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Original poster

To go to a gig on my own?

26 replies

Stickortwister · 21/07/2022 16:31

Think I may just need a kick up the arse.

I have a ticket to see the prodigy tonight in London. When I bought the tickets I was going with my 18 year old son but hes gone travelling and my husband has other commitments.....
I've wanted to see them forever but fear I'm now overthinking it....
Is a solo 40 ish year old woman who is neither off her tits or drinking ( 2 hour drive either way) going to stand out like a sore thumb ?!?! I've realised that I havent even been to london on my own for about 20 years either!!! Ffs . Please someone hand me a grip!!

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Retrievemysanity · 21/07/2022 16:32

You’ll have a great time! Randoms will talk to you and take you under their wing 😀

squashyhat · 21/07/2022 16:37

Consider your arse kicked and have a great time!

ShandaLear · 21/07/2022 16:38

Do you love The Prodigy? If so, totally go to see them! I love gigs and go to loads. Lots and lots of people go alone. It’s not necessarily a thing to do with friends. It’s about living and loving the live music experience, and sharing the moment with loads of other people who also love the band. Go and have an amazing time.

19Bears · 21/07/2022 16:41

Oh please please go and see them!!! I've been to gigs on my own (and holidays on my own) several times and it's no problem at all. You might think you're going to stand out but trust me, nobody will notice or care! People are usually super friendly at gigs and I generally feel safer amongst a music crowd than anywhere else. You'll just get lost in the music, and The Prodigy are great :) Do it!!!!!

Od130990 · 21/07/2022 16:42

I seen a quote years ago ( cheesy I know ) but it's stuck with me for years and now I'll go & do anything alone.

You don't stop having fun because you're getting old
You're getting old because you stopped having fun.

Go and enjoy yourself woman! You'll only regret not going.

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Stickortwister · 21/07/2022 16:43

Thank you.

I'm feeling a bit less of the loser.
I do love them.....but I'm a country dwelling mother of 4 rather than a pill taking anarchist. Maybe this is a good opportunity to feel a bit more like "me" again

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Wotcha23 · 21/07/2022 16:44

I often go to gigs alone. Prefer it usually as I can stand where I want, not talk if I don’t want etc

ShinyMe · 21/07/2022 16:44

I only ever go to gigs on my own. Not once has anyone said anything or made me feel awkward. People might be thinking things about me but if they have, they've never made me aware of it, and I've had a good time. I don't drink at them either, just go and dance and enjoy myself. Life is far too short to miss out on things just because you don't have someone available to go with you.

GoldPig · 21/07/2022 16:46

Nobody else can tell you’re on your own. I’ve done lots of gigs solo and recommend it, it’s liberating not to work around other people’s moods/desires. But no Keith would make me sad 😢

Icouldbehappy · 21/07/2022 16:48

Been to loads on my own. Always meet new people there. Go and enjoy yourself.

KangarooKenny · 21/07/2022 16:49

I’ve been to two gigs on my own. I chatted to people around, it was fine .

squarky · 21/07/2022 16:53

I'm super jealous and would go with you in a heartbeat!
Have a great time and let us know how it goes!

SocksAndTheCity · 21/07/2022 16:55

Wotcha23 · 21/07/2022 16:44

I often go to gigs alone. Prefer it usually as I can stand where I want, not talk if I don’t want etc

So do I, for exactly the above reasons and more (and I'm going to see Prodigy on Saturday) 😀

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Stickortwister · 21/07/2022 17:01

Right. Mind made up. I'm going.
I will report back later

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19Bears · 21/07/2022 18:23

That did make me laugh @Stickortwister I'm the same as you! I'm quiet as a mouse and love nothing more than being up a hill or in a waterfall in the countryside, or in a library, or looking round a cathedral, but I flamin love The Prodigy, and early 90s hardcore metal ha ha!!! 😀 Have a great time!! X

Tomatoblush · 21/07/2022 18:48

I also have been to many a gig on my own and really enjoyed it.
Theres always a kind of camaraderie amongst people who like a certain band and it’s always been very friendly.
Glad you are going have FUN !!

GreyCarpet · 21/07/2022 18:50

I'm 47. I go to gigs and camp at festivals on my own. I love it.

Glad to hear you're going!

Thatnameistaken · 21/07/2022 19:05

I'm in my 50's (F) and have been to a couple of gigs on my own this year. There are a few bands I missed in past years because DP didn't want to see them, so I've decided from this year forth to just go. If you're into the band you'll enjoy it whether you're alone or not.

Blackdiame · 21/07/2022 19:07

Have a fucking amazing time.

UmbilicusProfundus · 21/07/2022 19:09

I would have thought that you are around the age of the average person going to that gig tbh so you won’t stand out at all!

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Stickortwister · 22/07/2022 07:48

Had an absolutely fabulous time.

Sweated more than I though humanely possible and danced A LOT.
most importantly everyone there was.lovely .

Didnt get in till 2:30 as the motorway was shut and got a bit lost as no satnav. Apart from that now over myself about going to start planning more solo trips for things I like rather than what dh and the children want to do

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maddening · 22/07/2022 07:54

I did this, went to a festival on a cruise ship by myself which sailed from Barcelona, had an amazing time, met loads of people and a new set of friends from all over the world who I have met up with virtually over covid and in rl when out of lockdown. It is lovely to and really self assuring to know you can do it.

Glad you had a fab time 🤩

ShinyMe · 22/07/2022 08:00

I definitely prefer going to stuff like that on my own. It leaves you totally free to enjoy it the way you want to - you can move to the front, or get in the middle of the dancing, or stand at the back, or leave early, without having to check with someone else or worry that they're not enjoying it or want to do something different. I've just left gigs early in the past too, when I've not been enjoying it, and it's lovely and liberating to just walk out without having to explain or apologise or anything.
Glad you enjoyed it OP, make sure you do it again!

Bonjovispjs · 22/07/2022 08:16

Glad you had a great time😊I desperately wanted to see Mika a couple of weeks ago, but none of my friends are into him like I am and I didn't have the nerve to go alone😪I think his fan base are a lot younger than me too, although that shouldn't really matter, but I know I'd feel self conscious. I'm regretting not going now and I live in London so it wasn't far from me, maybe I'll take a leaf out of your book for next time😊

beguilingeyes · 22/07/2022 08:29

I spent most of my life going to gigs on my own. Sometimes other people do not want to see the band you want to see/can't afford it.
Met most of the important people in my life that way. You've already got something in common with the people around you.