all dc do that.

I was 33 before I found out that my family knew my tell that I had been drinking was to slightly miss the top step on the landing (slight hard step with one foot rather than another , not an actual fall or stumble) and had known this since I was 16. My dsis would magically "appear" to say hello and whisper not to wake my parents (spoiler....they had already heard and were fully aware she was likely to check I hadn't had too much to drink and made myself unwell they had long figured out all they needed to do was listen).

You hid very little.

I'd keep a few nights for family time.
Friends are important but so is family.

At 12? I hope one of them isn't driving there!