Who should have the ticket?

[Footballmatchdilemma]

Some time ago, a my husband and I bought some tickets to a football match with my friend A and her DH.In the time between buying the tickets and the match day, A’sbrother announced his wedding day to be the same day as the match.

So my friend, A, asked around to see if anyone would like the match tickets. A mutual friend of A and me, B, agreed to take a ticket. A put 3 tickets in the post, 2 too me and my DH and one to B. B’s ticket arrives at her house. My tickets did not.

B’s sister then decided she would to take the 4th ticket, so A puts another one in the post to Bs house. It arrives no problem. Meanwhile, my tickets were still lost in the post.

So this is my dilemma. I feel like B should have offered me the 4th ticket (my DH wasn’t bothered about going so he didn’t mind losing out) rather than giving it to her sister. Although the ticket had sort of been earmarked for the sister, I felt it should have been mine as I was planning to go long before B was involved.

So AIBU?
yes. B had 2 tickets at her disposal and could have done as she liked with them

no. you should have had the ticket and had a great time at the match with B

Surely you can speak to the club and tell them the seat numbers, and tell them that they have gone missing in the post. Your friend (A) will have the credit card receipt and the club will sort it out so that you all go.

Unfortunately the event has been and gone (and there were no seat numbers or that would have been a good plan!)

The tickets still would have been numbered. She would have her proof of purchase for them. They could possibly have been reissued.

You're adults. Didnt you think of at least asking the venue?

Then let it go, for Christ's sake!

What's it matter once it's over and done with?

Ok ok, no need to shout!

It’s possible I didn’t try hard enough to get the original tickets, but that’s not the point really. I guess I feel hurt and a bit pissed off that B didn’t think I should have had the ticket. We’re close friends and would have had a great time. And yes, I did ask her if I could have it but she said her sister really wanted to go.

I think it was fair enough B might not have wanted to go with you

B is a close friend of mine.

Did a reimburse you for the loss of tickets?

No, but it wasn’t As fault. I guess she could have sent them registered post or something but I don’t blame her.

Who bought the tickets. In your op you say your husband bought them all but if A had all the tickets it sounds like she bought them?

You’re right, that wasn’t clear. I meant we all as a group decided to go, but A was the one who actually purchased the tix

Did you pay anything?

Yes, the full price of the two tickets that were lost in the post, paid to A

Why on earth would you nit have asked about getting duplicates if you'd paid for them? Yabu.

I totally understand I should have thought about how to get hold of the original ticket but the time for that is passed. My question is am I unreasonable to be pissed off with friend B! Because I am, and I don’t want to be…but I am.

B is probably annoyed you expected a third ticket instead of trying to get duplicates of the ones that got lost.

Let’s assume it didn’t cross B’s mind (as it didn’t cross mine and she didn’t suggest it).

I think you just have to accept that they were never your tickets. If you and your friend had bought and paid separately and you’d lost yours you surely wouldn’t expect her to give you another one. I think the only way B should give you one is if she’d been responsible for sending them and they’d got lost, then she might feel guilty. It wasn’t Bs fault A didn’t send them recorded delivery.

It's hard to comment as it makes no sense that you all just accepted the tickets were lost, rather than contacting the club to get them reissued. If I'd been B I'd have assumed you weren't that bothered.

Also did B pay for the tickets? Were you willing to pay B for one?

She did pay but I would have paid her for one

You are unreasonable here.

You should have either tried to get the tickets reiisued
Or
Get a to pay you back as she is the one to blame for the tickets being lost in post.

It's not too late to speak to A for her to refund you. She should have send it registered post/courier, or claimed back from post office. The situation was not your fault so why should you be out of pocket

No, read it again. Op says 3 tickets in the post - 2 to her and 1 to B.

Your tickets being lost doesn't mean you now somehow own A's tickets. A paid for those tickets and gave them to B who did what they wanted with them.

You couldn't be bothered to chase up the lost ticket situation, but then want other people to make it right?

The whole situation of A putting tickets in unregistered post was a bad idea! Next time pay for registered delivery?