To ask how to behave at a funeral?

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edenhills · 19/07/2022 08:19

I am attending a funeral on Thursday. I have never been to one before and had an odd childhood where I wasn't really taught a lot of social conventions so I'm feeling quite stressed about it. I won't really know anyone there, should I try and talk to people or just keep to myself? Its my friends brother who has died who I only met a few times but I want to be there to support my friend. Should I take flowers? What kind? Are strappy sandles ok to wear. I have a long black dress but it has thin straps, should I cover my shoulders? Also how long do devices normally last? Thanks for any help you can give.

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Tarantass · 27/06/2023 13:33

Tarantass · 23/06/2023 07:04

I totally understand that attending a funeral can be a sensitive and unfamiliar experience, but it's great that you're seeking guidance on how to behave. Firstly, dress appropriately, opting for somber and respectful attire. Remember to maintain a quiet and solemn demeanor throughout the event, keeping conversations subdued and refraining from any inappropriate or lighthearted remarks. It's also considerate to offer condolences to the bereaved family, expressing your sympathy and support. Take your cues from those around you, and if you're uncertain, follow their lead.

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BridportSpectacular · 27/06/2023 13:39

You don’t say hold old you are. dh’s son died in his 20s which meant that a lot of the mourners were quite young and , most, fortunately, hadn’t been to many if any funerals. The wake was filled with young people and life which was really wonderful to see.

echoing everyone else about don’t sit at front, make sure you join the right funeral, crematoriums can be a bit conveyor line…

do say something to the family.

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