Lazy husband seriously pissed off wife

[Idiotintraining]

I am so annoyed.

Everytime I ask husband to do something it's always no.

Can you put this washing outside. No
Can you play with the kids. No
Can you wash up. No

He won't do anything. He dosent have a job. He does his joint business accounts a few times a week for an hour.

Everything is left to me to clean. I have been out 3 days this week twice with the kids. Each for around 4 to 6 hours. I came home and all be had done all day was sit and watch Boris Johnsons soon to be predossers.

He sits down in the evening and begs me to get him a drink as he is too lazy to to do himself. So I have to put down all I am doing and do it. Its a one way thing he dosent do it for me. I asked him to hang his washing up three days ago and it's still there.

He is now sat watching cricket.

I am not saying I'm amazing as I sit down and sleep sometimes (medical condition). I just want a bit of help and then we could both do things

Aibu

Why do some women put up with this shit.

I don't even feel bad for you tbh, people treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated.

What's the business if he doesn't have a job? And does it bring in a decent living? Because if not, then what on earth is he actually contributing and why are you putting up with it?

I think you already know you need to LTB but you want MN to help rationalise it for you? Because you absolutely need to leave, you deserve better.

I don't even feel bad for you tbh, people treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated

yeah tbh this is how I feel. You reap what you sew.

Sew?! Sow

Sounds like you're a single mum with a useless lodger in your house. You should fix that.

So I have to put down all I am doing and do it.

It’s up to you, isn’t it.

Why do you put down what you’re doing to get him a drink? He just says no to anything you ask? So stop doing anything at all for him, you’d be mad to carry on being his slave. Don’t do his washing/cooking, anything. Why are you doing everything?

He sits down in the evening and begs me to get him a drink as he is too lazy to to do himself. So I have to put down all I am doing and do it.

No you don't! Why in the name of all that's holy would you feel you need to do this when he does absolutely sod all for you?! He is taking you for a total mug! Stop being such a doormat and tell him to shape up or ship out.

Out of curiosity op, did your mum used to serve your dad like this?

He doesn't work. Why?

What would happen if you refused to get him a drink?

I'm going to help you by linking the following:

www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce

Rather than get him a drink, next time why don't you use the time to start kicking off the process?

In the meantime, he doesn't move, he doesn't eat/drink - simple.