Lazy husband seriously pissed off wife

[Idiotintraining]

I am so annoyed.

Everytime I ask husband to do something it's always no.

Can you put this washing outside. No
Can you play with the kids. No
Can you wash up. No

He won't do anything. He dosent have a job. He does his joint business accounts a few times a week for an hour.

Everything is left to me to clean. I have been out 3 days this week twice with the kids. Each for around 4 to 6 hours. I came home and all be had done all day was sit and watch Boris Johnsons soon to be predossers.

He sits down in the evening and begs me to get him a drink as he is too lazy to to do himself. So I have to put down all I am doing and do it. Its a one way thing he dosent do it for me. I asked him to hang his washing up three days ago and it's still there.

He is now sat watching cricket.

I am not saying I'm amazing as I sit down and sleep sometimes (medical condition). I just want a bit of help and then we could both do things

Aibu

He sounds like a waste of space

Unless there is a back story of abusive or intimidating behaviour for him why on earth do you stop what you’re doing and get him a drink? Or do anything else at all for him? If he can’t be bothered to get himself a drink he goes thirsty, if he can’t be bothered to sort his washing he has to wear dirty clothes and if he can’t help with the washing up he doesn’t get fed, unless he cooks for himself surely?

Blimey think I'd being ending things.

Unless he has health conditions which prevents him working or even lifting a finger to do anything YANBU. I couldn’t tolerate having the piss taken out of me like this.

Does he do much in the way of childcare?

Why are you getting him a drink?

Leave him. You’re obviously unhappy

Why are you with him

Why did you have kids with him?

You dont have to do anything he asks. Say no.

Say you want a divorce while you're at it.

Where did you find this idiot and why on earth did you marry him? Luckily, there's a fix for that.

I take it he's a billionaire with a diamond studded dick yes?

Because otherwise...?

LTB!

My health conditions not his

Why are you with this “man”?

Not helping around the house nor helping bring home the bacon that is not a partner that is an additional child!

I’d be inclined to get his drink in a sippy cup and hand it to him if he is going to act like a toddler he can be treated like one!

Why doesn't he work?

What is the point in him? Why on earth would you live with someone like this? What are your options?

What would happen if you say "no" to getting him a drink and what does he say when you ask him why he thinks he deserves to do fuck all and make you do every single thing?

Can't believe you've stayed with such a waste of space long enough to have one child, let alone more.
Or was he previously industrious, fun to be with, concerned about your welfare, contributing equally...?

Why? Just why do some women put up with this shite?

This is laughable. What a mug you are letting him take you for.

Do you ever challenge him?

WTF do you mean no? Do it now.

Was he a lazy fucker when you met him?

Read the other thread about shitty men..

Leave the useless bastard. But if you aren't going to do that, stop doing anything for him, and use the word no when he asks.

I can't believe that in 2022 you drop everything to get your lazy twat of a husband a drink whenever he asks

YABU inasmuch as you don't have to put up with this. I don't mean to be critical, but why do you let him get away with this? Go on strike. Cook only for yourself and your children. Refuse to wash his clothes, etc, until he mends his ways.

I seriously wish I knew. It's astonishing in 2022.

I'm trying hard to understand why you haven't kicked him out of the house? You say you have a health problem but he does absolutely nothing to help that in any way. What's the point of him?