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To have pretended not to notice the shaved dog?

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SmellyToilet · 22/07/2022 12:21

PIL are extremely attention seeking. They believe they are practically celebrities in their local area but the truth is they’re largely unliked. I have had many comments along the lines of “poor you, having to put up with those two as in laws” etc

One thing FIL loves to do is get his long haired border collie completely shaved twice a year. He makes out he does it for the dog’s comfort but it’s clearly for attention as he suddenly walks the dog more after it has being shaved and practically invites comments on it. The dog looks ridiculous.

The first time I saw the dog shaved I was horrified and asked what had happened (assumed dog had been shaved by a vet or something). He was grinning from ear to ear and said it was dog’s summer outfit.

The second time I told him border collies are not meant to be shaved. He (again grinning and loving the attention) said “it’s my dog, I’ll do what I want with my dog.” Fair enough. Around this time other people were asking me what on earth he’d done to his dog. I suggested they not ask him about it as he was looking for attention, they agreed with me.

A few weeks ago I popped in and dog was totally shaved again. I patted her on the head and didn’t mention it. FIL then said “have you noticed anything different?” I said “no, what?” And he grinned and pointed to the dog. I looked at the dog and said “no, I don’t see anything different”. He said “how can you not see it! She’s got her summer outfit on!” I replied “oh right, no I never noticed” and changed the subject. He went in a right mood over it and is still bringing it up now saying stuff like “toilet won’t notice our new sofa, she doesn’t notice stuff” etc

Someone in shop came to me laughing asking how I’d managed to upset FIL as apparently he’s been in there fuming about me.

DH is now saying “can’t you just play along and tell him the dog looks great, or stupid or anything just to show him you noticed, just to keep the peace?”

AIBU to carry on not noticing?? The bloke drives me insane.

OP posts:
ArcticRoll2 · 23/07/2022 12:24

lol I can imagine him becoming infuriated with his attempts of attention seeking going down like a lead balloon 😂please keep ignoring them for the poor dogs sake. Maybe he will get the message. ITS NOT FUNNY

k1233 · 23/07/2022 13:08

If he wanted a short haired border collie then he should have bought one.

The post above re shaving being kinder is inaccurate. As noted in the post, the issue is the under coat, not coat length. Shaving/ clipping short retains undercoat. Doesn't get rid of it, retains it. To make double coated breeds more comfortable, you need to strip out the undercoat. That can either be with hand stripping or a tool such as the Mars Coat King. When you continually clip a double coat, the undercoat eventually crowds out the guard hairs. Then your dog has problems as it's now full of wooly warmth.

If you don't want to maintain a double coated breed, buy something else. I've got a cocker with a ruined coat because she was clipped for 3 years before coming to live with me. I've tried for 7yrs to recover the coat. It's not possible as she's got too much super soft undercoat, which constantly mats. My westie on the other hand barely tangles as he's never been clipped.

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