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To be upset over this?

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MovieQueen12 · 23/07/2022 21:57

Was at a BBQ today and my neighbours 7 year old kept looking at me curiously. As I left to get a drink, I overheard her say to her mum "Why does (my name) have such a long nose?" and she replied with 'It's just how God made her.'
It made me feel really embarrassed and ashamed. I know she's just a kid but I feel like a freakshow. 😞

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FindingMeno · 23/07/2022 21:59

I think you're taking yourself too seriously!

riotlady · 23/07/2022 22:06

Awww I wouldn’t worry, kids say all sorts of things! I’ve had them tell me I look “a million years old”- I was 22 at the time!

whenwillthemadnessend · 23/07/2022 22:09

Bless you. My friends dd said I had funny lines on my forehead when she was about 7 I've had A fringe ever since.

Little kids say stuff they shouldn't but I'm sorry you had to hear it. 💐

Mally100 · 23/07/2022 22:11

My 6yo would know thats rude. This child should know better. The mum's response was good though.

LoisPlane · 23/07/2022 22:20

Ds3 (5) was looking at my mouth very intently the other evening, when sitting next to me whilst I read him a story.

I asked what he was looking at (nicely, not as confrontational as that sounds!) and he said 'your tee...oh nothing'.

We carried on reading and about 2 minutes later he said very sweetly 'mum, why do some people have yellow teeth with black bits on them?' 😲😭

I thought I had fairly decent teeth before that...im assuming the 'black bit' he could see was a filling I have at the back and only due to his angle below me. But honestly, it made me feel awful and massively self conscious. I've bloody analysed my teeth from all angles since and they don't seem yellow to me but I've started brushing them with bicarb now in case I'm wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️

11Hawkins · 23/07/2022 22:21

I wouldn't give it any thought, kids just say whatever comes to their minds at that age.

LadyLolaRuben · 23/07/2022 22:24

Kids say stuff like this. When I was a kid I thought my own nose was bad. When I got to 19 I realised its actually really small

homarr · 23/07/2022 22:35

Don't think too much in to it. Kids are brutal.

My Daughter (5) has taken to telling me that people are fat when we walk past them. I've told her a few times that we don't say things like that.

The other day we walked past a man that was pretty large. I was thinking "oh god, please don't say anything". She didn't but I could see her staring towards me so I kept looking ahead. I finally looked at her and she had this massive smirk. I shook my head and looked away again. When I looked back she had a massive grin on her face and she shouted "That man looked like a massive pig Mum". I could have died.

I don't know how my experience helps this story but I'm sure your nose is fine!

Sux2buthen · 23/07/2022 22:39

You should've turned back and said 'all the better to smell you with my dear' and the grinned maniacally

OwlinaTree · 23/07/2022 22:43

I teach reception - I get so many children commenting on my less flattering features! I do feel like a witch at times!
Don't take it to heart op.

easyday · 23/07/2022 22:44

@Mally100 she didn't think the op could hear her - it's not like she said 'why is your nose so long' directly.
I was house hunting with my six year old and the owner was showing us around. We went to her teenage sons room and my daughter instantly said 'this room stinks'. She was right though.
Don't take it badly. Kids will ask whatever - they are curious.

StClare101 · 23/07/2022 22:44

homarr · 23/07/2022 22:35

Don't think too much in to it. Kids are brutal.

My Daughter (5) has taken to telling me that people are fat when we walk past them. I've told her a few times that we don't say things like that.

The other day we walked past a man that was pretty large. I was thinking "oh god, please don't say anything". She didn't but I could see her staring towards me so I kept looking ahead. I finally looked at her and she had this massive smirk. I shook my head and looked away again. When I looked back she had a massive grin on her face and she shouted "That man looked like a massive pig Mum". I could have died.

I don't know how my experience helps this story but I'm sure your nose is fine!

That’s awful. She clearly knows better as you have told her. It’s really mean spirited and if that were my child she wouldn’t hear the end of it.

CourtneeLuv · 23/07/2022 22:45

homarr · 23/07/2022 22:35

Don't think too much in to it. Kids are brutal.

My Daughter (5) has taken to telling me that people are fat when we walk past them. I've told her a few times that we don't say things like that.

The other day we walked past a man that was pretty large. I was thinking "oh god, please don't say anything". She didn't but I could see her staring towards me so I kept looking ahead. I finally looked at her and she had this massive smirk. I shook my head and looked away again. When I looked back she had a massive grin on her face and she shouted "That man looked like a massive pig Mum". I could have died.

I don't know how my experience helps this story but I'm sure your nose is fine!

