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Supernanny84 · 23/07/2022 19:40

My Son 24 lives at home with his gf (she's been here 11 months with her dog) Both live rent free as they have been saving for a house, they move in next week .
He's just had a major meltdown as he wanted to watch sport on the large TV in living room, he has one in his bedroom but only the main TV has the channel he wanted.
He wanted myself and his Dad to sit upstsirs on a Sat eve watching a 17 in tv in our bedroom. He's gone storming off, is it me??

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OP posts:
bevelino · 23/07/2022 19:47

Your son is being utterly ridiculous. Just say no.

Megapint · 23/07/2022 19:58

I dunno maybe I'm soft but if it's an infrequent request I would accommodate. When my Eldest has friends over & they want to watch something on the big TV me & Mr decamp to the bedroom.

LeviOsaNotLeviosAR · 23/07/2022 19:59

He wasn't wanting to watch the UFC was he? Because in fairness to him the card is stacked tonight... Grin

In all seriousness, ofc YANBU. Your son is being enormously entitled. You have every right to relax and enjoy your home without being relegated to your bedroom.

newhere989 · 23/07/2022 20:01

Nah, sorry he's entitled

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Supernanny84 · 23/07/2022 20:01

Yes he was.
Any other night I wouldn't bother prob, but Sat night is the only night we have a take out and Netflix.
He's sulking and I feel mean

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FayeGovan · 23/07/2022 20:01

Oh for christ sake, its one night, so what

ladydimitrescu · 23/07/2022 20:03

I'd have let him if it was a one off and something he's looking forward to.
It's lovely you allow them to live with you, but in doing so you accept it's his home too.

mbosnz · 23/07/2022 20:03

Um, them that pays the mortgage/rent gets dibs on the TV. Poor wee baby.

Bonjovispjs · 23/07/2022 20:07

He's a brat!

JePréfèreLesChiens · 23/07/2022 20:15

If it was a particular thing he was wanting to watch, I’d have let him, if that was the only TV to watch it on. Although, will it be something a pub will have on ax he could just go there? A bit ridiculous of him to storm off but as they move out next week I wouldn’t let it turn into anything bigger.

We have lots of TVs with all the subscriptions to ensure it doesn’t happen. 😂

MiWadiMyChoice · 23/07/2022 20:18

You and your husband should sit in your bedroom and chat about how you got it so wrong and managed to raise a man-child.

MontanaMountains · 23/07/2022 20:19

Those saying they'd pander to a grown man having a meltdown over watching sport are part of the problem. Tell him to go to the pub to watch it if he's so desperate. What an entitled brat.

Ragwort · 23/07/2022 20:21

He sounds an absolute brat ... and why have you allowed his GF to live with him in your home (& her dog Hmm). This is precisely why (& see another thread on a similar subject) I would never permit my adult DS to bring a GF home overnight ... and credit to him, he has never asked.

If your DS has asked very politely, in advance, and explained it was a special match perhaps you might have agreed. The fact he stormed off shows how inconsiderate he is.

Stomacharmeleon · 23/07/2022 20:24

As he is not paying rent tell him to get a better tv for his room and get sky multiroom/ freeview.

Do not move.....

EV117 · 23/07/2022 20:26

YANBU

If it’s a big key sporting event he could have probably found a pub to watch it in.

FayeGovan · 23/07/2022 20:26

Good lord @Ragwort ,youve never allowed your grown up son to have his gf stay overnight? Am i reading that right? What do you think will happen?

sunsetsandsandybeaches · 23/07/2022 20:29

He shouldn't have thrown a tantrum but was it really such a big deal to let him have the "big TV" for one night?

I think you were being daft by saying no 🤷🏻‍♀️

Herejustforthisone · 23/07/2022 20:58

Don’t feel mean. He’s a spoilt and entitled little twat.

Herejustforthisone · 23/07/2022 20:59

sunsetsandsandybeaches · 23/07/2022 20:29

He shouldn't have thrown a tantrum but was it really such a big deal to let him have the "big TV" for one night?

I think you were being daft by saying no 🤷🏻‍♀️

She lets him, his girlfriend and her dog live rent free so they can save for a house. Get a grip.

Testina · 23/07/2022 21:09

Supernanny wouldn’t feel guilty putting him in his place 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ragwort · 23/07/2022 22:06

Faye he's never asked, his GF lived with her family, fairly locally, and they didn't sleep over - not all young people do.

sunsetsandsandybeaches · 23/07/2022 22:07

She lets him, his girlfriend and her dog live rent free so they can save for a house. Get a grip.

What does that have to do with letting him use the main TV for a one-off special event?

Also, she didn't have to let them all live with her rent free - presumably she has free will and he didn't hold a gun to her head?

FayeGovan · 23/07/2022 22:42

Ragwort · 23/07/2022 22:06

Faye he's never asked, his GF lived with her family, fairly locally, and they didn't sleep over - not all young people do.

I must be unusual treating my grown up sons as adults then.

SummerL0ving · 23/07/2022 22:46

If he'd asked a few hours before then I could understand as you could have made arrangements to go out. Or if he'd asked a few hours ago and you said no, he could have arranged to go to a pub to watch it.

I don't think it's fair to kick you out the lounge at the last minute on a Saturday night.

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/07/2022 22:47

sunsetsandsandybeaches · 23/07/2022 22:07

She lets him, his girlfriend and her dog live rent free so they can save for a house. Get a grip.

What does that have to do with letting him use the main TV for a one-off special event?

Also, she didn't have to let them all live with her rent free - presumably she has free will and he didn't hold a gun to her head?

She presumably thought she was doing them a massive favour and they’d respond with gratitude rather than entitlement and bratty sulking.

It’s not his house.

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