To be fed up of nursery sending my kid home filthy?

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and I don’t just mean a bit of paint on the clothes, mud on shoes etc. I mean dirty nappies at least one a week that have clearly been sat in for a while (poo molded around the bum cheeks). Food crusted all round her mouth. Hair in her face with her hair clip dangling off the end. Filthy hands, skinned knees with no plaster.

would I be OTT to complain?

That's disgraceful. The dirty nappy is enough for me, I'd be complaining on that alone. Poor baby

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But don’t they have smocks to wear for arts and crafts? I would be annoyed if my child came home looking like that too. Obviously the nappy, the graze and the encrusted food in the face are worse but I think they should be able to put a smock on them if they are doing arts or messy play.

Definitely talk to them about the nappy as otherwise they will continue to do it.

Food and dirty clothes is part of the experience. The skinned knee should have had an accident form done for her. Do they do these?

I work at a nursery fwiw

Definitely complain. I used to work in a nursery and this would absolutely not be acceptable. The dirty nappy is what really stands out, we used to still change their nappies even if they had a dirty nappy just after we handed them over, didn't want them sitting in their car seats dirty - they get sore.

The graze should be cleaned and covered to stop it getting infected.

Any first aider knows that, so you'd think they would too.

YANBU. That's horrific. I would complain and then move her.

Dirty clothes, I wouldn't mind. But letting her sit in a soiled nappy and sending her home with a dirty face is not good enough.

This wouldn't be acceptable in any nursery I've worked in. I'd move her.

The nappy is shocking. The rest really isn’t too bad.

That’s disgusting, I imagine if you sent her in like that they’d be reporting you to SS. A few times at nursery my DD was sent home without her face being wiped after lunch and I did mention it because that is just lazy. The soiled nappy is just neglectful, I would move nursery and report them.

It's a long time ago that my teen was in nursery, but she used to have 2-3 changes of clothing in her bag and I would expect her to be handed over in a clean(ish) condition with a clean nappy.

To think I complained about face painting!

I’d be annoyed at the nappy and maybe the dirty face. Our toddler comes home absolutely filthy though, all the children do. They spend 99% of their day playing outside in the few acres of land they have though so it’s expected. They definitely don’t wear overalls or smocks for anything, just sent with copious amounts of spares!

Both of my two did 3 years at nursery. Not once did they come home with a dirty nappy. I would have complained the first time I saw an obviously not recently dirtied nappy.
Staff are not looking after the children properly. Raise this tomorrow and ask why it is happening.

My boys have never come home like that. My 4 yo is still in nappies and nursery very clearly change him regularly as he comes home dry and his skin is very clean.

Absolutely unacceptable.

Absolutely I would complain. Ok so clothes are expected to get abit messy BUT if they are doing painting baking etc I'd expect an apron (it of course wouldn't stop all of it, but still...) I'd expect a comment/note about the graze, like pp said, as a parent we get asked about every bump and bruise as they go in to a childcare setting. Dirty nappy and face is neglectful.

I'd say just pull her out but for the sake of the other children I'd complain.

I have 4 dc and none of them have ever come out with their clothes that dirty, never mind regularly. Doesn't sound like a great place

I'd definitely complain and look at moving her

You should see my Year 1 class on spag bol day!!
However, we always clean up grazed knees and talk to parents about them. We also use aprons for painting or other messy stuff. I tidy hair up if children ask me to put bobbles or slides back in for them but, as nursery age children can't ask, I'd probably be likely to do that for them if I worked with children that young. Also the nappy is unacceptable.

The dirty nappy is a big no. I saw your title and thought it was going to be something silly about mud or paint but dirty nappy is completely different situation. I'd question whether the children are being taken care of properly. A complaint might not sort the problem itself out ... do you really want your children going there?

Ooh honestly I thought from the title you were being precious about paint on clothes but honestly the nappy thing is totally unacceptable. I've had a dirty nappy once from nursery in 6 months obviously just an oversight and didn't worry me. But if it's frequent that's definitely worrying.

Dirty face I'd be less bothered about though. Not great, but not a sign the children are being neglected imo.

The dirty nappies I would complain about, the dirty face would annoy me and the messy hair and dirty clothes are all part and parcel of nursery. As for the knee, it should have been cleaned and an accident form given to you to sign however as an early years practitioner we don’t cover grazes as we aren’t allowed to use plasters. If it needed a plaster we would have to phone home to check with parents first.

Nappy - totally unacceptable if that is happening regularly.

food on face- I’d expect them to help wipe up after a meal

hair- my daughter comes back with her hair looking better than when I send her in as they re-for it during the course of the day and are better at it than I am.

general grime/paint- not an issue. Mine comes back filthy from playing outside and having a lovely combo of dirt and suncream.

Exactly this. I would be furious and just get them out of there after explaining exactly why.

Grazes are generally covered with a sterile gauze and a small cotton bandage.