🙊🙊🙊

godmum56 · 23/07/2022 22:48

I had a lovely couple with a little girl come to collect a freecycle item. The littlie was very chatty while the bloke was loading the car and when she was told it was time to go she gave me a big hug and said "You've got lovely huge bosoms" Poor mum went beetroot but I just said thankyou and saved my laughter for after they had left.

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 23/07/2022 22:50

My dch used to call our neighbour 'dragon lady' because she is tall and has lots of sticking-out hair. She is the kindest, gentlest person, though. She would be very upset if she knew, and rightly so!
Don't take it to heart - kids can be brutal, and they can be wrong!

JenniferBarkley · 23/07/2022 22:54

My 4yo recently stopped dead, pointed at a woman and asked at the top of her voice "mummy, what is that woman wearing". Her tone said it was something ridiculous that she'd never seen before - the answer was a perfectly normal, nondescript grey hoody.

It's strange sometimes the things that stand out to them.

(Yes, we're having lots of chats with DD ATM about discussing people, but she's 4 and the message is taking a while to sink in.)

MontanaMountains · 23/07/2022 23:05

Just ignore it. Kids can be so brutal. I'm an objectively attractive woman but I've had the following comments from children:

*Aunty Montana has walking sticks around her eyes (said by my nephew about my laughter lines).
*You don't have a top lip (said by my daughter), [I do have a top lip].
*Your eyes are yellow (said by my other daughter), [I don't have yellow eyes].
*Your mum doesn't look like Snape (my DD had told her school friend I looked like Snape [I don't look like Snape].

I'm now a granny and I clock my toddler granddaughter examining my face sometimes. I'm just waiting for the first hurtful observation.

I'm sure your nose is fine OP

TheWayoftheLeaf · 23/07/2022 23:05

Kids say all sorts. My cousins child asked why I was so hairy... I hadnt shaved my armpits in a day or two but they weren't jungles.

Maybe your nose is longer than hers and her mums? Who cares.

I get that it's upsetting though

Somethingsnappy · 23/07/2022 23:08

Sux2buthen · 23/07/2022 22:39

You should've turned back and said 'all the better to smell you with my dear' and the grinned maniacally

Yes!!

OP, there probably isn't a person alive who hasn't been on the receiving end of an unwelcome comment or question from a child, regarding appearances! My own daughter (3) informed me a have a big nose recently. I really don't!

homarr · 23/07/2022 23:09

Sux2buthen · 23/07/2022 22:39

You should've turned back and said 'all the better to smell you with my dear' and the grinned maniacally

Howling 😂😂😂

Diversion · 23/07/2022 23:10

A child once asked her Mum if I was a witch, Mum was shushing and the child just said well she has one of those things on her face like a witch (a mole). I giggled so much beccause I was entertained but did manage not to say and yes I eat children for breakfast because it wouldn't have been professional.

MarieKlepto · 23/07/2022 23:16

Oh, Gawd, they really are brutal little pests. I have been told I smell horrible and funny (had box dyed my hair that day and the smell does linger), being told I had horrible spots (three harmless moles on my neck). Personally I think my nose looks like a button mushroom so happy to swap tho' 😀

KylieCharlene · 23/07/2022 23:17

Most 7yr olds would know this is rude.
If my 7year old had said something like this then I'd have told her how unkind she was not glossed over it talking about God.
I don't think her Mum handled it well at all.
I'd be upset too, OP.

Ihatethenewlook · 23/07/2022 23:25

KylieCharlene · 23/07/2022 23:17

Most 7yr olds would know this is rude.
If my 7year old had said something like this then I'd have told her how unkind she was not glossed over it talking about God.
I don't think her Mum handled it well at all.
I'd be upset too, OP.

This. My 5 year old would know not to say something like this even out of the persons hearing range. He knows people come in all shapes and sizes. When my dd was 3 we were viewing a house with the owner, and as we were leaving I asked her what she thought of it, she said she liked it very much. As soon as she got home however she said she hated it as it smelled funny and the floors were squeaky and wonky. I think it’s pretty bad parenting for a 7yo to think this is an acceptable comment, and you can see why with the mums explanation without mentioning how rude the comment was

xprincessxjanetx · 23/07/2022 23:27

I'm sorry you were so upset by the comment, I probably would be too but remember that children don't really have much of a filter. This is something that I can imagine my (almost) 7 year old DD asking (she has autism so is a little socially awkward). However, I would have explained that everyone looks different and there is nothing wrong with that. I don't think the mum should have said about God but that's just me.