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Original poster

Another Parking thread.

60 replies

0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 22:51

I live on the 1st floor of a house which has been converted to flats.

There are two flats downstairs, each with their own entrances. We don’t share anything. We even have our own gardens. Own bins etc. The drive way has 3 parking spots. Each flat has its own spot. My entrance is the back of the house so I’ve had the same parking spot for 3 years.

A new couple have moved in last week and I bumped into them outside so just mentioned gardens, bins and parking spot just in conversation. They parked in the spot allocated to their flat (middle bay) the first 3 days and from day 4 have parked in my spot. My car is a lot bigger than theirs so the bay I’ve been allocated suits my car better because when I park in the middle bay, it is very very tight.

At first I thought it may have been an oversight and didn’t want to be petty, so I left it. Yesterday they had parked in my allocated spot so badly, I couldn’t fit my car in the middle bay, so had to park on the road blocking everyone in.
I made sure I was up early to move it incase anyone needed to get in.

Today I’ve come home and they have some guests over who has parked on the drive. Instead of blocking them in I’ve parked a road away.

AIBU? What do I do?

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HangOnToYourself · 17/07/2022 22:54

You need to have a chat with them and be clear it is your spot. Is the spot allocated on the deeds or is this an informal arrangement that has formed over the years?

Whiskeypowers · 17/07/2022 22:56

Is your specific space legally allocated to your flat?
Are the properties rented ?

Blanchedsocks · 17/07/2022 22:57

Drawing?

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0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 22:58

It’s not on the deeds. Just an informal arrangement. The original couple have had their same spot for 3 years, I’ve had mine and the flat in which this couple have moved into, the previous tenants had the middle spot.

when I initially met this couple on moving day they happily parked in the middle spot and in conversation I did mention my spot and the other couples spot and they were fine with it. And since day 4 have decided they weren’t happy with the middle spot.

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Original poster
0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 22:59

It’s a drive outside a house with 3 bays.

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FurAndFeathers · 17/07/2022 22:59

Blanchedsocks · 17/07/2022 22:57

Drawing?

which part of them parking in an allocated parking spot requires a drawing to make it comprehensible ?

Original poster
0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 22:59

The flats are all rented. Spots haven’t been allocated legally.

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BlackbirdsSinging · 17/07/2022 23:01

I’m afraid it’s not really your spot - it’s the one you like parking in but it’s not allocated to you so they can park there. Their guests can’t though, unless they give up their own spot.

Northernlurker · 17/07/2022 23:02

They are entitled to park there then. If you don't want them to you need to ask them. But be clear you know you cannot oblige them to park where you want.
Fair enough to say no guest parking though.

HangOnToYourself · 17/07/2022 23:03

If it's an informal arrangement I'm not sure you can claim it as yours. Best you can probably do is to try and find out why they prefer the bay you park in and discuss it with them (explaining you find it difficult to park in the middle bay).

sandie412 · 17/07/2022 23:03

The spot allocation is informal so Ywbu to challenge them on that. Parking over the line so that another spot isn't useable or taking more than one spot is U and you should say something about that. If everyone parks within the lines you just need to accept they don't recognise your previous informal arrangement and take whatever space is available.

HangOnToYourself · 17/07/2022 23:04

But if guests park there again they need to move

Rogue1001MNer · 17/07/2022 23:04

Yeah, I'm not sure there's much you can do, unfortunately in this scenario.

You could've blocked the visitors, though

Sweatinglikeabitch · 17/07/2022 23:05

Go talk to them, explain that they need to leave enough space when parking so that they're only using one bay and not have guests in the bays as they only have one allocated to them. If they do it again I'd contact your landlord. I don't think, since there's no spot allocation, that you can reserve your spot. But you can get it made clear that they need to park in such a way to allow all three residents to park which includes not having guests park on the driveway. They will have one parking allocation in their rental agreement, they can't use two.

Clymene · 17/07/2022 23:06

Oh that's a shame that is not your allocated space. I don't suppose there's much you can do although it's not conducive to good neighbourly relations!

Bu you absolutely can do something about the bad parking and their friends parking there. them you couldn't park yesterday because they hadn't left you space. Tell them that there is a single space per flat - visors park elsewhere.

And if they park badly or let their mates park on the drive, block them in. Don't skulk off trying not to inconvenience them.

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0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 23:07

Thank you for your responses. I didn’t want to be petty and start something with people who have just moved in over a parking spot. I’ve had no problems with the other tenants, nor have they ever had their guests park on the drive so didn’t know what was the correct approach, if any.

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AntiHop · 17/07/2022 23:09

Yabu. It's not your spot. Perhaps you came across as a total arse when you told them it's "your spot" so they parked there to spite you?

What's the official status of the spaces? Is it a private car park? We need to know this before deciding if their visitors are bu for parking there

Dic · 17/07/2022 23:09

You've got no leg to stand on. They prefer your spot and can park where they like.

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0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 23:11

@AntiHop i don’t think I was being a total arse. It’s a drive with 3 parking bays infront if the house. There are 3 flats and each flat has 1 spot.

The first couple have their spot and have used the same spot for 3 years, and same with me. I didn’t think I was being rude when I mentioned it. They happily parked in the middle bay for a few days and then suddenly decided they didn’t wish to anymore.

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KatherineofGaunt · 17/07/2022 23:14

Can't do much about which spot (except park there yourself when it's empty) but definitely knock on their door every time they are preventing you from parking, whether it's by bad parking or having visitors park in your spot. That's not being petty, that's just not being a walkover.

JacquelineCarlyle · 17/07/2022 23:19

Completely agree with @KatherineofGaunt

VeniVidiWeeWee · 17/07/2022 23:20

0hs0s0rry · 17/07/2022 23:11

@AntiHop i don’t think I was being a total arse. It’s a drive with 3 parking bays infront if the house. There are 3 flats and each flat has 1 spot.

The first couple have their spot and have used the same spot for 3 years, and same with me. I didn’t think I was being rude when I mentioned it. They happily parked in the middle bay for a few days and then suddenly decided they didn’t wish to anymore.

But if it's not on the lease, how do you know this?

PeppaPigIsAnnoying · 17/07/2022 23:26

It's not on the deeds

It's just an informal arrangement

Thread closed

StoneofDestiny · 17/07/2022 23:30

Can't do much about which spot (except park there yourself when it's empty) but definitely knock on their door every time they are preventing you from parking, whether it's by bad parking or having visitors park in your spot. That's not being petty, that's just not being a walkover

this exactly

VeniVidiWeeWee · 17/07/2022 23:36

StoneofDestiny · 17/07/2022 23:30

Can't do much about which spot (except park there yourself when it's empty) but definitely knock on their door every time they are preventing you from parking, whether it's by bad parking or having visitors park in your spot. That's not being petty, that's just not being a walkover

this exactly

If it's not on the lease they don't have "a spot".