To think enjoying time alone is ok?!

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I was talking to a friend today. Her DH is going away for a few nights with work and I passed comment on how nice it would be to have the house to herself for a few evenings once the kids were in bed. (He works late hours usually so she's not being 'left alone' with them any more than she's used to)

She was really surprised and said she would miss him and be bored.... I love my dh to bits but am I crazy to think a few evenings of watching what I like, eating what i like and having a quiet house after the kids are asleep sounds heavenly?!

Not crazy at all. Sounds like bliss to me. I love being alone but never am. 🙄

Same 😭

I love some time on my own.

YADNBU.

I recharge through having alone time. I love it.

I like a night or two when my DH is away. I find a few nights a bit too long though.

Not crazy, I love it when DH works away once DD is in bed that's my time. Even when he's home we quite often sit in different rooms doing different things, I enjoy my own company couldn't bare to be with DH constantly.

I thought the same!! I love my DH and I love him company but a few days of quiet sound PERFECT
I would have a bath for hours, read a whole book and eat whatever I fancied for dinner.

The dream

I love having time on my own whether it’s going out on my own (rare) or having a meal in front of the tv on my own. I really miss travelling on business when I could have a whole bedroom to myself and order room service.

Quite possibly an extrovert/introvert thing.

Dh and kids away today and I’m off work sick and alone for the first time in … actually I can’t remember!! Not feeling great but have watched tv, read and lounged on the couch. I think after about 2 days I’d be wanting to catch up in person though

Absolutely perfect! I would feel the same. Loved living on my own too. Family are lovely but I'm very happy in my own company too!

Not everyone feels it as space. She may just miss getting to spend time with him that is child free. Dh and I have different interests so he's out cycling etc or in another room gaming, so alone time is a big part of how our relationship works.

Of course it's ok! And of course it is also ok not to enjoy time alone - I know plenty of people who just feel uneasy when their DP is away.

My DH has been AT work 3 days this week (usually WFH now), and honestly the afternoon alone, quiet, no conversations... has been bliss!

I work mornings in a classroom, DH used to be AT work every day til covid, in the last 2.5 years I never seem to get that quiet afternoon that I used to, so this week has been lovely!

Oh blimey no I love it! Even better if he takes dc with him!

I'm alone right now and I'm sitting in absolute silence I don't even have the TV on. I'm a single parent and I only work term time so 3 weeks into the summer holidays it's been so needed! My children are staying with my parents tonight who live in the next street. My oldest is out playing and has just came into use the toilet and I felt like screaming 😂

Oh I would love that. Providing i had got all the house work done 😊

Or a clingy/not clingy thing.

I am quite partial to my DP, but I don't feel the need to spend all my time with him (and vice versa).

Does she sit in a corner and wait for his return when he's not home/ I love when mine's not home. Love that he's coming back but being alone to just do nothing is my favourite time of life.

My husband has been away with work all week, I've watched all my shit telly, eaten easy meals and generally enjoyed the peace and space (once the kids have gone to bed)
He's back now and it's good to see him but I definitely didn't miss him 😆

My DH went away on holiday recently and I loved being alone in the evenings when the kids were asleep 😌

I love being alone!! Sometimes my husband works a week of late shifts, so he has the house to himself during the morning, then I have alone time in the evenings and he comes in after I've gone to sleep. We're like ships in the night. Bliss.

One of the best things about it, though is that when we do meet back up again, we've got loads to catch up on and it makes it a fun evening. We usually make an effort to cook something nice and open a bottle and just enjoy each other's company.

Alone time is not just enjoyable but essential.

Dp and I are both introverted. We spend about 50% of our evenings together and 50% with him in the kitchen and me in the living room. It’s not like we organised it, but I’m much happier now. When we lived in a tiny open plan house I would have dreamed of him going away for a few days for a bit of ‘me time’. I don’t crave it as much now but I realise that’s a luxury thanks to moving.

I agree with another poster that it’s an introverted/extroverted thing.

Dh and I are nearly joined at the hip when we’re together but I love time alone too.