Who should have the ticket?

[Footballmatchdilemma]

Some time ago, a my husband and I bought some tickets to a football match with my friend A and her DH.In the time between buying the tickets and the match day, A’sbrother announced his wedding day to be the same day as the match.

So my friend, A, asked around to see if anyone would like the match tickets. A mutual friend of A and me, B, agreed to take a ticket. A put 3 tickets in the post, 2 too me and my DH and one to B. B’s ticket arrives at her house. My tickets did not.

B’s sister then decided she would to take the 4th ticket, so A puts another one in the post to Bs house. It arrives no problem. Meanwhile, my tickets were still lost in the post.

So this is my dilemma. I feel like B should have offered me the 4th ticket (my DH wasn’t bothered about going so he didn’t mind losing out) rather than giving it to her sister. Although the ticket had sort of been earmarked for the sister, I felt it should have been mine as I was planning to go long before B was involved.

So AIBU?
yes. B had 2 tickets at her disposal and could have done as she liked with them

no. you should have had the ticket and had a great time at the match with B

The point every one is making is you are unreasonable because four tickets were purchased so four people should have gone.

it’s not B’s problem that your ticket went missing. A should have contacted the club and cancelled the original ticket as you have no idea where it is and actually could have been used for touts (ok from the sound of it was a small enough club that touting probably isn’t a problem but the principle).

i really don’t understand why you think B should offer you a ticket. A and yourself should have sorted out with the club

When your tickets got lost in the post, the 4th ticket wasn’t available. Your reaction to a fixable situation was not to bother. From A’s point of view you weren’t overly bothered about going. She may have also felt awkward about asking you to pay for a ticket twice. She may have wrongly assumed you weren’t so interested to go without your husband. She may have though her sister would rather go with her friend than with you, and chose her sister’s feelings over you.

I expect the deciding factor was that she could sell her ticket to sister’s friend, whereas asking you for not whr

Once A realised the tickets were lost, she should have contacted the club to cancel them and get them reissued.

The fact that she didn't do that and you didn't bother asking her to to isn't B's fault. B decided to take their sister which they're perfectly entitled to do.

You should have chased the tickets up if you wanted to go so badly, not expect to someone else's ticket 🤷🏻‍♀️

Asking you for money would have been awkward given that the lost ticket was at least partly her fault.

I can see the AIBU now… “My friend is expecting me to buy her spare ticket when she lost the one I’d already paid for - AIBU to expect it for free?”

yabvvu

As far as A was concerned you had two tickets - they just hadn't arrived yet....

You and A should have chased up to get replacement tickets - but it is too late now and really that was the only things you and A did wrong

yabu because if you had just got replacement tickets none of this would be an issue
Honestly why would you just leave it? Yabu just for being so blasé about missing tickets if you were that bothered about going!