Friend cancelling plans because she's "hungover" aibu to be annoyed?

[circleinthesandd]

Thursday my friend rang me and asked me if I was free Saturday.
To go out for lunch /cocktails and the beach ..I said yes.
Treated myself to a new dress.
Last night my friend messaged saying she was in the garden.
Then she messages saying she changed her mind and was going to the pub -I know when she goes out she gets ridiculously drunk so I was worried she would cancel.
This morning I get up and get dressed.
Text her ...and no reply
5 minutes ago -sorry I'm not going out today too hungover.
Aibu to be annoyed?

I’d be annoyed too, sorry OP. Anyone else you could make plans with?

I'd be annoyed but must confess to having done that .

I'm just going to sunbathe in the garden.
Got a nice day out with partner Tomorrow so it's not too bad I guess

If that was her apology word for word then I'm not surprised you're pissed off. It won't be the same obviously, but would you just go out yourself?

Flakiness drives me mad. YNBU

YANBU.

It’s entirely possible to go for a drink without getting plastered. She didn’t prioritise you.

YANBU

I hate this. You're not an important friend/person to her. It's that simple.

If she was ill I would be totally fine with
It's the fact it's self inflicted and she chose to just ditch me

Yes I would be really annoyed by this too. I’d just stop arranging things with her if she is so flaky.

This would piss me off.

I know it's childish but the next time she wants to meet up, I'd ditch on her. Make her think that you're going to go, then have other plans that you forgot about and say "Oops. Sorry can't go" or similar.

I honestly think that people like the OP's 'friend' will carry on doing things the way they get away with because no one challenges them on their behaviour.

I do hope @circleinthesandd that you get to wear your new dress tomorrow and wear it well!!!

Oh I will wear it tomorrow and make sure I send her a pic of my cocktails ha ha
I know it's not the end of the world ..but even if I was hungover I wouldn't drop someone in it just for a hangover.

I agree with you
Tell us about your new dress, I love a nice frock

This is the dress
We are on the coast so it's only around 21degrees ...if I was down south I think the sleeves would of been too much

Sorry she let you down. Either she's really flaky or she has a drink problem (or both).

I wouldn't do the same thing to her, but the next time she suggests an arrangement, I would say frankly that you'd rather not as she keeps letting you down. Or if you don't want to do that, only make arrangements with her if they also include other people, so that you won't be left high and dry if she cancels.

I’d be really irritated. I’ve had friends like this in the past and have allowed the friendships to drift. I didn’t mind so much when it was just me, but when it got to letting my kids down too it simply wasn’t worth the effort. I hate flakiness and lack of consideration.

People on this site have very odd friends.

hard being friends with alcoholics.

If it’s a common issue with her then just don’t bother arranging things. It’s not worth it.

Very very rude, you don't make arrangements to meet a pal and go on the piss the night before and then bail because you are hanging together.

It's a shame because it's such a nice day but never mind
I've ended up in the garden with a twister lolly and a book
Least I don't have to worry about my wobbly bits out here ha

I would have zero interest in having a waster for a friend like that.

Don't make arrangements with her again, not one on one's where you allow her to mess with your day.

The dress is really gorgeous.

Love that dress. My (adult) DD has it and it looks stunning

She rang me saying how she felt guilty (as she's sunbathing in garden )

Yeah, that’s shit, especially as she invited you in the first place. I’d have struggled through my hangover even if I felt like death.

To be honest I wouldn't ever make plans with her again.

I wouldn't give my time to someone who was so flippant with arrangements.